Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Sassy Colombian]

When peaking I would recommend wearing sunglasses!!

Yeah we need some wins as at the minute it could simmer over. If we get a good start at least we won't have to worry as much about relegation. I'm not happy with Benetiz but he's here now so just got to get on with it.

I think the club are going to make the tickets complimentary so there is no extra resources needed. Excellent work from @Earwigjoe. I'm hopeful I can get to the Burnley game but should have a better idea once the drain has been done.

Hahaha, I just peak there and I'm thinking James thread is a much worse encounter and one that I'm nervous to read

A good start will be good for many reasons so let's hope Everton can manage scoring more goals than Leeds during the second half.

I noticed the Club answered to @Earwigjoe about the tickets and he has done a remarkable job getting this going for you. So I'm hopeful that your drainage goes well too and that way this experience can be more comfortable for you.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

So I had to check myself in to a mental health/psych ward Friday, got released today. Had been spiraling rapidly over the last couple weeks as mentioned previously. Talked to a therapist on Friday who made a comment at the end of "If you think medication alone is going to cure this you'll most likely be just like another one of my former patients. His family hadn't heard from him in a couple days and I told them to get a key to his place and call the police. He killed himself". Because that's exactly what someone who cannot deal with constant anxiety and panic attacks needs to hear. Just had suicidal thoughts everywhere. Couldn't control them, they were flooding all over me. Spoke with my father who told me to get my wife to bring me to a place that night. So we did.

Started me on some medicine. Do I feel better? Dunno. Is this going to work? No clue. But just like the whole purpose of this thread, I can't talk about it with my mates without starting to stutter and bawl because I really DO want to live, it's just my mind that's pretending like I don't and I can't get it under control. It's really hard as I don't know where to go from here if this doesn't work.

Hi, Riddick. How are you feeling this weekend, mate? Im really puzzled by the lack of tact and compassion shown by the therapist that you saw last Friday and I would encourage you, like others have already mentioned, to find help somewhere else. You deserve better! Your have already shown great strength by reaching out for help instead of hiding away your feelings from your father and wife. Them, the people that love you the most want the best for you so keep counting on them to help you get through this difficult time and many of us are here too for support so continue opening up, we are rallying behind you! ?

 

[Spotty]

So I had to check myself in to a mental health/psych ward Friday, got released today. Had been spiraling rapidly over the last couple weeks as mentioned previously. Talked to a therapist on Friday who made a comment at the end of "If you think medication alone is going to cure this you'll most likely be just like another one of my former patients. His family hadn't heard from him in a couple days and I told them to get a key to his place and call the police. He killed himself". Because that's exactly what someone who cannot deal with constant anxiety and panic attacks needs to hear. Just had suicidal thoughts everywhere. Couldn't control them, they were flooding all over me. Spoke with my father who told me to get my wife to bring me to a place that night. So we did.

Started me on some medicine. Do I feel better? Dunno. Is this going to work? No clue. But just like the whole purpose of this thread, I can't talk about it with my mates without starting to stutter and bawl because I really DO want to live, it's just my mind that's pretending like I don't and I can't get it under control. It's really hard as I don't know where to go from here if this doesn't work.

Hi Riddick. I'm so sorry you are going through a bad time of it mate. I'm fuming to be honest, that any mental health professional could say what they did to you. There is hope buddy believe me but the first thing you need to remember is the first and most important part of any mental health professional is to keep the patient safe. BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE. ! If your suicidal thoughts continue present yourself to A / E, go with a loved one or friend for support. Tell them exactly how to are feeling. They will call the on call mental health team who will in turn assess you. If they think that you can't keep yourself safe, they may - should? - admit you. Medication for mental illnesses take 3 to 5 weeks to start being therapeutic. They do not work straight away. If after that time your medication isn't working, speak to someone and they will discuss options either increase your dose of prescribe another one. Secondly, medication is used used as an adjunct to medication. For adjunct its a fancy word for to go alongside / at the same time as therapy. Therapy should help you find out why you feel like you do. Get to the cause of your feelings. It's important so you have an idea of what's making you feel this way, what triggers it and yes, be Pro active in stopping you feel the same way. But I stress, keeping you safe is the most important thing. Once the medication starts to be beneficial and lessens your suicidal ideation, you can work on the why's and such. You mate are the expert on your illness, it's your lived experience. You can get through this but take your time. There is no rush, no time scale, let things happen at your own pace. Your very vulnerable, feel fragile and I expect all you want to do and your loved ones want, is for you to feel safe and secure. Words can't describe my anger at the thoughtless words of this so called " professional ". As I say to my students, the first thing we do is to show we care and are compassionate towards someone who is at their lowest ebb. I'm so sorry you had to hear that. So, ask loved ones for support, if that means you ending up as an inpatient so be it, at least you will be safe. You can then gradually work on the causation of your feelings etc. Don't be too hard on yourself, don't put time scales on anything to do with your mental health, and you'll get there. Take care for now buddy, there are lots of people both professionally and personally who care for you and want you to recover. You can do it, just prioritise keeping yourself safe. All the best my friend.

