Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Still feeling down, when are these antidepressant going to kick in lol. Went out yesterday with the wife to telford shopping centre, not my thing shopping but it was better than just laying around doing nothing. It was a struggle walking, stopping every 100yds or so to sit down so we decided to get a wheelchair. That was an experience, people walking towards you and you think you're going to bump into them coz you have no control and trusting someone you can't see to get you around everything. No disrespect to anyone who uses a wheelchair but I don't think I could handle it all the time, after 1/2 hour my bum and back was so numb and aching. Today I managed to get out again for an hour, went to my parents but felt so bad and was sick there again. My macmillan nurse is back off holiday this week so I will be seeing her for some advice on my problems.
Just needed to talk to someone so thanks for reading.
 

wbn61 said:
Still feeling down, when are these antidepressant going to kick in lol. Went out yesterday with the wife to telford shopping centre, not my thing shopping but it was better than just laying around doing nothing. It was a struggle walking, stopping every 100yds or so to sit down so we decided to get a wheelchair. That was an experience, people walking towards you and you think you're going to bump into them coz you have no control and trusting someone you can't see to get you around everything. No disrespect to anyone who uses a wheelchair but I don't think I could handle it all the time, after 1/2 hour my bum and back was so numb and aching. Today I managed to get out again for an hour, went to my parents but felt so bad and was sick there again. My macmillan nurse is back off holiday this week so I will be seeing her for some advice on my problems.
Just needed to talk to someone so thanks for reading.
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Good to see you're still having a crack at a normal day.
 
wbn61 said:
Still feeling down, when are these antidepressant going to kick in lol. Went out yesterday with the wife to telford shopping centre, not my thing shopping but it was better than just laying around doing nothing. It was a struggle walking, stopping every 100yds or so to sit down so we decided to get a wheelchair. That was an experience, people walking towards you and you think you're going to bump into them coz you have no control and trusting someone you can't see to get you around everything. No disrespect to anyone who uses a wheelchair but I don't think I could handle it all the time, after 1/2 hour my bum and back was so numb and aching. Today I managed to get out again for an hour, went to my parents but felt so bad and was sick there again. My macmillan nurse is back off holiday this week so I will be seeing her for some advice on my problems.
Just needed to talk to someone so thanks for reading.
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The anti depressives take a couple of weeks to slowly work their stealth magic...but they do.
 
Im not sure if this is the place for me to write about this and feel free to tell me it isnt...

But i am a compulsive gambler, i do attend Gamblers Anonymous which does help a lot, but i often have bouts of depression thinking about all of the things ive done and the people i have hurt in the past, i have ups and downs, its not too bad and i cope fairly well for now. I dont think a lot of people think of compulsive gambling as a mental illness but to me it is and its not very well understood and its difficult as nearly everyone talks about gambling and its always on the TV.

anyway i wont post anymore for now as im not totally sure if this is the right place to post this...
 

ashwuk76 said:
Im not sure if this is the place for me to write about this and feel free to tell me it isnt...

But i am a compulsive gambler, i do attend Gamblers Anonymous which does help a lot, but i often have bouts of depression thinking about all of the things ive done and the people i have hurt in the past, i have ups and downs, its not too bad and i cope fairly well for now. I dont think a lot of people think of compulsive gambling as a mental illness but to me it is and its not very well understood and its difficult as nearly everyone talks about gambling and its always on the TV.

anyway i wont post anymore for now as im not totally sure if this is the right place to post this...
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No expert on here but this thread is for everyone. No real experiences of gambling personally but maybe a few on here have. However like any addiction, the hihs and lows cause emotional and mental anguish, depression etc so do feel free to post and hopefully someone can help. Even off loading can help, I've revealed stuff on here that none of my actual mates know - it does help!
 
big bobs beard said:
No expert on here but this thread is for everyone. No real experiences of gambling personally but maybe a few on here have. However like any addiction, the hihs and lows cause emotional and mental anguish, depression etc so do feel free to post and hopefully someone can help. Even off loading can help, I've revealed stuff on here that none of my actual mates know - it does help!
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Thanks mate much appreciated, wasnt sure if it was the right place but im glad it is... i agree offloading can help, but me posting here is two fold really, one that its somewhere for me to talk about things and maybe get some help, but also so that anyone who needs help i will do my best to do what i can, either in a PM or a post in here.
 
Morag said:
I have suffered with depression/anxiety for 5 years and PTSD for nearly 1 year. A big trigger for my depression/anxiety is work related. And a lot of people in my work place have a very small mind when it comes to mental health. You get the usual 'why don't you smile', 'what have you got to be depressed about? You have a husband, 2 lovely children, a job and a house' lines. But they never help. And I've been told those lines so much at one point I forced a false happiness while in work and it put far too much pressure on me to the point where my manager pulled me out of my job telling me I was 'unsafe to work'.

There is a colleague who I've noticed is struggling mentally. I've told them to go the Drs but I don't think they are completely aware of how bad they are and what impact it's having on the rest of us.

I've been thinking a lot lately that I want to do something to bring awareness of mental health to my work place. Educate the staff on what's it's about, how it effects people and what they can do.

Has anyone got any ideas on what I can do?? Thanks for reading.

Morag
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I don't know how helpful this is but anyway..

Years ago at work (at that point a media company) we trying to get some marketing info out there, the challenge being that people don't read anything that lands on their desk. To get round this we made little cereal boxes (like the selection sets) out of card, glued them together and put a little zip lock bag with some cereal inside for them. The boxes had the message we were trying to get out there incorporated into the packaging.

