Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[zzr45]

My mood is odd at present. Moving on from my last post I'm still without a job and interviews are starting to dry up rapidly as it becomes more evident there's something not 'right' with me from a job perspective. Still trying to do bits and pieces for my myself Freelance, but it seems thst's noones interested or I'm being put in the same basket as scammers from India.

Obviously my money has all gone now, in someways its a relief, i cant worry about it anymore. I've been applying for Kitchen Porter jobs as it's pretty much what I did as a younger lad, but obviously places aren't too keen on having me as they think they'll have to replace me in weeks.

In a bit of an odd one sport wise is going better, moved clubs recently to become head coach at a club closer to home which comes with the benefit of some fuel money and a couple of quid a week. There's also a bit more to do so I'm out more often, but still spend most of the week alone.

There are still days when I feel like jacking it all in, driving to Thelwall and throwing myself off. I'm still massively against going to the Dr's as I feel like nothing more than a fraud for being down. It's odd.

 

[Frank Gallagher]

My mood is odd at present. Moving on from my last post I'm still without a job and interviews are starting to dry up rapidly as it becomes more evident there's something not 'right' with me from a job perspective. Still trying to do bits and pieces for my myself Freelance, but it seems thst's noones interested or I'm being put in the same basket as scammers from India.

Obviously my money has all gone now, in someways its a relief, i cant worry about it anymore. I've been applying for Kitchen Porter jobs as it's pretty much what I did as a younger lad, but obviously places aren't too keen on having me as they think they'll have to replace me in weeks.

In a bit of an odd one sport wise is going better, moved clubs recently to become head coach at a club closer to home which comes with the benefit of some fuel money and a couple of quid a week. There's also a bit more to do so I'm out more often, but still spend most of the week alone.

There are still days when I feel like jacking it all in, driving to Thelwall and throwing myself off. I'm still massively against going to the Dr's as I feel like nothing more than a fraud for being down. It's odd.

ive recently been having similar issues, i recommend going to your GP. its not as hard as it sounds. ive never been to my GP for 25 years, and found myelf there last week and they diagnosed me with anxiety and depression which is now being treated.

 

[COYBL25]

My mood is odd at present. Moving on from my last post I'm still without a job and interviews are starting to dry up rapidly as it becomes more evident there's something not 'right' with me from a job perspective. Still trying to do bits and pieces for my myself Freelance, but it seems thst's noones interested or I'm being put in the same basket as scammers from India.

Obviously my money has all gone now, in someways its a relief, i cant worry about it anymore. I've been applying for Kitchen Porter jobs as it's pretty much what I did as a younger lad, but obviously places aren't too keen on having me as they think they'll have to replace me in weeks.

In a bit of an odd one sport wise is going better, moved clubs recently to become head coach at a club closer to home which comes with the benefit of some fuel money and a couple of quid a week. There's also a bit more to do so I'm out more often, but still spend most of the week alone.

There are still days when I feel like jacking it all in, driving to Thelwall and throwing myself off. I'm still massively against going to the Dr's as I feel like nothing more than a fraud for being down. It's odd.

You feel like a fraud for being down because you're trying to fight it.

As @Wizard says go to your GPs and tell him / her what's going on.

Take it from there mate x

 

[ToffeeSwiss]

Well firstly, you did well to finish your college degree given your anxiety. Don't be hard on yourself for dropping out of university...plenty of people have done that who werent even suffering anxiety or depression. If your treatment was the success it seems to have been, why don't you have your doctor review your present anxiety and see if he/she can suggest some further treatment to improve things. Youre not a failure for feeling the way you do,...just human.

Thanks for your support. I'll talk to my therapist and maybe things get better. I also wrote a friend, and I think talking to her about my problems will help me feel less lonely.

 

[Groucho]

Hi all.

There's a GOT team member attending a conference on MH issues in football.

If anyone's got any questions they'd like asking, please post 'em. Or PM me. Or whatever.

 

[Frank Gallagher]

ive been on these meds for a week now, and to be fair ive felt bl00dy awfull all week.

they dont seem to have done anything as yet, but i was told that they take upto 3 weeks to start working so all is not lost.

my doc is away untill next week now so i will hve to go back then if im still feeling like this.

 

[COYBL25]

ive been on these meds for a week now, and to be fair ive felt bl00dy awfull all week.

they dont seem to have done anything as yet, but i was told that they take upto 3 weeks to start working so all is not lost.

my doc is away untill next week now so i will hve to go back then if im still feeling like this.

They can take up to three weeks to work mate. If they're working, you'll notice that one day you'll wake up and feel "normal " again.