 

[Spotty]

So I had to check myself in to a mental health/psych ward Friday, got released today. Had been spiraling rapidly over the last couple weeks as mentioned previously. Talked to a therapist on Friday who made a comment at the end of "If you think medication alone is going to cure this you'll most likely be just like another one of my former patients. His family hadn't heard from him in a couple days and I told them to get a key to his place and call the police. He killed himself". Because that's exactly what someone who cannot deal with constant anxiety and panic attacks needs to hear. Just had suicidal thoughts everywhere. Couldn't control them, they were flooding all over me. Spoke with my father who told me to get my wife to bring me to a place that night. So we did.

Started me on some medicine. Do I feel better? Dunno. Is this going to work? No clue. But just like the whole purpose of this thread, I can't talk about it with my mates without starting to stutter and bawl because I really DO want to live, it's just my mind that's pretending like I don't and I can't get it under control. It's really hard as I don't know where to go from here if this doesn't work.

Sorry Riddick, a couple of other things I wanted to say. If you have horrible thoughts about wanting to kill yourself and your on your own, please please please call the police. Be honest, tell them how you feel and that you want to kill yourself. These words " I want to kill myself " are very cutting and brutal but who cares. You need the help and say them exactly how I've just said, " I want to kill myself ". The police will get you the help you need. In addition, it's ok to cry and " bawl " in front of your friends. It's ok and they won't judge. Tell them how you feel. Remember, people do care, you are loved, but people need to know your struggling so please , tell them. Remember, your priority is staying safe, all the the therapeutic stuff can happen AFTER you've started to recover and your over the crisis stage of your episode. People like you make me feel so humble, because you have so much courage and character and I only hope that should I experience the same as you, I have the same fortitude and bravery that you have shown. Well done.

 

[Spotty]

I hope this works for you mate, the therapists words sounded brutal mate. My wife suffers from bad depression as well as other things. She was on tablets but as shes stubborn and thought she didnt need them she took herself off them thinking she could manage but she couldnt,she was in a bad, bad place - the doctor and mind team came out and were going to section her, it was that scare that put her back on her tablets and shes stayed on them eversince sometimes its the reality of how bad things have got - that can start the fightback. You sound like youve an understanding and loving wife and dad, im sure yous will get through this now youve realised how much an intervention was needed. Take your time mate and be patient dont try to rush getting better- the most important thing is that you get better - so take you time, talk loads and ask for help if you need it. Hopefully @Spotty will be on soon he can give you great mental health advice. Keep strong brother and God Bless.

" take your time ", spot on son, good post.

 

[Spotty]

That's shocking. You need to make a formal complaint. If you don't feel up to doing it get your Dad or your wife to do it on your behalf. Or mention it to your GP.

As others have said, the meds take a while to kick in and keep posting on here. We're all with you.

" Make a formal complaint ". This anjel. When Riddick is back on his feet perhaps he can. This person has done it before and will do it again. I've been a psychiatric nurse said that to one of my patients, I tell you it wouldn't rest there. I'm still fuming at how nasty and unforgivable the remark was. Poor soul did NOT need to hear that. !

 

[Bungle]

I'm a little better thank you. I'm booked in to get the fluid drained on Monday so hopefully feel even better then. I'm hoping we can make it 2 out of 2 wins today. It looks like in your absence there has been a thread set up in your honour.

Hope tomorrow goes well mate and gives you a bit of relief.

 

[Gwladysover]

I'm a little better thank you. I'm booked in to get the fluid drained on Monday so hopefully feel even better then. I'm hoping we can make it 2 out of 2 wins today. It looks like in your absence there has been a thread set up in your honour.

Hope things have gone well for you today and you’re feeling better.

 

[Gwladysover]

So I had to check myself in to a mental health/psych ward Friday, got released today. Had been spiraling rapidly over the last couple weeks as mentioned previously. Talked to a therapist on Friday who made a comment at the end of "If you think medication alone is going to cure this you'll most likely be just like another one of my former patients. His family hadn't heard from him in a couple days and I told them to get a key to his place and call the police. He killed himself". Because that's exactly what someone who cannot deal with constant anxiety and panic attacks needs to hear. Just had suicidal thoughts everywhere. Couldn't control them, they were flooding all over me. Spoke with my father who told me to get my wife to bring me to a place that night. So we did.

Started me on some medicine. Do I feel better? Dunno. Is this going to work? No clue. But just like the whole purpose of this thread, I can't talk about it with my mates without starting to stutter and bawl because I really DO want to live, it's just my mind that's pretending like I don't and I can't get it under control. It's really hard as I don't know where to go from here if this doesn't work.

