Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[SiEdmo]

New year and actually I appear to have turned things round. I'm in a much better place than I was 6-7 weeks ago. I have lost half the weight I gained so that is make me feel more myself and back permitting I go back to the gym on Friday. I am still on Facebook but giving it far less credence in my life. I would like to thank everyone on here for their kind words as I really do believe it helped. If I can turn it round anyone can and if anyone needs to chat either publicly or privately I'm always on here.

g'wed lad, good stuff

eh on the topic of facebook, has anyone seen Kevin Bridges newest stand up show, he has a boss analogy for facebook

he basically says, to people that are obsessed with facebook, and let it run their lives, imagine it was a pub

you walk into the pub, and you see a guy you went to school with, who is sat in the corner trying to sell herbalife, then a girl you know who for some reason only has conversations in 'inspirational quotes' then another guy at the bar kicking off to anyone that will listen about the 'foreigners who live in his road' then another person showing everyone in the pub pics of what they bought their kids for xmas,you would come back to that pub with a jerry can and burn the place to the ground,

so why do we allow facebook to be like this.....why do we constantly go back to that same pub on the off chance someone we like pops in for a swift half, when we know we cant stand anyone that drinks there regularly,

fantastic analogy in my opinion, and just shows how maybe sometimes on the walk home from work, we should skip going for that drink and just go spend time at home instead

 

[YoboCopter]

g'wed lad, good stuff

eh on the topic of facebook, has anyone seen Kevin Bridges newest stand up show, he has a boss analogy for facebook

he basically says, to people that are obsessed with facebook, and let it run their lives, imagine it was a pub

you walk into the pub, and you see a guy you went to school with, who is sat in the corner trying to sell herbalife, then a girl you know who for some reason only has conversations in 'inspirational quotes' then another guy at the bar kicking off to anyone that will listen about the 'foreigners who live in his road' then another person showing everyone in the pub pics of what they bought their kids for xmas,you would come back to that pub with a jerry can and burn the place to the ground,

so why do we allow facebook to be like this.....why do we constantly go back to that same pub on the off chance someone we like pops in for a swift half, when we know we cant stand anyone that drinks there regularly,

fantastic analogy in my opinion, and just shows how maybe sometimes on the walk home from work, we should skip going for that drink and just go spend time at home instead

Haha great that.. only thing i would say is though there is still people in that “pub” that you like so thats probs why you go back

 

[SiEdmo]

Haha great that.. only thing i would say is though there is still people in that “pub” that you like so thats probs why you go back

oh yeah deffo, so pop in for a swift one every now and again, but we don't need to spend every night in there til closing time do we haha, or...use facebook, just don't let it take over your life, and know that most of it is nonsense that you wouldn't accept in real life so don't accept in a virtual life

 

[Groucho]

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

g'wed lad, good stuff

eh on the topic of facebook, has anyone seen Kevin Bridges newest stand up show, he has a boss analogy for facebook

he basically says, to people that are obsessed with facebook, and let it run their lives, imagine it was a pub

you walk into the pub, and you see a guy you went to school with, who is sat in the corner trying to sell herbalife, then a girl you know who for some reason only has conversations in 'inspirational quotes' then another guy at the bar kicking off to anyone that will listen about the 'foreigners who live in his road' then another person showing everyone in the pub pics of what they bought their kids for xmas,you would come back to that pub with a jerry can and burn the place to the ground,

so why do we allow facebook to be like this.....why do we constantly go back to that same pub on the off chance someone we like pops in for a swift half, when we know we cant stand anyone that drinks there regularly,

fantastic analogy in my opinion, and just shows how maybe sometimes on the walk home from work, we should skip going for that drink and just go spend time at home instead

I took myself off FB a few years ago now, because one night the missus had gone to sleep and I was about to get stuck into a book I was loving at the time. Before I started reading, I had a “quick check of Facebook” which turned into 45 mins of me scrolling through rubbish that pretty much all made me angry.

