Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Rita_Poon]

Thanks Rita, we split up almost 6 years ago but she just has that attitude and personality of punishment and power trips, i'm not the only one she does it too but i'm the only one who can't stand up to it in case she takes me daughter off me.

I've tried over the years to keep my daughter away from any arguing or that, but sometimes it's hard, but i do shield her from most of it.
I didn't mean stop loving my girl, i meant being around her and all the crap that i get from the ex makes me weary.

She moans about everything, if our daughter has had a busy day at school and yawns, it's my fault. her bedroom night light is either too bright or not bright enough. if a car drives past then it's too loud, or if not, it's too quiet. it just never ends.

I have a huge aversion to doing things for myself. no idea why, but i almost never go the doctors if i'm sick. i avoid everything and i just suffer with it all alone because over the years i feel like no one cares so i just keep it all in.

I know i could seek professional help but i know my inner me will fight against it. i've just got no motivation.

I will ALWAYS love and adore my daughter, we love each other and we each deserve each other in our lives........i just wish sometimes that the ex wasn't in the picture. but almost all of my frustration is caused by her and i'm stuck with her.

Thanks everyone.

6 years is a long time to be emotionally blackmailed.

This seems very much like depression talking. To the point of it seeming at least to my untrained eye (ear?) to be textbook stuff.

Staying as you are means more suffering, and that potentially rubbing off on your daughter. For both her sake and yours it's time for some change. It might seem difficult because it's the unknown, but the sooner you get started the sooner you make progress.