Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[anxiouswarrior]

First time i have posted on this thread so like i have had anxiety/ depression etc for a long time , however last autumn i was drinking too much and began to feel really ill , went to a/e and was admitted they diagnosed pneumonia then 4 days later they found severe attack or pancreatitis , i was inpatient for nearly 3 month having been discharged and then readmitted , i then got c-diff and bowel infection probably because of loads of anti biotics , anyway i managed to get thorough it , but i thought the alcohol was helping me a bit with my moods and anxiety , but i paid a big price for that , i think i now realise that nothing is more important than your health because without that you will not enjoy any part of your life , sure football is great but its not really that important in the grand scheme of things , well watching United these days when i do manage to go is enough to drive you too drink , only joking there but its very difficult at times and services are not great at the moment , good luck anyway

 

[degsy]

First time i have posted on this thread so like i have had anxiety/ depression etc for a long time , however last autumn i was drinking too much and began to feel really ill , went to a/e and was admitted they diagnosed pneumonia then 4 days later they found severe attack or pancreatitis , i was inpatient for nearly 3 month having been discharged and then readmitted , i then got c-diff and bowel infection probably because of loads of anti biotics , anyway i managed to get thorough it , but i thought the alcohol was helping me a bit with my moods and anxiety , but i paid a big price for that , i think i now realise that nothing is more important than your health because without that you will not enjoy any part of your life , sure football is great but its not really that important in the grand scheme of things , well watching United these days when i do manage to go is enough to drive you too drink , only joking there but its very difficult at times and services are not great at the moment , good luck anyway

Stick it out mate, both you and your team will eventually improve, though I hope your improvement is a lot quicker and permenant.

 

[Spotty]

Felt quite down today.

Started a new job. It was fine, but didn't get me excited for the future. Not sure any job will.

Have a problem with jealousy I think as well. Seeing people prosper in life/relationships.

Hi Dan " Having a problem with jealousy....". Have you thought Dan that when your comparing yourself to people, you are doing it from a totally different social circumstance. For example, that successfull man with a BMW and a great job MAY have very wealthy parents, or he has been fortunate enough to be born without any of the normal " problems " most of us deal with on a daily basis. We tend to compare, but we are often comparing apples and pears, and not like for like. In closing Dan, how do you know that if I met you, was aware of your circumstances and social status, was aware of the " things " you have come through, I wouldn't think " bloody hell Dan's done really well considering what he's had to come through ".

Just a thought mate, hope it makes sense.

 

[Gilbert..]

Felt quite down today.

Started a new job. It was fine, but didn't get me excited for the future. Not sure any job will.

Have a problem with jealousy I think as well. Seeing people prosper in life/relationships.

Mate its brave to admit that. Ive experienced it. You feel like you've missed the boat or its passed you by.
You're not on your own feeling that way fella.
The grass isnt always greener either. We just convince ourselves it is sometimes.

 

[ForeverBlue92]

Hi Dan " Having a problem with jealousy....". Have you thought Dan that when your comparing yourself to people, you are doing it from a totally different social circumstance. For example, that successfull man with a BMW and a great job MAY have very wealthy parents, or he has been fortunate enough to be born without any of the normal " problems " most of us deal with on a daily basis. We tend to compare, but we are often comparing apples and pears, and not like for like. In closing Dan, how do you know that if I met you, was aware of your circumstances and social status, was aware of the " things " you have come through, I wouldn't think " bloody hell Dan's done really well considering what he's had to come through ".

Just a thought mate, hope it makes sense.

Spot on that - social media is scandalous for distorting reality for many people.

I got married a few years back and tbh it was a simple budget wedding whereas me missus has loads of her glam mates getting married in these fancy venues with their mummy and daddies forking out 25-30k for a one day party and plastering it all over Facebook.

I have to remind her at times we paid ours off ourselves same as buying our first house - not many manage to do both these days without the bank of ma and da so its best not to take everything at face value.

