Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[hallamblue]

In gym with heavy metal music blasting feeling great. Whata difference 24 hours can make.

The difficulty is the lurch in moods though. My wife always asks why I can't be on an even keel. Now I've always been a bit moody but these days I can go from ecstasy to despair and back again in about an hour! The trick is, I suppose to realise that this happens and ride the rollercoaster. It's scary at the time but you will get to the end of the ride in one piece.

 

[COYBL25]

In gym with heavy metal music blasting feeling great. Whata difference 24 hours can make.

How did the doc go mate ?

 

[Naisy'sCharitableLeanings]

Big bit of advice, get into excercise that u enjoy. Use that as your stress release rather than drink.

Very much this. Been there myself and it took me to a very dark place rather than helping. After some counselling, I switched to a nightly walk at beer o'clock, replacing the urge to drink with something more productive. Didn't take long to embed the new habit - I was drinking about five cans of strong lager each night, but after about a month, I was 'dry'. I have a rule that allows me to drink on a Saturday night, but having broken the daily habit, I can actually take it or leave it now. I didn't have a clinical dependence, more an unhealthy habit, but if you suspect you have an actual addiction, I'd urge you to seek professional help.

 

[The_La]

This is an amazing thread - thanks to all those who have been brave enough to share.
I'm new to this really - at least in terms of having a diagnosis. In reality I think I've battled anxiety for a few years but never admitted it. End of November it all got too much and after a meltdown too many I was begged by family and colleagues to go and see a doc. Was diagnosed with GAD and mild to moderate depression and low mood. Hardest thing to do was admit it. Had a couple of weeks off work which helped and then started on Sertraline and counselling. Had to make some changes at work and at home.
Can't underestimate the difference that all this has made. I feel like a different person to what I was before - loads of progress - but still some tough days/hours etc. I'm still closer to the start of my journey than the end, but the important thing is I know what's wrong and I have some strategies and support to put it right. And they are working.
If you're reading this and you're feeling like crap and wondering what to do about it - I beg and implore you to get help. I was diagnosed with mild-to-moderate depression and I have to tell you I had to some pretty chuffing dark moments leading up to that diagnosis. Scarily dark. I dread to think what goes through the mind of someone with something more severe. I also dread to think how much worse I would have got if I hadn't had an intervention.

 

[granter79]

In gym with heavy metal music blasting feeling great. Whata difference 24 hours can make.

Was me this morning at 630 with some heavy techno on. Same affect. Hour of headspace. Keep it up mate

 

[EFCPaul]

How did the doc go mate ?

It went well, the doctor was very kind and made me feel very comfortable. He's put me back on citalopram and prescribed me a week's worth of sleeping pills. He said my chronic mood swings are linked to my sleeping pattern so I need to turn off for the night at earlier times. I'm not getting enough sleep and waking up in the mornings already grouchy so by the afternoons I'm basically crashing from exhaustion and brain goes far west. If I get more sleep and wake up feeling better then the day will feel a lot easier and the self-doubts will recede because I'm feeling generally happier.

I told him about the dark thoughts and he said I absolutely did the right thing calling a friend and if I ever spiral like that again then to make sure I call someone.

If it was a very helpful experience, I'm going back to see him on the 20th and hopefully by then the meds will have kicked in and I'll feel back to normal.

Thanks for caring.

 

[COYBL25]

It went well, the doctor was very kind and made me feel very comfortable. He's put me back on citalopram and prescribed me a week's worth of sleeping pills. He said my chronic mood swings are linked to my sleeping pattern so I need to turn off for the night at earlier times. I'm not getting enough sleep and waking up in the mornings already grouchy so by the afternoons I'm basically crashing from exhaustion and brain goes far west. If I get more sleep and wake up feeling better then the day will feel a lot easier and the self-doubts will recede because I'm feeling generally happier.

I told him about the dark thoughts and he said I absolutely did the right thing calling a friend and if I ever spiral like that again then to make sure I call someone.

If it was a very helpful experience, I'm going back to see him on the 20th and hopefully by then the meds will have kicked in and I'll feel back to normal.

Thanks for caring.

Well in mate, keep us updated

Ps - are you signed off work ?

 

[matty1878]

It went well, the doctor was very kind and made me feel very comfortable. He's put me back on citalopram and prescribed me a week's worth of sleeping pills. He said my chronic mood swings are linked to my sleeping pattern so I need to turn off for the night at earlier times. I'm not getting enough sleep and waking up in the mornings already grouchy so by the afternoons I'm basically crashing from exhaustion and brain goes far west. If I get more sleep and wake up feeling better then the day will feel a lot easier and the self-doubts will recede because I'm feeling generally happier.