What an awful experience for you. There are posters on here who are more qualified than me but I just wanted to share some advice given to me when I was at my lowest ebb. “Don’t be impatient with time, let it pass, know that what you are feeling is temporary and it will go away.” Things (medication etc.) take time but knowing they would improve in the future was a great help to me. I wish you and your family the best of luck and please forgive the ramblings of an old woman.

 

[messymascot]

They've given me the drain. Some fluid has been removed but not as much as they were hoping/expecting so I have been booked in again for next Wednesday when they will try and get some more out. They have got a reasonable amount out so should feel a little better and at least I know what to expect next week.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

They've given me the drain. Some fluid has been removed but not as much as they were hoping/expecting so I have been booked in again for next Wednesday when they will try and get some more out. They have got a reasonable amount out so should feel a little better and at least I know what to expect next week.

Sorry they couldn’t get the job done today mate but hopefully you’ll be a bit more comfortable until next Wednesday and then you’ll be rocking and rolling.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

They've given me the drain. Some fluid has been removed but not as much as they were hoping/expecting so I have been booked in again for next Wednesday when they will try and get some more out. They have got a reasonable amount out so should feel a little better and at least I know what to expect next week.

Hi, darling. Thanks for the update. Hopefully the amount of fluid that was taken out will bring some relief and by next Wednesday with the additional fluid extraction you get to feel more comfortable.

I have been meaning to ask you who are your favorite players in the team, in addition to James?

Sending a big kiss and a warm hug your way ??

 

[Sassy Colombian]

So I had to check myself in to a mental health/psych ward Friday, got released today. Had been spiraling rapidly over the last couple weeks as mentioned previously. Talked to a therapist on Friday who made a comment at the end of "If you think medication alone is going to cure this you'll most likely be just like another one of my former patients. His family hadn't heard from him in a couple days and I told them to get a key to his place and call the police. He killed himself". Because that's exactly what someone who cannot deal with constant anxiety and panic attacks needs to hear. Just had suicidal thoughts everywhere. Couldn't control them, they were flooding all over me. Spoke with my father who told me to get my wife to bring me to a place that night. So we did.

Started me on some medicine. Do I feel better? Dunno. Is this going to work? No clue. But just like the whole purpose of this thread, I can't talk about it with my mates without starting to stutter and bawl because I really DO want to live, it's just my mind that's pretending like I don't and I can't get it under control. It's really hard as I don't know where to go from here if this doesn't work.

Howdy @riddick. How are you? I wanted to share with you the links for some online workshops that deal with anxiety. I have done several workshops through these website and on various subjects. They are priced very reasonable, I have always enjoy them and learned a lot. Not sure if this is your thing but i wanted to share other resources that could help you deal with your anxiety.

End Anxiety and Panic Attacks

Learn to rewire an anxious mind and restore inner peace within seconds. This course by neuro-linguistic trainer Ashley James will provide holistic step-by-step guidance, so you can find immediate relief and prevent anxiety and panic attacks. Through neuroscience-based advice, simple exercises...

www.dailyom.com

All Topics - DailyOM

All Topics - DailyOM

www.dailyom.com

 

[Gwladysover]

Howdy @riddick. How are you? I wanted to share with you the links for some online workshops that deal with anxiety. I have done several workshops through these website and on various subjects. They are priced very reasonable, I have always enjoy them and learned a lot. Not sure if this is your thing but i wanted to share other resources that could help you deal with your anxiety.

End Anxiety and Panic Attacks

Learn to rewire an anxious mind and restore inner peace within seconds. This course by neuro-linguistic trainer Ashley James will provide holistic step-by-step guidance, so you can find immediate relief and prevent anxiety and panic attacks. Through neuroscience-based advice, simple exercises...

www.dailyom.com

All Topics - DailyOM

All Topics - DailyOM

www.dailyom.com

Great suggestion Sassy, I found relaxation or mindfulness a great help. I used to set aside half an hour each day when I wouldn’t be disturbed to listen to a tape ( it was in the olden days lol ). At first my mind would race but gradually learned to shut out the negative thoughts and concentrate on breathing and visualisation. I still use these techniques if I start to become agitated in queues and on buses etc.

 

[messymascot]

Hi, darling. Thanks for the update. Hopefully the amount of fluid that was taken out will bring some relief and by next Wednesday with the additional fluid extraction you get to feel more comfortable.

I have been meaning to ask you who are your favorite players in the team, in addition to James?

Sending a big kiss and a warm hug your way ??

I've been so tired today can only hope its my body reacting to what was a really long day yesterday. I'm kind of pinning my hopes on next Wednesday removing more as this amount hasn't has the effects I'd hoped. Maybe it will get better over the next couple of days.

My favourite players are James, Richarlison and Digne. My all time favourite player is Mikel Arteta although I do also think Joe Parkinson would have been a great player had cruel injuries not struck.