Just read this thread, @Barnfred 55 I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even comprehend what you’re going through. Stay strong, my thoughts are with you
Toast
Player Valuation: £80m
Mate.
I live in Southampton.
ANY help I can offer you, and I mean ANY, just ask.
Even just a bevvie and a chat ?
My lad could pick you up etc.
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Zezti
Player Valuation: £70m
My masters dissertation is due on Tuesday and I'm a good 8000 words short. I'm coming to terms with the fact I'm just not capable of doing it. The stress and anxiety is utterly crushing. I've felt nothing like this before and I'm struggling to deal with it. I'm pacing around, my heart is pounding and just can't keep still. My family have tried to motivate and encourage me but I'm at a total loss. The minimum word count is 13,500 and I'm doubtful I can even get close to 10,000. I simply don't know what I'm doing. I've already received the maximum allowable extension.
I absolutely hate this. Every second of it. I'm angry, sad, all the feelings.
The thing is, I know whatever I submit will fail. I've failed every step of this project - the topic just doesn't have the potential. The anxiety is worse knowing I'm gonna receive that fail. I'm autistic and during my undergrad I had a tutor that helped me schedule and deal with big work loads but I guess because of the pandemic there's been none of that kind of support. Thinking about making a complaint, too.
I absolutely hate this. Every second of it. I'm angry, sad, all the feelings.
The thing is, I know whatever I submit will fail. I've failed every step of this project - the topic just doesn't have the potential. The anxiety is worse knowing I'm gonna receive that fail. I'm autistic and during my undergrad I had a tutor that helped me schedule and deal with big work loads but I guess because of the pandemic there's been none of that kind of support. Thinking about making a complaint, too.
My eldest lad is autistic. It has always helped me as much as him when I remind him we all fail every day. It's a miserable thing but truly it is how we learn our limitations and our strengths. If you truly are not capable of completing your master's thesis, in a way it may be liberating to know this. Perhaps what you are studying isn't your calling and, again, perhaps this is life telling you to continue seeking out what you are meant to do. Rather than a crushing thing, might it be freeing?
Good on you for reaching out. It's one of the most difficult things for my lad to do. Keep at it however you best see fit. This is clearly a difficult time but never, ever give up on yourself. You are important.
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Barnfred 55
Player Valuation: £80m
Cheers mate. Thanks for the offer and the PM. It really is much appreciated and I would probably have taken you up on your offer. As it is,by chance, one of my friends from Cornwall dropped off his boat at Southampton marina for the winter. He's going to pick up my car today pick me up then we'll spend the day on his boat. He's then going to hang around and take me home to Cornwall when I'm finished here. It's a weight off my mind when I have so much else going on in there
Thanks to everybody else for the kind words. They really help guys
Gwladysover
Player Valuation: £35m
Never, ever think that you are a “failure”, you have tried and that is the main thing. As BlueTX has said we all fail every day, that is how we learn. You say you have received no support during your studies so the fact that you have produced what you have whilst struggling is an achievement in itself. Studies are important but not at the cost of your mental health and well-being, so don’t be too hard on yourself. ?
I had a mate years ago, who just couldn`t pass the 4th year of his engineering degree, no matter how hard he studied.
It drove him to the point of a nervous breakdown.
After he failed it the second time, he admitted to himself that the stress of it all was making him ill, ruining his life and it wasn`t meant to be.
Prior to his degree, he`d also trained as a painter and decorator, so he went back to that, with the intention of doing it short term, whilst he sorted his head out.
Fast forward many years and he`s a successful painter and decorator, happily married to a girl he met, whilst working on her house and has kids with her.
If he`d never failed those exam, he wouldn`t be living the happy life he has now mate.
I`m not saying this applies to you, but just using it as an example, as to how when one door shuts, sometimes other doors open and all is not lost.
Bloody hell mate I’m so sorry for your loss.
Of course you’re going to be bewildered. There’s no rush to get something like this processed. Deal with it in your own time. Of course this thread is always here if you need to vent, and if you want to tell us a little bit about her and regale us with a tale or two that’d be cool also.
You’re going through stuff and others are going through their own stuff. There’s never any need to compare or contrast.
If you need to talk on here, talk. There’s enough contributors that nobody’s problems are ever going to go unheard. Please don’t diminish issues that could cause you real harm if you keep them bottled up.
Really sorry to hear that mate, had my dad's funeral a couple of days ago so I, like a good few in here no doubt, can totally empathise with you and how much you're suffering. It's utterly heartbreaking watching it happen but I found comfort in the words of fellow blues in this thread, being with family and friends and also just taking some solitude to try to deal with it.
It's a deeply personal thing you're going through, the only advice I can give you is to do what works for you mate.
It helped me mate, I'm so sorry for you and your loss.
Oh I'm so sorry. Such an awful thing to happen to you. Much love x
Harryflashman
Player Valuation: £50m
Just seen this so sorry for your loss mate , genuinely don’t know what to say but felt compelled to reply .
So sorry about this. Focus on the happy times with your Dad. It will be tough because it's your Dad. Sending love x
Appreciate all your responses and replies.
You're a good bunch of people.
You're a good bunch of people.