 

[BluePaul86]

Got stood up today. Talked to someone online, we then swapped numbers, and messaged non stop for the past week.
Agreed to meet up for a pub lunch today locally around 4pm. Last message was last night around ten just confirming arrangement. Didn't hear anything this morning or afternoon, but didn't panic as everything was arranged.
I got there (after a 40min walk) a bit early, so dropped her a text just saying I've grabbed a table, can I get you a drink? No response.
Got to the meeting time, so text her again asking if we were still meeting and had she been delayed. Nothing again.
By this time my stomach had gone and I felt utterly terrible just sat there in a pub all by myself, knowing she wasn't turning up.
Luckily I rang my friend and he calmed me down whilst I finished my drink. Checked the site we met on before I left, and her profile has disappeared, meaning a block. It now appears she blocked me, before I'd even left mine, on all platforms. I'm wondering was it all a setup and she had no intention of meeting or has something happened overnight. I'll never know cos I'll never hear from her again.
I've mentioned on here I suffer with anxiety and struggle to meet new people, so this experience has left me feeling absolutely dreadful and I can't get this out of head, mainly cos I have no idea what the hell happened.

 

[Nymzee]

Got stood up today. Talked to someone online, we then swapped numbers, and messaged non stop for the past week.
Agreed to meet up for a pub lunch today locally around 4pm. Last message was last night around ten just confirming arrangement. Didn't hear anything this morning or afternoon, but didn't panic as everything was arranged.
I got there (after a 40min walk) a bit early, so dropped her a text just saying I've grabbed a table, can I get you a drink? No response.
Got to the meeting time, so text her again asking if we were still meeting and had she been delayed. Nothing again.
By this time my stomach had gone and I felt utterly terrible just sat there in a pub all by myself, knowing she wasn't turning up.
Luckily I rang my friend and he calmed me down whilst I finished my drink. Checked the site we met on before I left, and her profile has disappeared, meaning a block. It now appears she blocked me, before I'd even left mine, on all platforms. I'm wondering was it all a setup and she had no intention of meeting or has something happened overnight. I'll never know cos I'll never hear from her again.
I've mentioned on here I suffer with anxiety and struggle to meet new people, so this experience has left me feeling absolutely dreadful and I can't get this out of head, mainly cos I have no idea what the hell happened.

Try not to take it personally and try not to overthink it - easier said than done. As you say, you’ll never know.

What I will say, from personal experience on dating apps/sites, is there an enormous number of people on there (both genders) that just should not be on there. They’re either not after the right thing or more commonly are on there as a reaction to a break up. I’ve spoken to so many girls that I know have recently been dumped, downloaded the app, then freaked out and just deleted it because they’re not ready for something. It’s a minefield but sometimes you step on a nice treasure chest.

 

[Spotty]

Got stood up today. Talked to someone online, we then swapped numbers, and messaged non stop for the past week.
Agreed to meet up for a pub lunch today locally around 4pm. Last message was last night around ten just confirming arrangement. Didn't hear anything this morning or afternoon, but didn't panic as everything was arranged.
I got there (after a 40min walk) a bit early, so dropped her a text just saying I've grabbed a table, can I get you a drink? No response.
Got to the meeting time, so text her again asking if we were still meeting and had she been delayed. Nothing again.
By this time my stomach had gone and I felt utterly terrible just sat there in a pub all by myself, knowing she wasn't turning up.
Luckily I rang my friend and he calmed me down whilst I finished my drink. Checked the site we met on before I left, and her profile has disappeared, meaning a block. It now appears she blocked me, before I'd even left mine, on all platforms. I'm wondering was it all a setup and she had no intention of meeting or has something happened overnight. I'll never know cos I'll never hear from her again.
I've mentioned on here I suffer with anxiety and struggle to meet new people, so this experience has left me feeling absolutely dreadful and I can't get this out of head, mainly cos I have no idea what the hell happened.

Paul I'm sure your a lovely fella and I'm equally sure that there is someone out there who like you, are anxious and worried about meeting someone. Stick with it fella, you'll probably meet the right person just as your not expecting it. Be yourself, as people appreciate honesty and I'm sure you'll meet someone who likes you just the way you are. Take care and good luck

 

[kithnou]

Have a good Easter everyone. Hope you are all well.

