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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

BiggyRat said:
Thanks for jumping in granter, and welcome. It's great to hear of alternatives that have been successful for others. It could give someone hope for a better option. ;)

It's always a good reminder though, to seek professional advice if you want to try alternatives. As granter said, it's not for everyone but do check with a professional if you can.
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Fully agree mate. Bit like us on the pitch. Keep trying the same thing over again and hoping to get results . A chat with the doctor with some new idea's is worth a go always.
 
PaulieMc said:
I just don't feel fully happy at the moment even though I have a lot of things going for me.

The job is still going well, I've pretty much mastered it now and was yesterday told that I was going to be offered a full-time contract which is great.

My social life though has gone rubbish the past year or so admittedly, I haven't gotten out anywhere near as much as I'd like. Drifted apart from previous mates who I used to go out to town with and my other close mate doesn't go out much at all, we have a bevvy in a pub every few weeks but that's it. There was a works' night out the other week that I looked forward too but when I went it was very anti-climatic, it started off okay but before midnight one group left the bar to go off on their own into town without telling anyone else. Bit rude that IMO. Then another group went off as well saying they were going home but I know they never, they stayed out and probably just didn't want me with them. I was left on my own pretty much with just the older guys so I ended up just going home on the train, wasted night. I won't lie I still feel miffed by that, for me it feels like I was clearly snubbed and I don't know why because as far as I know everyone in the place gets along with me.

I don't have a girlfriend either and haven't had a serious one for a while because I don't get the chance to really meet anyone, it's crap because I finally feel a lot better about myself compared to a year ago but don't get the chance to put my new confidence into action. All I do really nowadays if I'm not working is stay at home, go the gym (by myself) or occasionally the pub with my mate but it's not enough. It's all very disheartening to tell the truth, yes I'm not having severe anxiety attacks every day anymore but my personal life has gone absolutely crap now even if my professional life is looking very good.

I don't feel depressed anymore, just very bored and restless. I definitely feel like my youth is just passing me and it's starting to really get me down, I don't want to things to be like this forever. Does anyone have any advice?
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I gave up on work socialising few years back. Similar disappointing nights out as you mentioned above.
My wife had similar issues after having our 2 girls . She was an active runner few years back and wanted to get back into it. Stumbled across a running group and hasn't looked back since. Gets the exercise part now but also has a group of similar friends she would never have had.
I myself moved houses away from my group of friends so don't get the usual nights out in the pub with the rest. went back playing football at a 35s level which gets me out twice a week and also odd night in the pub.
I do the gym on my own as I prefer training before work alone
Just about getting yourself out there pal while doing something you enjoy. can be anything . Be surprised how many like minded people you come across with same circumstances . With your new confidence I'm sure it will come easy to you.
 
PaulieMc said:
I just don't feel fully happy at the moment even though I have a lot of things going for me.

The job is still going well, I've pretty much mastered it now and was yesterday told that I was going to be offered a full-time contract which is great.

My social life though has gone rubbish the past year or so admittedly, I haven't gotten out anywhere near as much as I'd like. Drifted apart from previous mates who I used to go out to town with and my other close mate doesn't go out much at all, we have a bevvy in a pub every few weeks but that's it. There was a works' night out the other week that I looked forward too but when I went it was very anti-climatic, it started off okay but before midnight one group left the bar to go off on their own into town without telling anyone else. Bit rude that IMO. Then another group went off as well saying they were going home but I know they never, they stayed out and probably just didn't want me with them. I was left on my own pretty much with just the older guys so I ended up just going home on the train, wasted night. I won't lie I still feel miffed by that, for me it feels like I was clearly snubbed and I don't know why because as far as I know everyone in the place gets along with me.

