Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[GwladysBlue]

I've been going to counselling now since the beginning of April. I have my last session with my therapist next week.

I can honestly say I have improved massively.

I've been through some really horrible times since around June. Recently had a relationship break-down and it has knocked me for six. I contemplated ending it all and was encouraged to do so by that person.

Disgusting abuse I had put up with. Threats that I wouldn't see them ever again, saying I'm pathetic, worthless among other vile things.

The final straw came when getting punched in the face three times.
I'm not a violent person and didn't hit back.

I depended on him for everything. To feel like I was worth something. He knew this, too.

I've been working through this and my anxiety/depression with my therapist at the same time.

She has been more than just a therapist, she feels like a friend. After getting hit, she actually hugged me and told me that one day things will be better.

I think that is the main thing with anyone considering going down the therapy route. Unfortunately for us in this thread, we suffer from depression/anxiety and we will likely suffer it for the entirety of our lives. The key is to not expect it to ever be completely gone, but to bring it down to manageable levels. It also involves exposing ourselves to situations that trigger our anxiety/depression.

I still get my down days. I still get thoughts of missing a person who put me through all of that. But the key is I feel like I am managing it.

I couldn't recommend therapy highly enough after my latest stint. Be 100% honest with your therapist and really throw yourself into it and I feel we can all bring down our levels of anxiety/depression.

Go to your GP, ask for it ahead of heading straight for the medication.

I hope you are all keeping well.

 

[granter79]

I've been going to counselling now since the beginning of April. I have my last session with my therapist next week.

I can honestly say I have improved massively.

I've been through some really horrible times since around June. Recently had a relationship break-down and it has knocked me for six. I contemplated ending it all and was encouraged to do so by that person.

Disgusting abuse I had put up with. Threats that I wouldn't see them ever again, saying I'm pathetic, worthless among other vile things.

The final straw came when getting punched in the face three times.
I'm not a violent person and didn't hit back.

I depended on him for everything. To feel like I was worth something. He knew this, too.

I've been working through this and my anxiety/depression with my therapist at the same time.

She has been more than just a therapist, she feels like a friend. After getting hit, she actually hugged me and told me that one day things will be better.

I think that is the main thing with anyone considering going down the therapy route. Unfortunately for us in this thread, we suffer from depression/anxiety and we will likely suffer it for the entirety of our lives. The key is to not expect it to ever be completely gone, but to bring it down to manageable levels. It also involves exposing ourselves to situations that trigger our anxiety/depression.

I still get my down days. I still get thoughts of missing a person who put me through all of that. But the key is I feel like I am managing it.

I couldn't recommend therapy highly enough after my latest stint. Be 100% honest with your therapist and really throw yourself into it and I feel we can all bring down our levels of anxiety/depression.

Go to your GP, ask for it ahead of heading straight for the medication.

I hope you are all keeping well.

Such a brave post after what seems like a horrific time you have had the last few months. As you said its always with but you have shown there is some light at the end of the tunnel. Onwards and upwards.

 

[efc_girl]

Feeling awful recently. Probably the past few weeks/month. I just feel numb to a lot now... Resigning myself to just feeling disappointment forever. Falling out with family and isolating myself from them. I feel lonely but at the same time, I want to push people away. I'm fed up of talking about stuff to people and not getting anything helpful back and the feeling that people just think I am in a mood for a few days, rather than recognising this is going on constantly. Also makes me feel selfish just writing that... like anyone has the time to give a sh** anyway.. My expectations are too high. I can't help that though... Yet it just leads to constant disappointment. I literally feel numb to the world and like I am just sitting here for the rest of my life waiting to die. I wouldn't kill myself but I don't half wish I wasn't here. I just can't be arsed with anything anymore. And therapy... I've done it before... I don't feel like I want to be bothered with that. I know I'm not helping myself.

Meant to be going to Brussels for the weekend with family this weekend... I am looking to cancel going and leaving them to it. They say they want me to go but I feel like family situations at the moment just make me want to hide. Everyone is so content and getting on with their lives in their couples or little families and planning for the future and there's me on my own, looking and feeling miserable. I've also decided I don't want to go to any family gatherings over Christmas. I just can't cope with it. I obviously want my family to be happy... I just don't want to see it which sounds awful. Selfishly though, it makes me feel like sh** because I am so miserable. I can't feel joy from anyone else's happiness at the moment. I think it's best if i isolate myself as I will ruin family get togethers etc. I did the other day.