The next morning I deleted it, and almost immediately had the inevitable bout of “but now I’ll miss the stuff my real mates post”; I toughed that bit out and found that, actually, most of those mates just started texting me instead. A much more personal way of connecting with them and none of them send me any EDL posts!!

 

[davids]

Don't know if this might benefit anyone.
https://www.open.edu/openlearn/heal.../content-section-0?active-tab=description-tab

 

[EFCPaul]

Is anyone around? I really need to get something off my chest but don't feel comfortable posting it in here.

 

[Nymzee]

Is anyone around? I really need to get something off my chest but don't feel comfortable posting it in here.

PM me.

 

[Lawrence]

Being fortunate enough to be a cancer survivor albeit with the mental scars I was holding back tears hearing about Dianne Oxbury from BBC 51 years old and two kids. Survivors guilt i think the term is.

 

[EFCPaul]

Been a rough few days.

Friday I had thoughts of suicide for the first time in a long time, not serious thoughts I don't think but the whole idea of self-harming was on my mind and I couldn't escape it, it was frightening. Felt a bit better today, I had a work out in the gym and blew off some frustration. Gone back on the medication too, hopefully that helps too. Family are away on holiday for the next fortnight, it's going to be very hard to cope I can feel it. Home alone with all my anxieties caused by different things.

I've decided to just end things completely with the girl, it's not going anywhere obviously and I'm seriously fed up. She's not messaged me much this past week when I could actually have really done with someone to talk too, I told her about the problems with the job but it hasn't really interested her. I not heard from her at all since Friday afternoon when I last messaged her offering support for the problems she said she was having. She hasn't replied or popped up since but I've seen on her social media that she's gone out with friends for a night out tonight when she's been telling me for weeks she hasn't been able to find time to come out with me. It's her life, she's free to do whatever she wants and owes me no explanation but its just it's clear she's not very interested in me, least not anymore. Not sure why, I haven't been acting any differently to how I was a month ago when we first began speaking and confiding in each other. Okay then well I'll see you around maybe but I'm not devoting my energy to this anymore.

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

Been a rough few days.

Friday I had thoughts of suicide for the first time in a long time, not serious thoughts I don't think but the whole idea of self-harming was on my mind and I couldn't escape it, it was frightening. Felt a bit better today, I had a work out in the gym and blew off some frustration. Gone back on the medication too, hopefully that helps too. Family are away on holiday for the next fortnight, it's going to be very hard to cope I can feel it. Home alone with all my anxieties caused by different things.

I've decided to just end things completely with the girl, it's not going anywhere obviously and I'm seriously fed up. She's not messaged me much this past week when I could actually have really done with someone to talk too, I told her about the problems with the job but it hasn't really interested her. I not heard from her at all since Friday afternoon when I last messaged her offering support for the problems she said she was having. She hasn't replied or popped up since but I've seen on her social media that she's gone out with friends for a night out tonight when she's been telling me for weeks she hasn't been able to find time to come out with me. It's her life, she's free to do whatever she wants and owes me no explanation but its just it's clear she's not very interested in me, least not anymore. Not sure why, I haven't been acting any differently to how I was a month ago when we first began speaking and confiding in each other. Okay then well I'll see you around maybe but I'm not devoting my energy to this anymore.

I can relate to what you mean about the suicidal thoughts not being serious, because that’s exactly what I used to think when they started, but in reality they are quite serious because left unchecked they have the potential to fester and become dangerous. If your family are away on holiday find someone else you can confide in and make them aware of how you are feeling.

Sorry to hear things with the girl haven’t developed as you might have hoped. It does sound like she’s not that invested from what you say, and that’s not good enough because you deserve someone who is willing to invest time in you.

Keep on with the medication, definitely keep going to the gym and staying active, you’re 100% right to cut things off with this girl because she doesn’t deserve your time or effort, and most importantly talk to someone you trust about your thoughts and feelings. Stay strong lid, everyone in here will be rooting for you!

