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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

pleased for you. with the hot weather weekend coming up and wc started the last thing you need is a dicky ticker.

had my 3 month review this morning with oncologist everything still clear. weekend here I come.
Good news! Winter's setting in down here & I'll be watching the Socceroos in a few hours time!

It's good to enjoy the other things life throws at you occasionally.
 
Makes for some tough reading this thread, I have total respect for those who post in here.
I attend a quarterly bereaved parents group in Bournemouth,the amount of parents suffering from depression within the group is astounding. From a positive aspect they do recognise they have depression and all are having receiving treatment for it. That for me is the key, knowing you suffer from depression and seeking treatment.
Keep up the good work people,remember 'it's good to talk' !
 

Makes for some tough reading this thread, I have total respect for those who post in here.
I attend a quarterly bereaved parents group in Bournemouth,the amount of parents suffering from depression within the group is astounding. From a positive aspect they do recognise they have depression and all are having receiving treatment for it. That for me is the key, knowing you suffer from depression and seeking treatment.
Keep up the good work people,remember 'it's good to talk' !
It's a big step to recognise you have it.
 
I have some health issues, Diabetes, Chronic Kidney Disease, etc.
Kidney Specialist told me that I have 10 years left unless I have a heart attack first. I inject Insulin 4 times per day and take 11 tablets per day.
In february, I took ill and was always breathless and became exhausted after even minimum exercise. It took two months for the doctors to tell me I'm asthmatic and inhalers now control the breathlessness to a point. However I still feel exhausted all the time, its sort of a muscular fatigue which is the best way to describe it.
I feel really down, I have always worked, but I haven't been able to make it as far as the bus stop since Feb. I feel like there is nothing to look forward to and that it would be better for everyone if I just went now instead of hanging about, if I did, my Mrs would be in a better financial situation and I wouldn't want any of the family being lumbered with looking after/worrying about me. I told the GP how I was feeling and he referred me to Inclusion Matters.
I just had a telephone assessment from them and they are sending me for a one to one session with a counselor (and gave me the number for the Samaritans, but I'm too much of a coward to do away with myself)
 
I have some health issues, Diabetes, Chronic Kidney Disease, etc.
Kidney Specialist told me that I have 10 years left unless I have a heart attack first. I inject Insulin 4 times per day and take 11 tablets per day.
In february, I took ill and was always breathless and became exhausted after even minimum exercise. It took two months for the doctors to tell me I'm asthmatic and inhalers now control the breathlessness to a point. However I still feel exhausted all the time, its sort of a muscular fatigue which is the best way to describe it.
I feel really down, I have always worked, but I haven't been able to make it as far as the bus stop since Feb. I feel like there is nothing to look forward to and that it would be better for everyone if I just went now instead of hanging about, if I did, my Mrs would be in a better financial situation and I wouldn't want any of the family being lumbered with looking after/worrying about me. I told the GP how I was feeling and he referred me to Inclusion Matters.
I just had a telephone assessment from them and they are sending me for a one to one session with a counselor (and gave me the number for the Samaritans, but I'm too much of a coward to do away with myself)

Hi mate, sorry to read of your troubles. I hope professional help and the support of fellow blues on here can see you through this difficult patch.

Keep posting and I am sure there will be lots of helpful comment and advice.

Good luck!
 
(and gave me the number for the Samaritans, but I'm too much of a coward to do away with myself)
Bluefin. Take everything I say at face value as I am not a trained counselor but I feel the need to address your last point.

I believe that NOT taking the "easy*" way out is bravery at it's finest. You are not a coward! Talk to the professionals of course, but also talk to those closest to you. What are they feeling & thinking? What can you all do together in the time you have remaining? Look for the quality in the time you have left, and share it with those closest to you. It also allows them to share their feelings with you as well.

*I mean no disrespect when I use the term easy, I only use it as a perceived option.
 
@Bluefin by the way mate, your family will not see you as a burden, far from it - because you are family and they love you, they will want to do everything they can for you. Appreciate their love and care for you, don't feel guilty about it, you would do the same if the situation was reversed.
 