When it happens it can be quite unsettling. As crazy as it sounds, you kind of get use to feeling like crap and you're brain almost try's to fight it.

Stick with them and if you're still feeling bad after three weeks , go back to the Doc and try another type.

It really is hit and miss with antidepressants mate.

* stay off the ale if you can whilst you're in the bedding in period.

 

[Frank Gallagher]

They can take up to three weeks to work mate. If they're working, you'll notice that one day you'll wake up and feel "normal " again.

When it happens it can be quite unsettling. As crazy as it sounds, you kind of get use to feeling like crap and you're brain almost try's to fight it.

Stick with them and if you're still feeling bad after three weeks , go back to the Doc and try another type.

It really is hit and miss with antidepressants mate.

* stay off the ale if you can whilst you're in the bedding in period.

ive drank once this week which is pretty good for me. not touched a drop over the weekend, i was hoping to be feeling abit better for that fact alone, but feeling proper crappy.

will just have to give it some time i suppose.

thanks for all the advice, its greatly appreciated

 

[Kiwi]

Feeling a little bit like life's forgotten to bring the lube at the moment.
So to give some context, I'm currently in my fourth (and final) year of a Physiotherapy degree that consists of 3 8 week blocks of unpaid full time work as a placement, and a research project due at the end of the year which I'll need to work on in the breaks between these blocks.
So for this placement I'm placed away from home about 6 hours drive away in Taranaki.
I like the Naki, it's a lovely place and a relief away from the bustling city and pace of life there.
However I have about 0 people I know there bar some family who are way out in the wops.

So this is where I talk about getting what I feel is a raw deal. So throughout the course we've been told there would be reduced fees for this year due to us not really using University resources/lecturers e.t.c. and being away from the university on placement
However instead this year the government decided that papers were to be costed on a points per dollar scheme, meaning not only do we have to pay fees for all of our placement papers, but in fact they are more than we paid last year; all this when we are using little to nothing in the way of uni resources and teaching.
In addition to this, all through my years at university I haven't qualified for student financial assistance from the government.
To cope with this I've worked part time and odd jobs throughout to keep my student debt at minimal levels.
Now though that I'm working full time unpaid with a research paper also hanging over my head, I am going to no longer have the time nor energy to work at all.
This means my ability to support myself living away, with food/accommodation/internet e.t.c. relies solely on the student loan I can claim.
I find this deeply frustrating given the work I have done to keep my loan to a manageable level i.e. <5K, with this likely to escalate to about 20K including the above course fees.

To further add to these financial frustrations, on talking with my research supervisor I was told that I'd be doing the research project by myself, something which is usually done in a pair.
This means a much increased workload on top of the already significant stresses and demands of placement.

Finally, the cherry on the cake, my best mate of 10 years has been struggling on and off with a gambling problem for the best part of a year.
I haven't heard from him properly for 6 months despite multiple effort to intervene, contact him and seek help. I heard last week from the one person he had been still talking to (having isolated himself from everyone else) that he'd said that he wasn't going to talk to her anymore as he was too far gone. I'm still really concerned about him but there isn't much more that I can do.

Ta for reading my frustration and anxiety filled rant, Kiwi x

 

[kithnou]

Feeling a little bit like life's forgotten to bring the lube at the moment.
So to give some context, I'm currently in my fourth (and final) year of a Physiotherapy degree that consists of 3 8 week blocks of unpaid full time work as a placement, and a research project due at the end of the year which I'll need to work on in the breaks between these blocks.
So for this placement I'm placed away from home about 6 hours drive away in Taranaki.
I like the Naki, it's a lovely place and a relief away from the bustling city and pace of life there.
However I have about 0 people I know there bar some family who are way out in the wops.

So this is where I talk about getting what I feel is a raw deal. So throughout the course we've been told there would be reduced fees for this year due to us not really using University resources/lecturers e.t.c. and being away from the university on placement
However instead this year the government decided that papers were to be costed on a points per dollar scheme, meaning not only do we have to pay fees for all of our placement papers, but in fact they are more than we paid last year; all this when we are using little to nothing in the way of uni resources and teaching.
In addition to this, all through my years at university I haven't qualified for student financial assistance from the government.
To cope with this I've worked part time and odd jobs throughout to keep my student debt at minimal levels.
Now though that I'm working full time unpaid with a research paper also hanging over my head, I am going to no longer have the time nor energy to work at all.
This means my ability to support myself living away, with food/accommodation/internet e.t.c. relies solely on the student loan I can claim.
I find this deeply frustrating given the work I have done to keep my loan to a manageable level i.e. <5K, with this likely to escalate to about 20K including the above course fees.