 

[efcforever]

Been a rough few days.

Friday I had thoughts of suicide for the first time in a long time, not serious thoughts I don't think but the whole idea of self-harming was on my mind and I couldn't escape it, it was frightening. Felt a bit better today, I had a work out in the gym and blew off some frustration. Gone back on the medication too, hopefully that helps too. Family are away on holiday for the next fortnight, it's going to be very hard to cope I can feel it. Home alone with all my anxieties caused by different things.

I've decided to just end things completely with the girl, it's not going anywhere obviously and I'm seriously fed up. She's not messaged me much this past week when I could actually have really done with someone to talk too, I told her about the problems with the job but it hasn't really interested her. I not heard from her at all since Friday afternoon when I last messaged her offering support for the problems she said she was having. She hasn't replied or popped up since but I've seen on her social media that she's gone out with friends for a night out tonight when she's been telling me for weeks she hasn't been able to find time to come out with me. It's her life, she's free to do whatever she wants and owes me no explanation but its just it's clear she's not very interested in me, least not anymore. Not sure why, I haven't been acting any differently to how I was a month ago when we first began speaking and confiding in each other. Okay then well I'll see you around maybe but I'm not devoting my energy to this anymore.

Sorry you're struggling mate. Keep posting in here when things get too much. As you know there's always some about.

Maybe focus on your job interview for now. Try to do a little research on the company. It usually impresses employers if you know something about their firm.

 

[COYBL25]

I can relate to what you mean about the suicidal thoughts not being serious, because that’s exactly what I used to think when they started, but in reality they are quite serious because left unchecked they have the potential to fester and become dangerous. If your family are away on holiday find someone else you can confide in and make them aware of how you are feeling.

Sorry to hear things with the girl haven’t developed as you might have hoped. It does sound like she’s not that invested from what you say, and that’s not good enough because you deserve someone who is willing to invest time in you.

Keep on with the medication, definitely keep going to the gym and staying active, you’re 100% right to cut things off with this girl because she doesn’t deserve your time or effort, and most importantly talk to someone you trust about your thoughts and feelings. Stay strong lid, everyone in here will be rooting for you!

Great advice there from @Woolverhampton_Blue

The thing with " intrusive thoughts " is that they can become all consuming and seem to always find a way to push out all normal thoughts out of your mind.

These thoughts could be because you`ve gone back on your meds and the chemicals in your brain are " balancing " again and throwing things off kilter for a while, before they start to take effect.

Don`t cut yourself off mate, keep in contact with someone until your family get back.[/USER]

 

[EFCPaul]

I feel like my life is in total crap at the moment, this is the lowest I've felt for ages.

The job front has me worried to the death, the girl thing has really disappointed me, my relationship with my best friend has completely sank, I'm all alone for the next two weeks. I just feel like my life is utter, utter s-word and it won't ever get any better because it never does. Every time I get even the slightest hint of something good it never pans out in a good way, it always just unravels and leaves me feeling awful. I can't find joy in anything right now.

If I feel this way tomorrow I'm going to have to call Samaritans, it has to stop.

 

[Vegas Toffee Girl]

I feel like my life is in total crap at the moment, this is the lowest I've felt for ages.

The job front has me worried to the death, the girl thing has really disappointed me, my relationship with my best friend has completely sank, I'm all alone for the next two weeks. I just feel like my life is utter, utter s-word and it won't ever get any better because it never does. Every time I get even the slightest hint of something good it never pans out in a good way, it always just unravels and leaves me feeling awful. I can't find joy in anything right now.

If I feel this way tomorrow I'm going to have to call Samaritans, it has to stop.

I'm sorry to read that you are in a bad place right now. I think most of us have felt what you are feeling at different times in our lives. It will get better, but getting through it can be really, really tough.

If calling Samaritans tomorrow will help you then you should probably do that.

All of us are here for you, to chat or just listen!