Feeling alone but pushing everyone away. Depression at its finest I think.

 

[Sunderland afc]

As its December and people get low at christmas more than any other time. Make sure if you are feeling low that you get help, even if it is just on here.

Don't suffer alone as there is always someone willing to help.

 

[COYBL25]

Feeling awful recently. Probably the past few weeks/month. I just feel numb to a lot now... Resigning myself to just feeling disappointment forever. Falling out with family and isolating myself from them. I feel lonely but at the same time, I want to push people away. I'm fed up of talking about stuff to people and not getting anything helpful back and the feeling that people just think I am in a mood for a few days, rather than recognising this is going on constantly. Also makes me feel selfish just writing that... like anyone has the time to give a sh** anyway.. My expectations are too high. I can't help that though... Yet it just leads to constant disappointment. I literally feel numb to the world and like I am just sitting here for the rest of my life waiting to die. I wouldn't kill myself but I don't half wish I wasn't here. I just can't be arsed with anything anymore. And therapy... I've done it before... I don't feel like I want to be bothered with that. I know I'm not helping myself.

Meant to be going to Brussels for the weekend with family this weekend... I am looking to cancel going and leaving them to it. They say they want me to go but I feel like family situations at the moment just make me want to hide. Everyone is so content and getting on with their lives in their couples or little families and planning for the future and there's me on my own, looking and feeling miserable. I've also decided I don't want to go to any family gatherings over Christmas. I just can't cope with it. I obviously want my family to be happy... I just don't want to see it which sounds awful. Selfishly though, it makes me feel like sh** because I am so miserable. I can't feel joy from anyone else's happiness at the moment. I think it's best if i isolate myself as I will ruin family get togethers etc. I did the other day.

Feeling alone but pushing everyone away. Depression at its finest I think.

What kicked it all off in the first place ?

Maybe looking at that, could be the starting point to getting better ?.

 

[Rugby Toffee]

Unfortunately I have relapsed. Can't face work or mixing with people. So have ditched my Christmas job with Royal Mail. It is 11 months today I lost my mum. TBH I thought I would be much much better and for a time I was.
But now things seem so dark. I know I can beat this and hopefully this is a blip. I have posted the reasons for this in this thread , so don't want to bore people again.
But I need a positive focal point and coming upto Christmas things could go either way. Still doing my counselling , but in the real world it doesn't seem to help.

Ah well....there are people a lot worse than me....KEEP STRONG AND KEEP COMMUNICATING

 

[COYBL25]

Unfortunately I have relapsed. Can't face work or mixing with people. So have ditched my Christmas job with Royal Mail. It is 11 months today I lost my mum. TBH I thought I would be much much better and for a time I was.
But now things seem so dark. I know I can beat this and hopefully this is a blip. I have posted the reasons for this in this thread , so don't want to bore people again.
But I need a positive focal point and coming upto Christmas things could go either way. Still doing my counselling , but in the real world it doesn't seem to help.

Ah well....there are people a lot worse than me....KEEP STRONG AND KEEP COMMUNICATING

Sorry to hear that mate.

Anniversaries always bring the loss of a loved one into focus more.

Be brutally honest with your counsellor and take it from there.

Keep posting mate, someone's always here x

 

[jaycee]

Unfortunately I have relapsed. Can't face work or mixing with people. So have ditched my Christmas job with Royal Mail. It is 11 months today I lost my mum. TBH I thought I would be much much better and for a time I was.
But now things seem so dark. I know I can beat this and hopefully this is a blip. I have posted the reasons for this in this thread , so don't want to bore people again.
But I need a positive focal point and coming upto Christmas things could go either way. Still doing my counselling , but in the real world it doesn't seem to help.

Ah well....there are people a lot worse than me....KEEP STRONG AND KEEP COMMUNICATING

You have the anniversary of your mums death coming up,add in the Crimbo period which is seen as a family holiday and it is going to affect you mate

 

[Naisy'sCharitableLeanings]

I've been going to counselling now since the beginning of April. I have my last session with my therapist next week.

I can honestly say I have improved massively.

I've been through some really horrible times since around June. Recently had a relationship break-down and it has knocked me for six. I contemplated ending it all and was encouraged to do so by that person.

Disgusting abuse I had put up with. Threats that I wouldn't see them ever again, saying I'm pathetic, worthless among other vile things.

The final straw came when getting punched in the face three times.
I'm not a violent person and didn't hit back.

