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degsy said:
(her) Action and (your) Re-action, mate.
If you eventually give in, or concede some ground it proves that tantrums work.
Boundaries and consequences.

For historical reference only and not that I condone that sort of thing at all...
but back in the day you used to get told if you keep on screaming for nothing you'll get something to scream for...usually involving a couple of slaps around the back of the legs ?


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do the hard miles when they are young, don't treat bad behaviour as Degsy says fora short term quick fix, it is storing problems for when they are older and better able to construct and argument back. My daughter is same age as next door's daughter, we were a bit mean to my daughter when she was young, pretty strict, but now she's a great kid, really mature and sensible at 13. The girl next door rules the house and is a nightmare.
 
Blue 1 said:
My son (8) also does this, it kills me. Its like his self-esteem is rock bottom, and I don't know where it somes from because he's so loved and he's a great kid. He just struggles with big emotions and falls out with his friends a lot because of it. It seems there are loads of kids his age with problems because of the social development they missed because of the pandemic. His school is really struggling with it.
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I can't really blame that as he only started school last year. I actually wonder if a combination of technology and dare i say it a lack of discipline (i got a hiding if i stepped out of line and it it did me no harm) has anything to do with this sort of stuff. I'm probably wrong but these are probably the 2 main changes from when i grew up in the late 80's and early 90's, we didn't have ipads, youtube, netflix etc and we definitely got disciplined more than todays kids do at home and school.
 
Tree13 said:
Sounds familiar.

My personal favourite so far has been the fact that neither sister-in-law can do anything else at all now "because the baby needs me"... And so my brothers-in-law get on with their day jobs and then do all the cooking and housework, only to then get criticised for "not showing any interest in parenting".

Then they attempt to get involved in parenting, only to be scolded mercilessly (in front of other family members) for "doing it wrong".

Madness. Although to be fair that's not the children's fault.
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Another favourite of mine is how a heap of my mates have just abandoned all the normal stuff they used to do like go out for dinner cos they put their kids to sleep for the night at about 3 in the afternoon and stopped going to the footy and cricket because it's just too difficult apparently. We took our young bloke to games at Cronulla from about 6 weeks old, even took him to the Formula 1 in Melbourne before he was even 2.

Winds me up that stuff lol
 

arch stanton said:
do the hard miles when they are young, don't treat bad behaviour as Degsy says fora short term quick fix, it is storing problems for when they are older and better able to construct and argument back. My daughter is same age as next door's daughter, we were a bit mean to my daughter when she was young, pretty strict, but now she's a great kid, really mature and sensible at 13. The girl next door rules the house and is a nightmare.
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Hi arch hope you are well tonight mate.
 
Tree13 said:
Sounds familiar.

My personal favourite so far has been the fact that neither sister-in-law can do anything else at all now "because the baby needs me"... And so my brothers-in-law get on with their day jobs and then do all the cooking and housework, only to then get criticised for "not showing any interest in parenting".

Then they attempt to get involved in parenting, only to be scolded mercilessly (in front of other family members) for "doing it wrong".

Madness. Although to be fair that's not the children's fault.
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Whatever you do, don't mention 'baby brain', you'll have clarkson and morgan and the rest of the dementors writing hate pieces about you egging the public on for violence.

On mum's side, especially first time, the realisation of full mum responsibility can be rather daunting, this little life relies on me solely and the gravity of that expectation plus mums own self expectation can be a heavy burden (am I doing this right, are they judging me, is my baby eating enough, sleeping enough, developing, what am I doing wrong... etc the list is unmeasurable...)
The fun bit comes a bit later, "I don't want jnr to grow up weird cos he/she is a single child, lets have at least another..." then all over, and school, and the older one not liking the littler one... Imagine balancing all this and a career and getting back in shape after losing the baby weight, and and and....

Lifelong ordeal being a parent, never stop the worry.
 

carlos21 said:
Well done mate what you upto today.
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spent the day sorting some personal stuff out, handsome workmen in doing some stuff on the house and drinking all of our sugar, then took the dogs for a ling walk.Nothing exciting. Hoping to clean the car tomorrow, doesnt get more exciting than that. You been on your games box?
 
cronullasharks said:
I can't really blame that as he only started school last year. I actually wonder if a combination of technology and dare i say it a lack of discipline (i got a hiding if i stepped out of line and it it did me no harm) has anything to do with this sort of stuff. I'm probably wrong but these are probably the 2 main changes from when i grew up in the late 80's and early 90's, we didn't have ipads, youtube, netflix etc and we definitely got disciplined more than todays kids do at home and school.
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I don't think it's lack of discipline, but I do wonder about the youtube, Netflix, Roblox, Minecraft etc. They don't seem to make them happy.

He's always been like it, even since he was pre-vocal though. Used to bang his head on the floor when he got frustrated. Would scream and scream and scream when you put him down. Still wakes in the night, every night. It's very tough.
 

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