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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Cheers mate.

I'll try to get onto Mind. I don't know why some people become doctors, tbh.

I haven't been too bad this week. Just slowly getting back into my normal routine.

Aiming to cut the drinking down to a minimum. Think that'll be one of the best things I can do right now.

That's great to hear that :)

I found when cutting down drink (although was never a massive drinker) that just by cutting down a bit, you'll find that your tolerance level moves down too. For instance, two pints now and I'm done pretty much. It can be done, but most importantly, don't beat yourself up if you do have a skinful- just reset and go again! :)
 
That's great to hear that :)

I found when cutting down drink (although was never a massive drinker) that just by cutting down a bit, you'll find that your tolerance level moves down too. For instance, two pints now and I'm done pretty much. It can be done, but most importantly, don't beat yourself up if you do have a skinful- just reset and go again! :)

I've also found that I enjoy what I drink a lot more now too, due to the fact that you savour what you have to drink.

Rather than speed drinking like every one else is ;)
 
A bunch of kopites on Twitter were picking on me and I slashed my left arm with a knife and burned it with a cigarette and posted a photo. I wish I hadn't because they thought it was funny.

I'm at the point where supporting Everton is really bad for my mental health. I thought things were going to get better but I'm in so much pain. I just want to hurt myself and burn holes in my skin and make myself bleed. I'm not in a good place right now.
 
A bunch of kopites on Twitter were picking on me and I slashed my left arm with a knife and burned it with a cigarette and posted a photo. I wish I hadn't because they thought it was funny.

I'm at the point where supporting Everton is really bad for my mental health. I thought things were going to get better but I'm in so much pain. I just want to hurt myself and burn holes in my skin and make myself bleed. I'm not in a good place right now.

Do you have anyone that can come round right now and be with you mate ?.

Without stating the obvious, I think you need a break from Everton and to come off Twitter
 

No, I'm on my own and my family all live down south. I'm not suicidal.

I wish it wasn't so wrong to change teams. I love football but I can't stand being an Everton supporter, and I don't know why it's upset me so much. There's worse things in the world and I was never like this in the 90s.
 
No, I'm on my own and my family all live down south. I'm not suicidal.

I wish it wasn't so wrong to change teams. I love football but I can't stand being an Everton supporter, and I don't know why it's upset me so much. There's worse things in the world and I was never like this in the 90s.

Can you please have a look at both of these for me mate :

Sane.org.uk

Mentalhealthfourum.net

They both have live threads running at the mo with regards to self harming.

There's people on there that you csn talk to, who are going through the same
 
No, I'm on my own and my family all live down south. I'm not suicidal.

I wish it wasn't so wrong to change teams. I love football but I can't stand being an Everton supporter, and I don't know why it's upset me so much. There's worse things in the world and I was never like this in the 90s.

Sorry you’re having a tough time mate.

It is gutting about us this season. Everton and football in general are my main interests and no matter how low I get I never lose interest in it and my passion for it is always the same. Always looking forward to the game and watching it.

This season we don’t have that! Apathy and dread for the games coming in! Losing tempers and clashing with other fans and hating our own players.

Like has been said above, stay off Twitter it’s a hotbed of WUM’s and people looking for a reaction.

Don’t have much experience to help you with the self harm - I used to use a punch bag I got from sports direct for anger issues - unsure if this would be helpful for when you get those urges
 
See, Everton fans are obsessed with passion. I don't feel passion when it comes to Everton. I just feel pain and despair. I'm frightened of going to Goodison Park because I've had panic attacks. I hate talking to other fans because I feel like I'm being dragged down. All I see is people talking about how much they hate our players, they hate the team, they hate everything. I hope to G-d it doesn't affect Barkley or Lennon. I dread it when we play because I know I'll take it badly when we lose. I've self-harmed every time we've lost this season, I've still got scars from previous derbies, and I'll keep doing it unless I either switch teams or just go completely neutral. I know part of it is because I know some Liverpool fans, one of whom is in a band who I really love and look up to (they're from Liverpool, were fairly big in the 90s and are massive kopites), and they are very good at making you feel like scum for supporting Everton. Calling us bitter and obsessed. I got scared of even mentioning Liverpool in case they laid into me over it.

I wish I supported Sheffield Wednesday or Bournemouth or something. At least no-one I know could get to me. I hate how supporting Everton has become so [Poor language removed] toxic. I had more fun at Sheffield Wednesday v Millwall than I've had at an Everton match in years.
 