Kith

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Got stood up today. Talked to someone online, we then swapped numbers, and messaged non stop for the past week.
Agreed to meet up for a pub lunch today locally around 4pm. Last message was last night around ten just confirming arrangement. Didn't hear anything this morning or afternoon, but didn't panic as everything was arranged.
I got there (after a 40min walk) a bit early, so dropped her a text just saying I've grabbed a table, can I get you a drink? No response.
Got to the meeting time, so text her again asking if we were still meeting and had she been delayed. Nothing again.
By this time my stomach had gone and I felt utterly terrible just sat there in a pub all by myself, knowing she wasn't turning up.
Luckily I rang my friend and he calmed me down whilst I finished my drink. Checked the site we met on before I left, and her profile has disappeared, meaning a block. It now appears she blocked me, before I'd even left mine, on all platforms. I'm wondering was it all a setup and she had no intention of meeting or has something happened overnight. I'll never know cos I'll never hear from her again.
I've mentioned on here I suffer with anxiety and struggle to meet new people, so this experience has left me feeling absolutely dreadful and I can't get this out of head, mainly cos I have no idea what the hell happened.

That's rubbish and very unkind of her to do that. As a previous poster said, don't take it personally. You've either dodged a bullet because treating somebody like that is just plain rude or she was as equally nervous as you were but she bottled it and couldn't face telling you that she no longer wanted to go through with the date.

 

[Spotty]

Spot on that - social media is scandalous for distorting reality for many people.

I got married a few years back and tbh it was a simple budget wedding whereas me missus has loads of her glam mates getting married in these fancy venues with their mummy and daddies forking out 25-30k for a one day party and plastering it all over Facebook.

I have to remind her at times we paid ours off ourselves same as buying our first house - not many manage to do both these days without the bank of ma and da so its best not to take everything at face value.

Have a good Easter everyone. Hope you are all well.

Kith

Same to you Kit. I hope I don't sound " preachy, holier than thou " because I'm certainly not but as a Catholic Easter and Christa's are very very thought provoking times of the year for me. The real " meaning " of both holidays are lost on a lot of people. A very simple man died a horrible death TRYING to teach each other to be more thoughtfull and kind towards one another and that message is lost, misconstrued for lavishing gifts on one another and giving confectionary to people is hardly symbolic of an understanding of what " IT " is supposed to be about. Have often wondered if Jesus has ever taken the time to walk among us, to see how we are doing ? Somewhat rhetorical question perhaps ?

By the way, I include myself in the above, I'm certainly no different but speaking for myself, as I get older " wiser ? " , I hope and yes, strive to keep simple and humble. A few cigars, some nice food on occasions and seeing my family happy is what makes me happy. I hope everyone has a peaceful Easter, and experiences peace of mind.

Apologies in advance for the " religious " tone of this post.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Same to you Kit. I hope I don't sound " preachy, holier than thou " because I'm certainly not but as a Catholic Easter and Christa's are very very thought provoking times of the year for me. The real " meaning " of both holidays are lost on a lot of people. A very simple man died a horrible death TRYING to teach each other to be more thoughtfull and kind towards one another and that message is lost, misconstrued for lavishing gifts on one another and giving confectionary to people is hardly symbolic of an understanding of what " IT " is supposed to be about. Have often wondered if Jesus has ever taken the time to walk among us, to see how we are doing ? Somewhat rhetorical question perhaps ?

By the way, I include myself in the above, I'm certainly no different but speaking for myself, as I get older " wiser ? " , I hope and yes, strive to keep simple and humble. A few cigars, some nice food on occasions and seeing my family happy is what makes me happy. I hope everyone has a peaceful Easter, and experiences peace of mind.

Apologies in advance for the " religious " tone of this post.

I love this. You are so right. Happy Easter to you x

 

[Donegal blue]

I lost my best friend last night, My Dad, "say hello to dixie for me dad when you're up there" I love you.

 

[WilliamPerry]

I lost my best friend last night, My Dad, "say hello to dixie for me dad when you're up there" I love you.

So sorry to hear that mate . My thoughts are with you and RIP to you Dad.

 

[maccavennie]

I lost my best friend last night, My Dad, "say hello to dixie for me dad when you're up there" I love you.

Sorry to hear that mate. Thoughts are with you and the family.