To further add to these financial frustrations, on talking with my research supervisor I was told that I'd be doing the research project by myself, something which is usually done in a pair.
This means a much increased workload on top of the already significant stresses and demands of placement.

Finally, the cherry on the cake, my best mate of 10 years has been struggling on and off with a gambling problem for the best part of a year.
I haven't heard from him properly for 6 months despite multiple effort to intervene, contact him and seek help. I heard last week from the one person he had been still talking to (having isolated himself from everyone else) that he'd said that he wasn't going to talk to her anymore as he was too far gone. I'm still really concerned about him but there isn't much more that I can do.

Ta for reading my frustration and anxiety filled rant, Kiwi x

Quite the list there mate indeed. xx

 

[Kiwi]

Quite the list there mate indeed. xx

Aye, plenty going on to wrap my head around, and not too much in my control. That perhaps is as frustrating as anything.
Good to get it off my chest though

 

[AaronTheBlue]

Hi

Having a bit of a weird one lately, well for the past few months actually.

In the summer I had one of my worst periods, for no reason at all. I actually had a lot of positive things happening for me, and had a lot of good things going. But for some reason it just hit me hard out of no where, every day inside my head was just a utter misery, and I often was just having different horrible thoughts of "ending ". I took myself off of here and sort of went into my own little shell for a while, and managed to let it pass.

Lately ive found keeping my mind busy at all times helps, kind of. But thats part of my problem. At night I just can't sleep, I'm tired I could be exhausted which is usually the case but then my mind just floods with negative thoughts, every night. Don't get me wrong this is something I've had for years so its nothing new, but now I'm waking up from only 4 hours sleep every day, feeling terrible and having head aches for a few hours to go with it.

Hopefully it passes soon, sorry for the rant, usually helps.

 

[Frank Gallagher]

Hi

Having a bit of a weird one lately, well for the past few months actually.

In the summer I had one of my worst periods, for no reason at all. I actually had a lot of positive things happening for me, and had a lot of good things going. But for some reason it just hit me hard out of no where, every day inside my head was just a utter misery, and I often was just having different horrible thoughts of "ending ". I took myself off of here and sort of went into my own little shell for a while, and managed to let it pass.

Lately ive found keeping my mind busy at all times helps, kind of. But thats part of my problem. At night I just can't sleep, I'm tired I could be exhausted which is usually the case but then my mind just floods with negative thoughts, every night. Don't get me wrong this is something I've had for years so its nothing new, but now I'm waking up from only 4 hours sleep every day, feeling terrible and having head aches for a few hours to go with it.

Hopefully it passes soon, sorry for the rant, usually helps.

have you seen anyone about this?? i'd advise going to the docs if you havent already.

 

[chicoazul]

It's hard to give advice as 1: I'm not qualified and 2: it can come across as generic sympathy with patronises people who are feeling down.

Good to see so many face up to them having an issue that needs to be dealt with. Same as being sick and going to the doctor.

Different ways for whatever plagues you including medication as some of you are trying or have experienced.

My sleep suffered as a result of a few things and as a result that magnified any existing mood of a day time as I was tired and intolerant. So sleep is quite important to fix as to find once it is better then it lessens other ailments.

Exercise works for me, I try to keep in shape anyway (by "shape" I mean "teletubby") but if In struggling then I make sure I put extra sessions in at the gym or schedule a walk or two during the week.

A big thing that helped my sleep was mediation. I'm not the type of person who is into all that shiz but it turns out it works for me. There's a good website that teaches you how to meditate but without all that spiritual hippy stuff that you may associate with it.

www.headspace.com

Check it out. There's also an app. You get ten sessions free then it's a subscription.

It may work for you too. Good luck and dont give up or stop trying new stuff to see if it helps. That's the key I reckon.

 

[AaronTheBlue]

have you seen anyone about this?? i'd advise going to the docs if you havent already.

I have spoken to a doctor a few years ago, and to be honest she was really unhelpful, i think it was because i was younger at the time, she was very dismissive of everything i was telling her, and how i felt. In the end after speaking to a consular for a bit they thought i needed to speak to a therapist / have medication. But the Doctor ended up leaving the surgery and nothing ever happened.

I've got a bit of a weird issue with doctors in the first place, i never go and see them unless i feel like i'm seriously in danger, and i hate talking to anyone about anything mentally because it makes me feel really so small and quite weak as a man (weird i know)

so that whole situation was really off putting. Now i find it best just to try and find new ways to help me myself