ForeverBlue92
Player Valuation: £80m
Any issues in particular causing your stress mate? Been a tough year like but looks like we are getting out of it thankfully!
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Any issues in particular causing your stress mate? Been a tough year like but looks like we are getting out of it thankfully!
Sennott Street
Player Valuation: £2.5m
Can't cope with job stress and COVID isolation due to my depression and anxiety. Currently unemployed and catastrophizing about my future.
There's plenty of things to feel anxious about, there's more than one on here that can relate but won't be ready to speak up yet.
Is there any practical steps the collective power of GOT can do for you?
If I can help in any way message me or hit the thread.
Might sound odd, but that you know you are catastrophizing is a good thing. Worries are worries and grounded in reality, but its never that bad.
What do you do work wise normally?
This. @Sennott Street
The fact you are talking about it is a step in the right direction.
Have been at the bottom of the barrel myself in the past. Skint, jobless, in debt & full of despair.
It can help to try and break down your larger problems into smaller obstacles and concentrate on them.
It's not an easy rut to get out of overall for sure, but it only takes a couple of small victories to lift your spirits again and get yourself on a roll.
Sennott Street
Player Valuation: £2.5m
I work in Finance/Accounting.
Okay, not an area I'm too hot on either in relation the jobs market. It's one of those areas that's always needed though, at least unless you do something madly niche.
ForeverBlue92
Player Valuation: £80m
Its why I went self employed mate I used to hate my old job wanted to chin half my colleagues lol keep your chin up lad you'll work through it, just take some time out to reflect no job is worth being stressed.
I've literally fallen into most things in life without planning / expecting it (job, kid, marriage) and every one has been better than anything I could have planned in advance which I would have likely ballsed up lol so dont be stressing you'll find something out the blue and look back and think thank christ im not doing that job again!
Sennott Street
Player Valuation: £2.5m
Thank you
Sorry to hear about your current situation buddy but all things are transient and you’ll come out the other side stronger for it, I’m sure. Just keep communication open here in the meantime, if it helps.
Lots of good folks here, as you’ve probably guessed by now. (You’ve been here 7 years
)
You mentioned in the boss photos that you’re near Boston, how did you find your way to the mighty Blues? Cos you’re in it for life now, as you know
Lots of good folks here, as you’ve probably guessed by now. (You’ve been here 7 years
)You mentioned in the boss photos that you’re near Boston, how did you find your way to the mighty Blues? Cos you’re in it for life now, as you know
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ForeverBlue92
Player Valuation: £80m
No worries mate anytime - im a very happy go lucky type of person so its hard for me sometimes to read and be able to personally relate to peoples problems but a few years back when I found out my missus was pregnant I was absolutely terrified (I've always been a commitment phobe and never wanted to settle down or have kids which probably goes back to my childhood) and whilst it sounds probably petty/minor to most it honestly felt like my world was coming down around me at that time I just didnt feel ready whatsoever at a time everyone around me was over the moon with the news.
But fast forward near 6 years and im still going strong with a little sod to take down to Goodison to share the misery of supporting Everton lol moral of the story is the moments in life that you feel are the most darkest in hindsight turn out to be the start of better times.
So my mother passed away about 4 years ago shortly. She left us her house in a REALLY affluent area. 3 of us decided we wanted to sell, one wanted to keep. He offered pretty much what it sold for and my sister/the executor of the estate refused to sell him the house because she and he have a massive dislike towards one another.
Fast forward to recent. I don't talk to anyone in my family anymore. Nobody talks to anyone apparently. My mother wanted us to be comfortable, of that I am sure. But I am even more certain she didn't want "this". I had my birthday about a month ago and didn't get a call or text from anyone in my family.
Got a check for a portion of the house, which is nice. But I really would rather my mother for the last 4 years and nothing at all. Because it sucks not having a family after losing your mother.
Just wanted to vent..
Fast forward to recent. I don't talk to anyone in my family anymore. Nobody talks to anyone apparently. My mother wanted us to be comfortable, of that I am sure. But I am even more certain she didn't want "this". I had my birthday about a month ago and didn't get a call or text from anyone in my family.
Got a check for a portion of the house, which is nice. But I really would rather my mother for the last 4 years and nothing at all. Because it sucks not having a family after losing your mother.
Just wanted to vent..
cwright75
Player Valuation: £2.5m
ive suffered with it for 15 odd years , various way of trying to deal with it , various pills from the doctor and so on , many times dealing with it badly massive binge drinking sessions , in the end my thought process changed to i will always have it , its how you deal with it that will stand us all in good steed , to bury ones head and lock yourself away is a bad way together with drinking etc , best way i find talk to people openly you be surprised how many people relate to your problems , have hobbies and pastimes that get you out the house , try and keep a decent diet going , most of what im saying has been said over and over but after 15 years in a nut shell take the pills if you need them and get out the house , often , but have a routine. visit folks and talk openly this can only make you happier - dont support birmingham city thats no good !
hallamblue
Player Valuation: £40m
Could you reach out and become the conduit for reconciliation? You sound like you didn't upset anybody during the process. Maybe you can help your siblings to see each others point of view? Life is too short, and you don't want to wait until there's another death in the family before you see or speak to them again. Just a suggestion. Take care.
brieverton
Player Valuation: £50m
I understand about family difficulties.
I've met my father about 10 times in the course of my life. I'm mid-40s. The last time was at wedding six years ago. All he could think of was to ask if I was working.
With my siblings it's been up and down. My brother cut-off contact with all of us about 10 years ago, there was a kind of cold war going on for about 18 months previous where it seemed obvious he was unhappy about something, but we never asked outright and he didn't volunteer. He remarried and only my oldest sister was invited to the wedding. It hurt my mother very much in particular. She only found out about it one day in the supermarket when one of her in-laws told her.
I tried a couple of reconciliation attempts over the years and when I contacted him directly, he always seemed enthusiastic but nothing came of it. Once we couldn't agree where to meet. The irony was that our workplaces were within about 500 metres of each other until my employer moved.
Fast forward a few years, and he contacted me by text just as covid was starting. We talk regularly on the phone and by text since then and are going to arrange a meeting very shortly. I will visit his house and meet his new family. Thankfully he has also mended fences with my mother. He did call to visit me last Christmas and left some lovely gifts which I wasn't expecting. Just he could not come in due to the restrictions.
In families, sometimes there can be ebb and flow is what I'm saying. Not so with my father really, but with my brother, it has shown that things can change over time.