Dave, I have some positive news ?
I messaged Simon and he promptly replied. He has suggested this framework as an initial programme to help and asks that we try and help you follow these steps:
- Make sure you’re safe. Make sure that you block your Kopite groomer’s number and social media accounts, getting the mods involved, or as a last resort, you may even have to consider moving to another forum.
- Inform and protect your GOT friends. A lot of people being groomed by Kopites tell their friends about their experience, but many keep it a secret or think it’s embarrassing. In reality, you don’t always need to explain exactly why you became so obsessive about a Liverpool legend but you can still let other posters know in order to keep them safe and bring awareness.
- Talk it out. Halewoodblue is a very trusted and emotionally mature friend, to who you can just let it all out. That said I am here if you would prefer to PM me?
- Stop romanticizing about Benitez. Since Kopite grooming is simply emotional manipulation, you may feel a range of emotions including a desire to go on a tour of Anfield and so forth. This is normal but can be dangerous since if these feelings are not stopped you are likely to be easily groomed again and could end up loving Klopp.
- Find healthy relationships and cultivate them. It is apparent that you are losing contact with true Evertonians. It’s important to identify the true blues of GOT, those that understand that James is our best player and avoid toxic relationships such as foreverblert.
- Take away the Benitez love fest and remember that you are an Evertonian, just like James Rodriguez. Kopite groomers eventually leave the groomed person addicted to singing you’ll never walk alone and collecting signed pictures of Jamie Carragher. It can be important to get rid of these things and help the healing process. If you’re left dependent on singing you’ll never walk alone, get help from therapists or hotlines.
- Reclaim your personality and traits. Some people who have been groomed by Kopites feel “tainted” when they realise that they have had a false sense of feeling in love with Benitez. Remember your deep hatred for all things red. Let yourself move beyond this Benitez obsession and acknowledge that you have a lot of great traits and are a blue.
God bless you, mate.