I depended on him for everything. To feel like I was worth something. He knew this, too.

I've been working through this and my anxiety/depression with my therapist at the same time.

She has been more than just a therapist, she feels like a friend. After getting hit, she actually hugged me and told me that one day things will be better.

I think that is the main thing with anyone considering going down the therapy route. Unfortunately for us in this thread, we suffer from depression/anxiety and we will likely suffer it for the entirety of our lives. The key is to not expect it to ever be completely gone, but to bring it down to manageable levels. It also involves exposing ourselves to situations that trigger our anxiety/depression.

I still get my down days. I still get thoughts of missing a person who put me through all of that. But the key is I feel like I am managing it.

I couldn't recommend therapy highly enough after my latest stint. Be 100% honest with your therapist and really throw yourself into it and I feel we can all bring down our levels of anxiety/depression.

Go to your GP, ask for it ahead of heading straight for the medication.

I hope you are all keeping well.

Sorry to read your story - some of the abuse you've described is horrendous. Glad the therapy has worked. I think you're right - there is no cure as such, but management is possible and life can be much better. One of the things I do is to always make a point of having things to look forward to, and reminding myself of them when faced with a situation that triggers my anxiety. Had a few such hurdles over the last fortnight, so made a point of arranging some 'look forward to' events for after they were done. Made it a lot easier to get past the triggers.

 

[big bobs beard]

Feeling awful recently. Probably the past few weeks/month. I just feel numb to a lot now... Resigning myself to just feeling disappointment forever. Falling out with family and isolating myself from them. I feel lonely but at the same time, I want to push people away. I'm fed up of talking about stuff to people and not getting anything helpful back and the feeling that people just think I am in a mood for a few days, rather than recognising this is going on constantly. Also makes me feel selfish just writing that... like anyone has the time to give a sh** anyway.. My expectations are too high. I can't help that though... Yet it just leads to constant disappointment. I literally feel numb to the world and like I am just sitting here for the rest of my life waiting to die. I wouldn't kill myself but I don't half wish I wasn't here. I just can't be arsed with anything anymore. And therapy... I've done it before... I don't feel like I want to be bothered with that. I know I'm not helping myself.

Meant to be going to Brussels for the weekend with family this weekend... I am looking to cancel going and leaving them to it. They say they want me to go but I feel like family situations at the moment just make me want to hide. Everyone is so content and getting on with their lives in their couples or little families and planning for the future and there's me on my own, looking and feeling miserable. I've also decided I don't want to go to any family gatherings over Christmas. I just can't cope with it. I obviously want my family to be happy... I just don't want to see it which sounds awful. Selfishly though, it makes me feel like sh** because I am so miserable. I can't feel joy from anyone else's happiness at the moment. I think it's best if i isolate myself as I will ruin family get togethers etc. I did the other day.

Feeling alone but pushing everyone away. Depression at its finest I think.

Hi - not sure what advice to give here, have you been to your GP? Is there just one friend/ family member you can confide in? Xmas is a nightmare feeling like this and all the build up / expectations of a perfect day make it even worse. PLEASE don't isolate yourself, maybe a weekend away full on may be too intense but it could also be a chance to see things a bit differently away from it all while hopefully having a nice time in a new environment - obviously don't know your family!! Think about the happiness you must bring to others - despite everything they will love you. Do any of them know you feel like this? Think carefully and imagine if they could read this post I am sure thye would do anything to help, try to confide in someone. Sorry can't be more helpful.

 

[GwladysBlue]

Sorry to read your story - some of the abuse you've described is horrendous. Glad the therapy has worked. I think you're right - there is no cure as such, but management is possible and life can be much better. One of the things I do is to always make a point of having things to look forward to, and reminding myself of them when faced with a situation that triggers my anxiety. Had a few such hurdles over the last fortnight, so made a point of arranging some 'look forward to' events for after they were done. Made it a lot easier to get past the triggers.

That's a brilliant idea.

Also, getting into hobbies, etc gives you less time to fill your mind with depressive thoughts or obsess over anxiety related issues.

 

[Naisy'sCharitableLeanings]

That's a brilliant idea.

Also, getting into hobbies, etc gives you less time to fill your mind with depressive thoughts or obsess over anxiety related issues.