I have some health issues, Diabetes, Chronic Kidney Disease, etc.
Kidney Specialist told me that I have 10 years left unless I have a heart attack first. I inject Insulin 4 times per day and take 11 tablets per day.
In february, I took ill and was always breathless and became exhausted after even minimum exercise. It took two months for the doctors to tell me I'm asthmatic and inhalers now control the breathlessness to a point. However I still feel exhausted all the time, its sort of a muscular fatigue which is the best way to describe it.
I feel really down, I have always worked, but I haven't been able to make it as far as the bus stop since Feb. I feel like there is nothing to look forward to and that it would be better for everyone if I just went now instead of hanging about, if I did, my Mrs would be in a better financial situation and I wouldn't want any of the family being lumbered with looking after/worrying about me. I told the GP how I was feeling and he referred me to Inclusion Matters.
I just had a telephone assessment from them and they are sending me for a one to one session with a counselor (and gave me the number for the Samaritans, but I'm too much of a coward to do away with myself)
Must be very difficult to lose your health when you've worked and been active all your life. I can see why anybody might feel that there's no point in going on.

But I'll bet your family wouldn't agree....they would be horrified to hear that you felt that way.

One day at a time, Bluefin.
 
I have some health issues, Diabetes, Chronic Kidney Disease, etc.
Kidney Specialist told me that I have 10 years left unless I have a heart attack first. I inject Insulin 4 times per day and take 11 tablets per day.
In february, I took ill and was always breathless and became exhausted after even minimum exercise. It took two months for the doctors to tell me I'm asthmatic and inhalers now control the breathlessness to a point. However I still feel exhausted all the time, its sort of a muscular fatigue which is the best way to describe it.
I feel really down, I have always worked, but I haven't been able to make it as far as the bus stop since Feb. I feel like there is nothing to look forward to and that it would be better for everyone if I just went now instead of hanging about, if I did, my Mrs would be in a better financial situation and I wouldn't want any of the family being lumbered with looking after/worrying about me. I told the GP how I was feeling and he referred me to Inclusion Matters.
I just had a telephone assessment from them and they are sending me for a one to one session with a counselor (and gave me the number for the Samaritans, but I'm too much of a coward to do away with myself)

Hi mate. I'm not to dissimilar to you. Have failing health both body and mind are in a poor state. But you have to keep on fighting, it's such a cliche but that's what it means!
 
scvh
Hi mate. I'm not to dissimilar to you. Have failing health both body and mind are in a poor state. But you have to keep on fighting, it's such a cliche but that's what it means!
Thanks for all the support, just waiting for a face to face meeting with the counsellor. It brings it home to you in a big way that after the telephone assessment, the young lady gave me the local Samaritans number and told me to go to A+E if I felt like I was going to do something.
It is very hard to motivate myself to do anything at the moment. My two sons have come out of work and they have their own problems and they have always come to me for advice (though they quite often never listened) and I think they are struggling to come to terms with how I am feeling.
Its hard, but I'm sure that with the right guidance, I will come out of the other side of this intact, its just that all my working life, I have had to make decisions (some at times were life and death decisions) so I know how to do it. Its just that when I try to look forward, there appears to be no positives with regards to me being here.
 
scvh
Thanks for all the support, just waiting for a face to face meeting with the counsellor. It brings it home to you in a big way that after the telephone assessment, the young lady gave me the local Samaritans number and told me to go to A+E if I felt like I was going to do something.
It is very hard to motivate myself to do anything at the moment. My two sons have come out of work and they have their own problems and they have always come to me for advice (though they quite often never listened) and I think they are struggling to come to terms with how I am feeling.
Its hard, but I'm sure that with the right guidance, I will come out of the other side of this intact, its just that all my working life, I have had to make decisions (some at times were life and death decisions) so I know how to do it. Its just that when I try to look forward, there appears to be no positives with regards to me being here.

My dad was in a similar position to you many years ago mate. He had poor health which meant he was medically retired and then he had a bad stroke which led to really bad depression. Your kids will struggle to come to terms with your problems, but they'll get there and will be there for you. The important thing is that you've acknowledged you've got a problem and you're trying to do something about it. That's half the battle.

You will find something which gives your life more purpose. No one can tell you what that will be, but I'm sure something will turn up. Once you've got through the worst of this, at the very least, you'll be in a position to help other people facing similar problems.
 
scvh
Thanks for all the support, just waiting for a face to face meeting with the counsellor. It brings it home to you in a big way that after the telephone assessment, the young lady gave me the local Samaritans number and told me to go to A+E if I felt like I was going to do something.
It is very hard to motivate myself to do anything at the moment. My two sons have come out of work and they have their own problems and they have always come to me for advice (though they quite often never listened) and I think they are struggling to come to terms with how I am feeling.
Its hard, but I'm sure that with the right guidance, I will come out of the other side of this intact, its just that all my working life, I have had to make decisions (some at times were life and death decisions) so I know how to do it. Its just that when I try to look forward, there appears to be no positives with regards to me being here.
If likes me, draw some strength from your kids, it really does help! At least it does for me!
 

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