Thanks all, I have started to take back control... I have the mortgage underway, I have a clear plan to execute with the support of my family and friends.
More and more comes out as time goes by and its even more clear to me now he is just a player and not interested in looking after her. I believe my words hit home harder every day... I've known him a lot longer than her, he openly admits he is a blagger, it is a running joke.
I'm still very upset by it all and cry every day because of it. I have always wanted my family whole, it gave me a purpose and a drive so strong I inspire others. I dont know if repair is even on the cards but I know that I have made myself the best in my industry by making the impossible, possible. If anyone can, I can.
Its not in my nature to be plotting against the person I care for... but it does feel good to finally have the power in the situation.
Some of the advice from this forum has been transformational for me. The support to rise up above it has been of a value I can't describe. I can't thank you all enough.