Nice one. You are a star for doing this x
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So I had to check myself in to a mental health/psych ward Friday, got released today. Had been spiraling rapidly over the last couple weeks as mentioned previously. Talked to a therapist on Friday who made a comment at the end of "If you think medication alone is going to cure this you'll most likely be just like another one of my former patients. His family hadn't heard from him in a couple days and I told them to get a key to his place and call the police. He killed himself". Because that's exactly what someone who cannot deal with constant anxiety and panic attacks needs to hear. Just had suicidal thoughts everywhere. Couldn't control them, they were flooding all over me. Spoke with my father who told me to get my wife to bring me to a place that night. So we did.
Started me on some medicine. Do I feel better? Dunno. Is this going to work? No clue. But just like the whole purpose of this thread, I can't talk about it with my mates without starting to stutter and bawl because I really DO want to live, it's just my mind that's pretending like I don't and I can't get it under control. It's really hard as I don't know where to go from here if this doesn't work.
Started me on some medicine. Do I feel better? Dunno. Is this going to work? No clue. But just like the whole purpose of this thread, I can't talk about it with my mates without starting to stutter and bawl because I really DO want to live, it's just my mind that's pretending like I don't and I can't get it under control. It's really hard as I don't know where to go from here if this doesn't work.
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Earwigjoe
Player Valuation: £10m
I hope this works for you mate, the therapists words sounded brutal mate. My wife suffers from bad depression as well as other things. She was on tablets but as shes stubborn and thought she didnt need them she took herself off them thinking she could manage but she couldnt,she was in a bad, bad place - the doctor and mind team came out and were going to section her, it was that scare that put her back on her tablets and shes stayed on them eversince sometimes its the reality of how bad things have got - that can start the fightback. You sound like youve an understanding and loving wife and dad, im sure yous will get through this now youve realised how much an intervention was needed. Take your time mate and be patient dont try to rush getting better- the most important thing is that you get better - so take you time, talk loads and ask for help if you need it. Hopefully @Spotty will be on soon he can give you great mental health advice. Keep strong brother and God Bless.
Earwigjoe
Player Valuation: £10m
@riddick Hopefully @Spotty will be on soon he can give you great mental health advice. Keep strong brother and God Bless.... Everyone on here can give you great advice /support on mental health mate and will, spottys a mental health worker he can maybe suggest treatments, timespans etc. as well as advice.
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Keep talking on here mate. There is always someone about. I'm no expert but I've had some good advice on here and even a couple of home truths if I have been struggling in handling a situation with my daughter during a tough couple of years.
Exercise helps me something rotten and also cutting down on the beer.
Good luck. You can get through this.
I've never posted or really checked in on this thread and I really wish I had. So many amazing people here. I'll repeat what many others have said, if anyone ever wants to reach out I am here. Can't offer a professional response but happy to speak to anyone about any issues they may be going through if they just need someone to talk to.
I’m sure the therapist’s intentions were good but that’s a shocking thing to say!
As always on here I think the massive first step has been taken in that you so clearly recognise the issues at hand and the danger you were potentially spiralling towards. Be proud of yourself for taking the action you did, keep going with the medication and hopefully see some benefits and absolutely keep us updated every step of the way.
That therapist sounds awful mate. Supposed to be there for you listening, giving advice and helping you not putting worse thoughts and suggestions in your head.
have to make sure you speak to your dad and wife plenty and posting in here whenever you need to. If ever need to chat feel free to message as I’m on here plenty and at random times night and day due to barely ever sleeping.
Did anyone else hear what he / she said mate, as there`s no way someone like that should be working in the field of mental health ?
The damage he / she could do to someone in his / her care is unimaginable.
For what it`s worth mate, you`ve been incredibly brave in speaking to your father and him getting your wife involved, many would`ve tried to go it alone.
You sound like you`ve got some good people on your side.
The " medicine " won`t work straight away, normally takes 10 - 14 days to kick in.
In the meantime stay off the ale, cut out caffeine ( ramps up anxiety ) and try to remove everything stressful from your life ( I know that`s hard )
When my anxiety was really bad, one of the ways I`d bring it down, was by sticking the headphones on and listening to my favourite stuff.
I found that, once you got into the music, it was virtually impossible to think of the bad stuff, as your brain just locks into the music and can`t go anywhere else.
Just keep posting mate, as there`s loads that have got your back on here.
@Spotty offers such great advice, it`s like having a paid therapist on the forum and I`m sure he`ll be able to help once he`s next on.
Stay strong mate x
messymascot
Player Valuation: £35m
Hope you are OK. If you ever need to talk, come on here some brilliant people to talk to. No one should feel like that. Maybe he thought it was a good way of explaining but for me it was shocking. Just try and keep focused on getting better. Everyone has bad times just some people need the extra support to get through it. Never worry about asking for help. Everyone who supports in here is genuine and wants to help.
That's shocking. You need to make a formal complaint. If you don't feel up to doing it get your Dad or your wife to do it on your behalf. Or mention it to your GP.
As others have said, the meds take a while to kick in and keep posting on here. We're all with you.
Sassy Colombian
Member: Team PoP
Happy Saturday @messymascot How are you doing, mate? excited about today's match? I was just catching up to some post here as I have been away from the forum for the past week and I want to check on you. xx
messymascot
Player Valuation: £35m
I'm a little better thank you. I'm booked in to get the fluid drained on Monday so hopefully feel even better then. I'm hoping we can make it 2 out of 2 wins today. It looks like in your absence there has been a thread set up in your honour.
Sassy Colombian
Member: Team PoP
Knowing you are feeling a bit better makes me happy for you and I really hope that getting the fluid drained on Monday will bring some relief so we can help you plan your trip to watch Everton. I would love to help in anyway to make this trip even more comfortable and pleasant for you so don't hesitate on letting some of us come up with some resources for your trip.
I'm as hopeful as you for 2 wins, it is exactly what we need to placate some of the bad feelings some of us have towards Benitez.
I just noticed about the thread and as soon as we have break from the match I am going have to peek there and respond to some posts
messymascot
Player Valuation: £35m
Knowing you are feeling a bit better makes me happy for you and I really hope that getting the fluid drained on Monday will bring some relief so we can help you plan your trip to watch Everton. I would love to help in anyway to make this trip even more comfortable and pleasant for you so don't hesitate on letting some of us come up with some resources for your trip.
I'm as hopeful as you for 2 wins, it is exactly what we need to placate some of the bad feelings some of us have towards Benitez.
I just noticed about the thread and as soon as we have break from the match I am going have to peek there and respond to some posts
When peaking I would recommend wearing sunglasses!!
Yeah we need some wins as at the minute it could simmer over. If we get a good start at least we won't have to worry as much about relegation. I'm not happy with Benetiz but he's here now so just got to get on with it.
I think the club are going to make the tickets complimentary so there is no extra resources needed. Excellent work from @Earwigjoe. I'm hopeful I can get to the Burnley game but should have a better idea once the drain has been done.