Yeah, I've got a ukulele sitting in the corner - it was supposed to be a 'new for 2016' hobby, but it didn't quite take off! But I've really got into walking and healthy eating this year as well. They were both 'look forward to' things, also intended to give me a bit of control over how I looked and felt. They've both worked out well. Like I said in a post over the weekend, I never really understood the power of the 'healthy body, healthy mind' link before.

 

[witchdoc187]

Hi guys I've recently been signed off for a month for depression and anxiety. I think it's my work place that has sparked this off and I've been feeling much improved. However I'm absolutely dreading going back it's massively put me back as I'm getting anxious at night and it's starting again. Work has caused this and i'm dreading the GP telling me they won't sign me off. I declined medication last time because I don't really want it but the anxiety has kicked in again. Can anyone help me? Can I just go in and say I'm anxious still and can't face going back? I think I need a couple more months. Do I need to explain what work have done? There are underlying historic issues that have recently surfaced and I can't face going back especially if it puts me back where I was a few weeks ago. Any advice what I should tell my GP? Or should I just tell her this? Sadly i can't see the same GP I did last time.

 

[jaycee]

Hi guys I've recently been signed off for a month for depression and anxiety. I think it's my work place that has sparked this off and I've been feeling much improved. However I'm absolutely dreading going back it's massively put me back as I'm getting anxious at night and it's starting again. Work has caused this and i'm dreading the GP telling me they won't sign me off. I declined medication last time because I don't really want it but the anxiety has kicked in again. Can anyone help me? Can I just go in and say I'm anxious still and can't face going back? I think I need a couple more months. Do I need to explain what work have done? There are underlying historic issues that have recently surfaced and I can't face going back especially if it puts me back where I was a few weeks ago. Any advice what I should tell my GP? Or should I just tell her this? Sadly i can't see the same GP I did last time.

Go back to your GP,explain how you feel and give the meds a try,ask for a note to give in at work and also enter it in the accident book,if your suffering from anxiety due to work then its a work related problem and just going straight back wont make your probkem any better

 

[Armel]

Feeling awful recently. Probably the past few weeks/month. I just feel numb to a lot now... Resigning myself to just feeling disappointment forever. Falling out with family and isolating myself from them. I feel lonely but at the same time, I want to push people away. I'm fed up of talking about stuff to people and not getting anything helpful back and the feeling that people just think I am in a mood for a few days, rather than recognising this is going on constantly. Also makes me feel selfish just writing that... like anyone has the time to give a sh** anyway.. My expectations are too high. I can't help that though... Yet it just leads to constant disappointment. I literally feel numb to the world and like I am just sitting here for the rest of my life waiting to die. I wouldn't kill myself but I don't half wish I wasn't here. I just can't be arsed with anything anymore. And therapy... I've done it before... I don't feel like I want to be bothered with that. I know I'm not helping myself.

Meant to be going to Brussels for the weekend with family this weekend... I am looking to cancel going and leaving them to it. They say they want me to go but I feel like family situations at the moment just make me want to hide. Everyone is so content and getting on with their lives in their couples or little families and planning for the future and there's me on my own, looking and feeling miserable. I've also decided I don't want to go to any family gatherings over Christmas. I just can't cope with it. I obviously want my family to be happy... I just don't want to see it which sounds awful. Selfishly though, it makes me feel like sh** because I am so miserable. I can't feel joy from anyone else's happiness at the moment. I think it's best if i isolate myself as I will ruin family get togethers etc. I did the other day.

Feeling alone but pushing everyone away. Depression at its finest I think.

Hmm. To me it appears you've hit an impasse, like you're looking for purpose in your life. No need to resign to feeling disappointment forever; it's only temporary. Expect nothing, get more. Numbness will pass. I would bother myself with therapy; someone who's guaranteed to listen to your predicament.

You could try going to Brussels; I think nobody's expecting you to do stuff all day with your family; if you want you can have some me time. Maybe a temporary change of scenery would brighten your spirits a little. There are some cool walks in Brussels, studied there for a year (do it when they do stuff you don't want to do). Take a long walk in the Warandepark or such, avoid the touristy places.

It seems you're focused on couples and little families and such. Went through a break-up myself wasn't fun but I lived. I recommend doing stuff that takes your mind of it. Do new stuff, maybe you'll end up meeting a new gf.

Since my predicament I seldom visit family gatherings, I wouldn't recommend it. Although celebrating Christmas while watching all LOTR movies certainly has upsides. I don't think you ruined the family get together the other day; I think you thinking that is a result of your present state of mind. They like you.