See, Everton fans are obsessed with passion. I don't feel passion when it comes to Everton. I just feel pain and despair. I'm frightened of going to Goodison Park because I've had panic attacks. I hate talking to other fans because I feel like I'm being dragged down. All I see is people talking about how much they hate our players, they hate the team, they hate everything. I hope to G-d it doesn't affect Barkley or Lennon. I dread it when we play because I know I'll take it badly when we lose. I've self-harmed every time we've lost this season, I've still got scars from previous derbies, and I'll keep doing it unless I either switch teams or just go completely neutral. I know part of it is because I know some Liverpool fans, one of whom is in a band who I really love and look up to (they're from Liverpool, were fairly big in the 90s and are massive kopites), and they are very good at making you feel like scum for supporting Everton. Calling us bitter and obsessed. I got scared of even mentioning Liverpool in case they laid into me over it.

I wish I supported Sheffield Wednesday or Bournemouth or something. At least no-one I know could get to me. I hate how supporting Everton has become so [Poor language removed] toxic. I had more fun at Sheffield Wednesday v Millwall than I've had at an Everton match in years.
Have you thought about taking up boxing or something similar?

Might be good to let the pent-up anger on a punching bag or sparring than taking it out on yourself.

You can't carry on hurting yourself the way you are, mate. It might not be a suicide attempt, but hurting yourself with knives, etc could easily lead to something serious happening.
 

No, I'm on my own and my family all live down south. I'm not suicidal.

I wish it wasn't so wrong to change teams. I love football but I can't stand being an Everton supporter, and I don't know why it's upset me so much. There's worse things in the world and I was never like this in the 90s.

Mate don't be alone. If you ever wanna talk about how cold it is to how poo we are then fire away or pm me. Doesn't have to be about your mental health unless you want it to be. Your not alone matey
 
See, Everton fans are obsessed with passion. I don't feel passion when it comes to Everton. I just feel pain and despair. I'm frightened of going to Goodison Park because I've had panic attacks. I hate talking to other fans because I feel like I'm being dragged down. All I see is people talking about how much they hate our players, they hate the team, they hate everything. I hope to G-d it doesn't affect Barkley or Lennon. I dread it when we play because I know I'll take it badly when we lose. I've self-harmed every time we've lost this season, I've still got scars from previous derbies, and I'll keep doing it unless I either switch teams or just go completely neutral. I know part of it is because I know some Liverpool fans, one of whom is in a band who I really love and look up to (they're from Liverpool, were fairly big in the 90s and are massive kopites), and they are very good at making you feel like scum for supporting Everton. Calling us bitter and obsessed. I got scared of even mentioning Liverpool in case they laid into me over it.

I wish I supported Sheffield Wednesday or Bournemouth or something. At least no-one I know could get to me. I hate how supporting Everton has become so [Poor language removed] toxic. I had more fun at Sheffield Wednesday v Millwall than I've had at an Everton match in years.

Passion isn’t always fun and happiness and loving the club. It’s about how much the club consumes you and how affected you get by the results - you’re on an Everton forum posting about us and many fans don’t do that for their clubs. Watching other clubs you have no actual affiliation to means you’re detached from the outcome and can watch the football for what it is.

I watch Sunderland as many friends here that go and as bad as they are it’s just a game of football for me but not for them.

I think it’s possible that other factors manifest and show related to football - do you have any kind of social anxiety or panic disorder? Of course in public places and with ‘banter’ from other fans it can be intense.

I don’t live in Liverpool anymore I’m up in Newcastle and I’m the butt of many jokes here and the odd RS I meet are almost patronising - especially this year. It’s not good you feel at risk for being a Bluenose though!

Really hope today’s a better day for you
 
I have Aspergers Syndrome and related anxiety, yeah. I don't handle crowds or noise well. I managed to keep it together at OT and on the tram after Sheffield Wednesday, but at the Etihad I had a huge meltdown and ended up sitting on the platform crying. They nearly got medics out for me, though I didn't need them, but the sight of a huge crowd of people being herded onto the trams just freaked me out.

I like watching football but it's more fun when there's no emotional involvement. My second team are Cambridge and I'm annoyed when we lose, but it doesn't hurt me the way Everton losing does. I think it helps that their fans are more chilled and more friendly and I'm usually with my parents and their mates.

I'm not into contact sport - ironically, I'm a huge wuss about pain - and strange people touching me makes me panicky, so boxing isn't a good idea. Same with martial arts. I'm not into being beaten up and thrown around.
 
As several of you know, a major part of my anxiety has been around socialising. I had a night at the pub planned back at the start of September. I didn't end up going as I had several panic attacks on the day.

Last night however, I did manage to go and it went alright. It was my first night out since June. I'm really pleased that it didn't trigger a major bout of anxiety.

In the summer I felt like I was in a black hole and couldn't imagine feeling normal again. Feels like things have really turned around now.

This thread has been a great help. Thank you everyone!
 

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