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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

-wizard- said:
i think there have been a few triggers for me personally. all from about 5 or 6 years ago. i basically sold up and cashed in whatever money i had and went and travelled round SE Asia on my own for 18 months - 2 years in 2009 till 2011. Had the time of my life, untill it was time to come back.

Came back at possibly the worst point i could have with the recession hitting everyone hard. Basically went from living like a king to watching my dad lose his business and house and everything that goes with that. moving 3 or 4 times and being involved between my parents who were obviously at a low point. we just got on with it tho and tried to csarry on regardless.

then a couple years ago i lost a good friend who i had met over in Thailand, quite suddenly and over christmas. that didnt help things.

since being bck tho i have really really struggled to motivate myself for work, looking back i was obviously suffering from something, ive tried to just crack on as normal but this last 12 months has been a real struggle and ive been alot worse.

i fallen out with my family as i wasnt working , (ive always worked for my dad's bussiness) as i just couldnt get up and get myself to work, if i missed one day, it would spiral in to missing a week or maybe 2 at a time. im constantly creating anxiety for myself doing all this.

i tried a change of job just before christmas hoping a new challenge might get me going again, but i struggled through that and it never worked. @roydo

anyway after getting through christmas, my old mate offered me work back in the building and i took him up on it, determined to get going again, but as ever ive let him down and have been facing the same symptoms, which have definatly got worse. to the point where im not answering my phone or going to work, hence why my mate stepped in and went and told my parents.

the doctor has advised me not to pressure myself with work for the next 3 weeks whilst the medication starts to work, so thats where im at currently.

im lucky that my mate who has intervened has been going through something similar, and he could see it in me that i had the same symtoms.

thing is i dont think ive EVER been to the doctors, im 37 now, and im very stubborn and would cut my nose off to spite my face normally, well ive been doing that for the last 4 or so years, ignoring the problem hoping it would mend itself. i was wrong!
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Well done Wiz you've made a good move getting out of your system by sharing your story with us and now medically seeking help. well done mate and good luck you will get through this.
 

Wasn't sure where else to put this, but the big man deserves a eulogy. RIP Grandad Joe.

My grandad took me to my first ever Everton game back in 1996 when I was only 6, and despite being freezing cold and barely remembering the game itself I remember the experience and spending the day with him, I've got him to thank for the Everton bug. It was the first of many games over the years, and i want to carry on the tradition of a grandfather bringing his grandson to his first game when I have kids one day.

He himself only became a blue under special circumstances which has made me believe the 'born not manufactured' mantra. He was taken to his first game later in life than most, late teens, and his first game was watching our neighbours across the park as all of his family were reds. He witnessed a sizeable win from the kop, and though he couldn't put his finger on it, it just didn't 'feel right' to him. He then went on an Everton game by himself the next week, we drew the game, but he absolutely loved it and never looked back since. Season ticket holder for many years until he got too unwell to handle the cold.

Were it not for his gut instinct I'd be a red not a blue and for that I'm forever in debt, cheers grandad, RIP.
 
-wizard- said:
50mg sertraline im starting on
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Yeah, s'right - they are not an overnight fix and you may have some minor side effects like loose bowel movements for a while but that should eventually settle down. I was put on 100 mg following anxiety triggered by my marriage breakdown several months ago. I have since reduced down to 50 mg (l simply cut the tabs in half - they now last twice as long and save on prescription fees...and my GP is fine with this)

The thing is you will go to bed one night, sleep the sleep of the innocents and wake up next morning feeling like you can face anything the world throws at you. It is all about sorting out the chemical imbalances in the brain and gradually when all the crap that has been bothering you is resolved you can gradually be weaned off the meds but only with your Doctor's guidance

I still get occasional bouts of mild anxiety bit just by thinking clearer and now understanding that things will get better and a new chapter in my life is about to start (and l am 57) then l intend to embrace it. Going to GP v West Bromwich in a couple of weeks (first game in a long time) with my eldest girl and really looking forward to it.

Things can and will get better but do not hesitate in seeking professional help. It is there for a reason - to help.
 
Jokerdan said:
Yeah, s'right - they are not an overnight fix and you may have some minor side effects like loose bowel movements for a while but that should eventually settle down. I was put on 100 mg following anxiety triggered by my marriage breakdown several months ago. I have since reduced down to 50 mg (l simply cut the tabs in half - they now last twice as long and save on prescription fees...and my GP is fine with this)

The thing is you will go to bed one night, sleep the sleep of the innocents and wake up next morning feeling like you can face anything the world throws at you. It is all about sorting out the chemical imbalances in the brain and gradually when all the crap that has been bothering you is resolved you can gradually be weaned off the meds but only with your Doctor's guidance

I still get occasional bouts of mild anxiety bit just by thinking clearer and now understanding that things will get better and a new chapter in my life is about to start (and l am 57) then l intend to embrace it. Going to GP v West Bromwich in a couple of weeks (first game in a long time) with my eldest girl and really looking forward to it.

Things can and will get better but do not hesitate in seeking professional help. It is there for a reason - to help.
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thanks for the advice on the meds. very early days for me at the moment. will let you all know how it goes.
 

CahillsCornerFlag said:
Wasn't sure where else to put this, but the big man deserves a eulogy. RIP Grandad Joe.

My grandad took me to my first ever Everton game back in 1996 when I was only 6, and despite being freezing cold and barely remembering the game itself I remember the experience and spending the day with him, I've got him to thank for the Everton bug. It was the first of many games over the years, and i want to carry on the tradition of a grandfather bringing his grandson to his first game when I have kids one day.

He himself only became a blue under special circumstances which has made me believe the 'born not manufactured' mantra. He was taken to his first game later in life than most, late teens, and his first game was watching our neighbours across the park as all of his family were reds. He witnessed a sizeable win from the kop, and though he couldn't put his finger on it, it just didn't 'feel right' to him. He then went on an Everton game by himself the next week, we drew the game, but he absolutely loved it and never looked back since. Season ticket holder for many years until he got too unwell to handle the cold.

Were it not for his gut instinct I'd be a red not a blue and for that I'm forever in debt, cheers grandad, RIP.
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There did used to be a thread for remembering blues that had passed away mate ?
 

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