There is a bit of hassle involved but doing something similarly informal might be a nice way of breaking the ice around a really difficult and sensitive issue.
 
ashwuk76 said:
Im not sure if this is the place for me to write about this and feel free to tell me it isnt...

But i am a compulsive gambler, i do attend Gamblers Anonymous which does help a lot, but i often have bouts of depression thinking about all of the things ive done and the people i have hurt in the past, i have ups and downs, its not too bad and i cope fairly well for now. I dont think a lot of people think of compulsive gambling as a mental illness but to me it is and its not very well understood and its difficult as nearly everyone talks about gambling and its always on the TV.

anyway i wont post anymore for now as im not totally sure if this is the right place to post this...
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The thread is a discussion and/or help on depression related issues. IMHO, gambling can be an addiction, as mentioned by Big Bob, and can lead to many issues, one of which is depression.

To be honest, I can easily see the addictive qualities of gambling but have so far resisted them. I'm no Saint, but my Missus would tear me a new one if I did!!! :p We occasionally have a $20 go at the Pokies/Slot machines/Poker machines at the Casino, but walk away after that. There's no secret skill I can teach you or way of explaining our restraint, but I can definitely feel an urge to play on...maybe another dollar...

I wish I could simply say "Here's how I do it..." but I can't. There's no easy answer. You just have to trust the professionals to guide you through the addiction. Here in Oz, we have identified it as a big problem & the Government has set up some assistance for people. Not relevant to you perhaps, but some interesting stuff on here... http://www.gamblershelp.com.au

Now, having said that, I'm a little disappointed that Everton have signed an agreement with William Hill. Anything in moderation is fine, and many can gamble responsibly, I know this, but I can't help but think that an organisation that has EITC cannot see any harm here.*

* Don't mind me, just a little pet hate of mine.
 
ashwuk76 said:
Im not sure if this is the place for me to write about this and feel free to tell me it isnt...

But i am a compulsive gambler, i do attend Gamblers Anonymous which does help a lot, but i often have bouts of depression thinking about all of the things ive done and the people i have hurt in the past, i have ups and downs, its not too bad and i cope fairly well for now. I dont think a lot of people think of compulsive gambling as a mental illness but to me it is and its not very well understood and its difficult as nearly everyone talks about gambling and its always on the TV.

anyway i wont post anymore for now as im not totally sure if this is the right place to post this...
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Hopefully you'll find further help and support here. Don't be scared to pipe up.

BiggyRat said:
The thread is a discussion and/or help on depression related issues. IMHO, gambling can be an addiction, as mentioned by Big Bob, and can lead to many issues, one of which is depression.

To be honest, I can easily see the addictive qualities of gambling but have so far resisted them. I'm no Saint, but my Missus would tear me a new one if I did!!! :p We occasionally have a $20 go at the Pokies/Slot machines/Poker machines at the Casino, but walk away after that. There's no secret skill I can teach you or way of explaining our restraint, but I can definitely feel an urge to play on...maybe another dollar...

I wish I could simply say "Here's how I do it..." but I can't. There's no easy answer. You just have to trust the professionals to guide you through the addiction. Here in Oz, we have identified it as a big problem & the Government has set up some assistance for people. Not relevant to you perhaps, but some interesting stuff on here... http://www.gamblershelp.com.au

Now, having said that, I'm a little disappointed that Everton have signed an agreement with William Hill. Anything in moderation is fine, and many can gamble responsibly, I know this, but I can't help but think that an organisation that has EITC cannot see any harm here.*

* Don't mind me, just a little pet hate of mine.
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I know what you mean but we can't really say anything as we we have been sponsored here by Paddy Power. SkyBet is the one that gets my goat - they report something then direct folks to their betting arm.

Also, where do we draw the line? Everton are sponsored by Chang, a beer, for example. On the other hand, tobacco sponsorships are banned, which surely is a good thing.

I suppose that's another debate for another time though, although I completely see what you mean.
 

ashwuk76 said:
Im not sure if this is the place for me to write about this and feel free to tell me it isnt...

But i am a compulsive gambler, i do attend Gamblers Anonymous which does help a lot, but i often have bouts of depression thinking about all of the things ive done and the people i have hurt in the past, i have ups and downs, its not too bad and i cope fairly well for now. I dont think a lot of people think of compulsive gambling as a mental illness but to me it is and its not very well understood and its difficult as nearly everyone talks about gambling and its always on the TV.

anyway i wont post anymore for now as im not totally sure if this is the right place to post this...
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HI mate, did you know the NHS offer CBT for gambling problems? Maybe that could be useful for you? Here's a link to some info:

http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/addiction/Pages/gamblingaddiction.aspx
 
For anyone on here that suffers from any form of social anxiety, I came across this site a few months ago: http://www.comfortzonecrusher.com/homepage/

A young German psychologist has put some exercises together based on exposure therapy which he calls "Comfort Zone Challenges" which are designed to help improve confidence and social skills.

He explains it in this TED talk



I've done a lot of the challenges and can confirm they help a lot.
 
Groucho said:
I know what you mean but we can't really say anything as we we have been sponsored here by Paddy Power.
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They sponsor the forum, and that's fine. The thread we're in is unique in a way but it's also member driven. I don't see a conflict of interest, but I can understand that it could be an awkward position for Mods.

Groucho said:
Also, where do we draw the line? Everton are sponsored by Chang, a beer, for example. On the other hand, tobacco sponsorships are banned, which surely is a good thing.
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Indeed. Whilst it is legal, they are not breaking any laws & that needs to be acknowledged. It's a contradiction at best and, perhaps, a hypocrisy at worst, but not illegal.

Groucho said:
I suppose that's another debate for another time though, although I completely see what you mean.
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Yes, agreed.;)
 

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