I told him about the dark thoughts and he said I absolutely did the right thing calling a friend and if I ever spiral like that again then to make sure I call someone.

If it was a very helpful experience, I'm going back to see him on the 20th and hopefully by then the meds will have kicked in and I'll feel back to normal.

Thanks for caring.

Good to see your feeling better mate

 

[Blue Cheese]

Bad day or two for me. Feel like I've gone backwards a month. Can't sleep at night, all I want to do is sleep in the day, can't stand being at work. Exhausted from my Crohns. Now the missus is worried about financial stuff if I can't keep working. Hopefully it's just a day or two and it'll pass.

Sorry to hear that mate x

I'm still feeling good, I think I am through the worst of it now, my confidence is rising and for the first time in 18months feel back to who I really am. Keep fighting the good fight lids.

 

[Elong]

Sorry to hear that mate x

I'm still feeling good, I think I am through the worst of it now, my confidence is rising and for the first time in 18months feel back to who I really am. Keep fighting the good fight lids.

So glad to hear that. That's fantastic.

I'm battling a bit still. Last day of the week for me though. It's mainly work that's stressing me now, everything else seems to be normal in my life. Looking for a new job. I've dropped a day during the week to help with exhaustion and keep me 100% on the days I do work. Never thought I'd be doing something like that at my age, I would have called myself all sorts of names 5 years ago.

 

[COYBL25]

So glad to hear that. That's fantastic.

I'm battling a bit still. Last day of the week for me though. It's mainly work that's stressing me now, everything else seems to be normal in my life. Looking for a new job. I've dropped a day during the week to help with exhaustion and keep me 100% on the days I do work. Never thought I'd be doing something like that at my age, I would have called myself all sorts of names 5 years ago.

How's the sleeping and the shakes ?

 

[Ashtonian]

Little bit of an update.

I sat down with my new supervisor today and went through loads of interview questions and they were giving me ideas of what the interviewer will probably ask me, with things I need to be adding and all that.

So right now I'm a little optimistic. Probably foolishly mind you but if I can prepare enough answers and get asked the right questions then there is a chance I can move out of my department!

Every time I do get optimistic I fail so probably not good for me haha but I am just thinking what if I get the job, what if I can leave on Friday handing my notice in?

 

[shoouhboo]

Hi everyone. Been awhile since I was last on here. I think I took a break when the whole Martinez out thing was spiralling out of control. Good to be back and of course good to have Everton in a better position these days. Just wanted to ask if others do what I've done the past year. I've been working in IT for 4 years now and hate it. I know this because I'm constantly sending my CV out, looking for something else. I've sent so many emails to different companies, some IT, some completely random [Poor language removed] I would probably never be hired for because of lack of experience. Here it is now, 2017 and I'm still doing it and honestly haven't received many calls back or email replies. I really hate the way the world works now days. I can spew my heart out in and email to someone, explaining myself and what I want to do and never hear a word back. It's crushing. What does it take to be completely happy in life? How do you get the opportunity to prove yourself? Am I completely screwed now that my degree and basically all work experience post working in factories is IT? Am I stuck in this for the rest of my life?

 

[Elong]

How's the sleeping and the shakes ?

Sleeping better, anxiety the same but only when it comes to work or a new place to go. I get better at work half way through the day but not 100%. Still exhausted too.

 

[Warlordperforming]

Hi everyone. Been awhile since I was last on here. I think I took a break when the whole Martinez out thing was spiralling out of control. Good to be back and of course good to have Everton in a better position these days. Just wanted to ask if others do what I've done the past year. I've been working in IT for 4 years now and hate it. I know this because I'm constantly sending my CV out, looking for something else. I've sent so many emails to different companies, some IT, some completely random [Poor language removed] I would probably never be hired for because of lack of experience. Here it is now, 2017 and I'm still doing it and honestly haven't received many calls back or email replies. I really hate the way the world works now days. I can spew my heart out in and email to someone, explaining myself and what I want to do and never hear a word back. It's crushing. What does it take to be completely happy in life? How do you get the opportunity to prove yourself? Am I completely screwed now that my degree and basically all work experience post working in factories is IT? Am I stuck in this for the rest of my life?

What does it take to be completely happy in life? you ask, for me as long as I help others I feel good inside.

Nobody is perfect. We all have episodes when we think. Darn I could of done better there.

You should focus less on how to be 'happy' and feeling you should not feel you need to be living up to definitions and guidelines.

You are yourself, you feel good sometimes, you feel bad other times. Strive for good times but if you need help with the bad it's ok.


Someone is always there for you to talk.

Someone is always there for you to listen.

Come to terms with what you are and who you are. If you don't like who you are seek to make changes for the better

Happiness you will find eventually. The is always a light at end of the tunnel