Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Tipp blue]

Could`ve been worse, a firm that a lad I know works at, told a load that they`d be losing their jobs just before they went off for Christmas.

No easy way with news like that I`m afraid.

A few years ago my brother in law went to work and when he got there the gates were locked not one staff member knew about it, the owner had to get police protection as some of the staff were out to get him, last I heard he'd packed off and left the country. No redundancy no nothing not even the week in hand he'd worked they were taking payments for orders right up until 6 o clock the previous day, sometime over night the owner came back and locked up the whole place and put a closed down sign on the gate.. It even made the news.

 

[COYBL25]

A few years ago my brother in law went to work and when he got there the gates were locked not one staff member knew about it, the owner had to get police protection as some of the staff were out to get him, last I heard he'd packed off and left the country. No redundancy no nothing not even the week in hand he'd worked they were taking payments for orders right up until 6 o clock the previous day, sometime over night the owner came back and locked up the whole place and put a closed down sign on the gate.. It even made the news.

Wasn’t that big firm of ambulance chasers in Speke was it ?

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Bit late here but Happy New Year to you all. The support you give each other is amazing.

 

[EvertonCJ]

Bit late here but Happy New Year to you all. The support you give each other is amazing.

I think some of the support that you give personally is incredible. Thank you for helping fellow Blues.

 

[Tipp blue]

Wasn’t that big firm of ambulance chasers in Speke was it ?

Nope, it was a medium sized company they made timber frame houses.

 

[EFCPaul]

Tomorrow I learn my short-term fate. I can't help but feel worried even though my long-term situation means I'm not going to be any trouble if I am indeed let go but feel sorry for others.

The interview for the new place is a few weeks away but it feels like an eternity. I hope it comes through and I get it because I hate the uncertainty. I went past the building earlier on the bus home and got a strange vibe but I hope it was a positive sign of some sort.

Spoke to my mum earlier, we've agreed I should go back on my medication. Gone nearly 2 months now without but she's told me she has noticed a change and it's been for the negative. She said I've become more irritable and less patient (I'd agree on both those fronts whole-heartedly). She said she's proud of me for be being brave enough to come off for a good while and if I want to stay off she's fine with that but her honest advice is I was doing better whilst on them so I'm going to start again from tomorrow.

My mood is low right now but hopefully before long it will come right back up again, it has done plenty of times before when I've felt worse than this. I just want to tomorrow over with, today was extremely uncomfortable because everyone was just stressing and speculating. Horrible, horrible day. Least by this time tomorrow I will have a bit clarity and the road ahead will seem a bit clearer.

Thanks for all the support people, for this and the other stuff. I like having ears to vent too and to know I'll be told straight when I need it.

 

[larbert toffee]

New year and actually I appear to have turned things round. I'm in a much better place than I was 6-7 weeks ago. I have lost half the weight I gained so that is make me feel more myself and back permitting I go back to the gym on Friday. I am still on Facebook but giving it far less credence in my life. I would like to thank everyone on here for their kind words as I really do believe it helped. If I can turn it round anyone can and if anyone needs to chat either publicly or privately I'm always on here.

Really good news mate, hope it continues and you go from strength to strength.

 

[EFCPaul]

I've been retained but it's a very hollow feeling. Lots of others who don't contribute much from I've seen have been kept whilst plenty of others who are hard workers and good people have been let go. It's not right at all. People are clearing their desks out crying and yet management expect the stayers to just crack on and keep working, as if nothing. How can anyone do a phone job when theres people sobbing around you.

I feel like walking out right now and telling them to stick it but my mum has advised to wait and give myself the weekend to think about.

 

[Nymzee]

I've been retained but it's a very hollow feeling. Lots of others who don't contribute much from I've seen have been kept whilst plenty of others who are hard workers and good people have been let go. It's not right at all. People are clearing their desks out crying and yet management expect the stayers to just crack on and keep working, as if nothing. How can anyone do a phone job when theres people sobbing around you.

I feel like walking out right now and telling them to stick it but my mum has advised to wait and give myself the weekend to think about.

Unless you have another job guaranteed it would be very dumb to tell them to stick it. If you're going through a rough time you don't want to add unemployment to that.

 

[COYBL25]

I've been retained but it's a very hollow feeling. Lots of others who don't contribute much from I've seen have been kept whilst plenty of others who are hard workers and good people have been let go. It's not right at all. People are clearing their desks out crying and yet management expect the stayers to just crack on and keep working, as if nothing. How can anyone do a phone job when theres people sobbing around you.

I feel like walking out right now and telling them to stick it but my mum has advised to wait and give myself the weekend to think about.

Good advice from your mum there.

Wouldn`t look good on your CV / reference if you told them to " stick it "

Although it would give enormous satisfaction.

The way they got rid of people in my last job was by " managing them out ".

Which in reality meant piling so much work on people that they buckled under the pressure and left.

Or if they were senior, they piled the work on, made them share secretaries / typists, so their work backed up.

If they didn`t buckle, they would turfed out of their own office and they had to sit with the staff in the general office.

It was horrendous and the worst working environment I`ve ever been in.

 

[EvertonCJ]

I've been retained but it's a very hollow feeling. Lots of others who don't contribute much from I've seen have been kept whilst plenty of others who are hard workers and good people have been let go. It's not right at all. People are clearing their desks out crying and yet management expect the stayers to just crack on and keep working, as if nothing. How can anyone do a phone job when theres people sobbing around you.

I feel like walking out right now and telling them to stick it but my mum has advised to wait and give myself the weekend to think about.

Definitely don't walk out. Just try to keep your head down and give yourself a couple of weeks to think about it. Modern management in so many companies these days is horrendous.

 

[Kure]

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[Tipp blue]

Was feeling a bit sad today just one of those days when you feel down but no idea why, anyone else ever get that? But I just went for a walk for an hour and I'm in top form, there's a lot to be said for just going out for a bit of exercise and some fresh air.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Was feeling a bit sad today just one of those days when you feel down but no idea why, anyone else ever get that? But I just went for a walk for an hour and I'm in top form, there's a lot to be said for just going out for a bit of exercise and some fresh air.

I agree. Do you not think the time of year has something to do with it. I don't mean Christmas, I mean that it's so flipping dark all the time. Dark when you go to work, dark when you come home. It makes me feel really miserable. (you are, of course now going to tell us you are one of our Aussie Blues and are currently basking in sunshine and 40 degree heat!)

 

[Tipp blue]

I agree. Do you not think the time of year has something to do with it. I don't mean Christmas, I mean that it's so flipping dark all the time. Dark when you go to work, dark when you come home. It makes me feel really miserable. (you are, of course now going to tell us you are one of our Aussie Blues and are currently basking in sunshine and 40 degree heat!)

Nope Irish, I actually said that to the wife today about it being dark early that it's a pain in the arse. I believe that a lot of people are not in great form this time of year. We are over the worst if it now, there is little stretch already in evening light. I'm actually looking forward to getting back to work now (probably not too many say that) I'm back on Monday.