Separated and ultimately divorced my wife 2 years ago. It was her decision to end the marriage. I have two children but my eldest daughter barely speaks to me or my family. Had counselling last year, but despite acting on their advice, I’m no further on with a reconciliation. It’s obvious I’ve been blamed for the break up, but nothing could be further from the truth. I had to move out of the family home, we had built up over 20 years and although my new house isn’t too shabby, it’s nothing compared what I was used to. Financially I can’t compete with my ex, she has a new fella, take the children on holidays, something I can’t afford to do anymore. It really is getting me down. I am a brilliant dad, in my exes words, and it is tearing me apart that one of my kids I idolise, no longer has any interest in me. I wondering if anyone else has been through similar in a separation and would welcome any advice.
Don't despair ,I built my own house 200sq.m.we both had cars ,we went on holidays ,I sent my kids to private school because I thought it would give them a better chance .
It seems I might have been right as they are doing well but the youngest boy ,who I fussed over more because my ex gave it all to the eldest ,has not spoken to me in 20 years .It breaks my heart although I have given up hope realistically .
I took my ex.to court to sell the house and although she lived there alone the judge said "she has no money to give you and I am not making her sell " so I had nothing .
I met a woman and moved to Finland ,when I was on route I realised I had little in the bank and worst of all I had no keys .
My car was on the boat to Finland but other than that I had no keys -that was a terrible feeling at 50 years of age to have basically nothing .I had worked mostly seven day weeks to pay for everything and I had nothing .
But I had won the lottery without knowing ,I had met the most wonderful person and one who has been my best ever friend ,who lives to make my life better .
As I said my youngest "hates me " as he drives around in his Porsche -I could tell him about his mother but what would that do ?
My eldest son and his family come over to see me and my daughter has visited too.
Oh I moved into a 50sq.m. apartment when I arrived but I didn't miss the big house .
Don't despair as I said because there is a big shining light at the end of the tunnel ,I know as that is where I ended up.
I still have no money to talk about ,I live on less than the state pension but I have a great life and you can too.