Baby steps mate.
I'm sure you'll have a least one night out over Christmas / New Year, which hopefully means that it won't be as daunting next time
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Baby steps mate.
I'm sure you'll have a least one night out over Christmas / New Year, which hopefully means that it won't be as daunting next time
Do you ever feel like you are just vaguely filling time in an ultimately unfulfilling life?
I do. I really do not want to feel like this. I suspect it isn't normal or healthy?
I do. I really do not want to feel like this. I suspect it isn't normal or healthy?
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Woolly Blue
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That feeling is very common mate, and, if people were honest, is something most of us feel at least some of the time.
These days we're bombarded with information that suggests that everyone around is is living fulfilled, happy lives, but the reality is that everyone's struggling with something.
Try to stand back a bit and look on the positives in your life. If you do that honestly, and still think life is passing you by, then think about what you could do better.
But ...
... society is pushing us to search for a "happiness" which may be unobtainable. Total 100% happiness isn't really achievable. If you're mainly content with life and have your fair share of happiness chucked in, then you're totally normal.
Wise words my friend.
Tim's tourettes
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Hello mate. Sorry to hear about your situation. Anxiety is a horrible thing. Have u tried being involved in any other sports (non contact)? As @GwladysBlue says, you sound like u need a channel for your frustration/angst. Getting to a gym and pushing myself to the limit does wonders for me! That won't suit everyone but it could be running yourself ragged on a squash court, getting out on a bike etc. as human beings I firmly believe we are designed to push ourselves to the max regularly (think hunter gatherers legging after their intended dinner!!) the endorphins from this are a powerful thing. After my own experience with severe anxiety I believe it's cyclical, u feel crap/stressed/on edge, u don't want to venture out, u hide away and the feelings get worse. Getting myself fit helped me a lot. I hope this doesn't come across as downplaying your situation, u sound in a bad place. Keep ur chin up brother.
goodisonopheliac
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I've never been a sporty person. Always picked last for the team, etc. I can't ride a bike. I have ME, so I go the gym and the odd Pi-Yo class when I can but I get terrible post-exertion headaches and once I've done a session, I'm done for the day and have to rest up. Which is annoying cos it's actually quite fun, as long as I have my iPod. I went yesterday but I'm hungover, tired and have a big translation job on.
The thing with self-harm is, it's not just about pain, it's complicated - it brings a release that exercise doesn't. Lifting weights until I do my back in or running doesn't feel the same. I feel like I have to make myself bleed or make some kind of physical mark on my own body. Like having 1995 carved into my thigh as a reminder. Sorry, it's a bit hard to articulate right now.
(I'm a woman btw)
The thing with self-harm is, it's not just about pain, it's complicated - it brings a release that exercise doesn't. Lifting weights until I do my back in or running doesn't feel the same. I feel like I have to make myself bleed or make some kind of physical mark on my own body. Like having 1995 carved into my thigh as a reminder. Sorry, it's a bit hard to articulate right now.
(I'm a woman btw)
Tim's tourettes
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Apologies for the male presumption!! Self harm is a difficult concept for me to grasp, then again so was anxiety until it hit me like a ton of bricks!! Hopefully someone here can relate and offer some advice. If not, are there specific self harm forums u can use? Don't apologise for not being able to articulate your issues, u will find all of us on he have been through the mill in some way. I may not be able to relate to your specific problems but I understand the feelings of frustration etc
Good luck sister
Nice one. x
Had a very reflective past few weeks, been stuck in my own head worse than ever but hopefully I'm over the hump now. Find myself constantly reading into other people's words and actions, it's a very unhealthy frame of mind.
Trying to enjoy life as best I can but it's hard sometimes, especially when you see other people who you think have it a lot more going for then than you do. Trying to challenge my pessimism and stay upbeat and remind myself I'm only at the beginning.
Trying to enjoy life as best I can but it's hard sometimes, especially when you see other people who you think have it a lot more going for then than you do. Trying to challenge my pessimism and stay upbeat and remind myself I'm only at the beginning.
dano195
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I suffer badly from anxiety and i lost my nan a couple months back. She was taken to hospital feeling ill. My whole family were away on holiday and i had to deal with the first couple of days on my own with no one to talk to. Within 4 days she had died which was hard to take. I thought anxiety and depression would be horrendous after. Don't get me wrong i was in pieces, i had lost my closet grandparent however my depression and anxiety has almost faded slightly. I've dealt with a situation i never thought i could and i feel stronger minded for it. I dont think my anxiety will ever go away completely but i certainly deal with it a lot better.
efcforever
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Good on you mate. You stepped up when your Nan needed you.
I too suffer with anxiety and believe that it will never fully go away. Like you say though, it's all about learning ways to cope with it.
efcforever
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We've all just got to keep going mate, even though it's tough sometimes.
It's natural to compare yourself to other people. Try to remember though that when you look at others that you are only seeing the tip of the ice berg.
How's your job going?
Woolly Blue
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Condolences mate, when someone we love dies, it tends to strip back all the stuff which doesn't really matter, and leave us with the important stuff. I'm sure your nan would be very proud of you.
Life can be tough at times, but, from every negative, there's normally a positive. Next time anxiety is wrapping itself round you, have a think back to this time in life, and remember how you coped. You're likely stronger than you think you are.
What was it on ?