I don't have a girlfriend either and haven't had a serious one for a while because I don't get the chance to really meet anyone, it's crap because I finally feel a lot better about myself compared to a year ago but don't get the chance to put my new confidence into action. All I do really nowadays if I'm not working is stay at home, go the gym (by myself) or occasionally the pub with my mate but it's not enough. It's all very disheartening to tell the truth, yes I'm not having severe anxiety attacks every day anymore but my personal life has gone absolutely crap now even if my professional life is looking very good.

I don't feel depressed anymore, just very bored and restless. I definitely feel like my youth is just passing me and it's starting to really get me down, I don't want to things to be like this forever. Does anyone have any advice?
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Don't beat yourself up mate. Your life is heading in a different direction now that's all, which is completely natural. You make and lose friends through out your life, it's just the way it is.

I'm hitting my fifties now and I've probably got about half a dozen good mates now, where as in my twenties I probably had well over a dozen. Peoples circumstances change, kids, work, moving away etc. It's just the way life is. You probably already know deep down who your proper mates are already.

This happens to everyone mate, try not to worry about it too much x

Some good advice there from @granter79 too
 
Bally8 said:
What are the side effects of drinking on Fluxoteine?

Worried new job is very social and it being that time of year as well....
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My experience is, nothing will happen outwardly, they won't be working behind the scenes though, after christmas, if you are still feeling down, cut alcohol to a minimum for a while.
 

@PaulieMc, You sound like a young man, I'm so pleased you are feeling confident, that's a lot of the battle. Do you play sports, always good to meet other young lads/lasses. If you are feeling confident, take it by the scruff of the neck and get out there, ask people to the pub etc.

I have lost the majority of my 'friends' now through depression over the years; makes you wonder if they are your friends after all. It's a shame but luckily my best friend is my partner, what I would do to turn the clock back even just 10 years.
 
granter79 said:
Exercise for me was a huge part of getting back on track
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This is so true. I totally underestimated the link between 'healthy body, healthy mind' until it was too late. I've made a lot of adjustments in that respect, including some 'rules' around what I eat and drink, as well as getting plenty of walking in. Benefits have been surprising and welcome - I don't always feel great, but in general, I feel more positive and in control. A lot of that is down to the improvements in my perception of myself, how I look, etc (I've lost a lot of weight), and I wouldn't have achieved that without the exercise element. Thanks for raising this - if it's possible for people to do, it's a great way to help with emotional and physical wellbeing.
 
Naisy'sCharitableLeanings said:
This is so true. I totally underestimated the link between 'healthy body, healthy mind' until it was too late. I've made a lot of adjustments in that respect, including some 'rules' around what I eat and drink, as well as getting plenty of walking in. Benefits have been surprising and welcome - I don't always feel great, but in general, I feel more positive and in control. A lot of that is down to the improvements in my perception of myself, how I look, etc (I've lost a lot of weight), and I wouldn't have achieved that without the exercise element. Thanks for raising this - if it's possible for people to do, it's a great way to help with emotional and physical wellbeing.
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Fair play to you pal.I am a firm believer in all your points above also. Can help on so many levels .
 

Blue Cheese said:
I burst into tears in the middle of town today, my missus took my hand to take me home, I have suffered depression for years, anxiety is new to me and I crumbled, I never went home though, I stuck it out but wonder why.
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Been there mate - don't worry. Glad to read you have a supportive other half - that's gold, that.
 
Blue Cheese said:
Supportive to a point mate but I'm thankful none the less.
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It's hard for those close to us - you can talk to them all you want, but they're hard shoes to walk in unless you know what's going on. She took your hand and helped you home - sounds like 'rock' material mate. Look after her (I'm sure you do) and she'll look after you. X
 
Naisy'sCharitableLeanings said:
It's hard for those close to us - you can talk to them all you want, but they're hard shoes to walk in unless you know what's going on. She took your hand and helped you home - sounds like 'rock' material mate. Look after her (I'm sure you do) and she'll look after you. X
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Our 10 year anniversary coming up and I've had depression 99% of the time, I could not put up with me, love her with all my heart.
 

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