Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Brett Angell Delight]

Really echo this. My cousin hung himself yesterday. Please (please, please), if you're struggling at the moment, do talk about it, whether it's on here or to the Samaritans or whomever.

Bloody hell, I’m so sorry to hear that mate.

The message cannot be overstated in its importance or delivered too many times on here - Please, please speak up.

Of course, @Bruce Wayne, hopefully you know this applies to you, too. This must have hit you like a ton of bricks.

 

[roydo]

Really echo this. My cousin hung himself yesterday. Please (please, please), if you're struggling at the moment, do talk about it, whether it's on here or to the Samaritans or whomever.

Kin el mate.

Terrible that.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

Bloody hell, I’m so sorry to hear that mate.

The message cannot be overstated in its importance or delivered too many times on here - Please, please speak up.

Of course, @Bruce Wayne, hopefully you know this applies to you, too. This must have hit you like a ton of bricks.

I suppose the pertinent thing is, speaking to his family it's come as a surprise to them that he felt this bad. I guess we're pretty good at putting on a front of normality, especially as blokes, as society suggests we need to be strong.

 

[maccavennie]

Really echo this. My cousin hung himself yesterday. Please (please, please), if you're struggling at the moment, do talk about it, whether it's on here or to the Samaritans or whomever.

Really sorry to hear that mate, thoughts are with you and the family

 

[Spotty]

I hope you’ve read and digested this one, @Brendan Janus

I know it must seem at times like it’s easy for people to say these things because they haven’t had your experiences, but hopefully you’ve been around this thread enough to appreciate the breadth and depth of the collective experience of posters in here and that this experience gives them insight into what you’re going through.

Even if you still feel lost, think about the fact that a gang of strangers with Everton in common are rooting for you and happy to help you through in any way we can. A day at a time, and you’ll get there, mate.

Good luck.

Good Post Brett

 

[Spotty]

I hope you’ve read and digested this one, @Brendan Janus

I know it must seem at times like it’s easy for people to say these things because they haven’t had your experiences, but hopefully you’ve been around this thread enough to appreciate the breadth and depth of the collective experience of posters in here and that this experience gives them insight into what you’re going through.

Even if you still feel lost, think about the fact that a gang of strangers with Everton in common are rooting for you and happy to help you through in any way we can. A day at a time, and you’ll get there, mate.

Good luck.

Really echo this. My cousin hung himself yesterday. Please (please, please), if you're struggling at the moment, do talk about it, whether it's on here or to the Samaritans or whomever.

Bruce I've linked this in the hope it may be useful for you or loved ones. Take care.

Losing someone to suicide

Read about what you may experience if you lose someone to suicide, and what help and support is available.

www.mind.org.uk

 

[dave n]

Really echo this. My cousin hung himself yesterday. Please (please, please), if you're struggling at the moment, do talk about it, whether it's on here or to the Samaritans or whomever.

Absolutely horrible news mate. Sending you and your family my condolences.

 

[Billy Dean]

Really echo this. My cousin hung himself yesterday. Please (please, please), if you're struggling at the moment, do talk about it, whether it's on here or to the Samaritans or whomever.

Very sad news. Very sorry to hear that Bruce.

 

[Groucho]

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@Brendan Janus this may help. If your recent posts are indicative of your thoughts, then I suggest using these and seeing your GP.

 

[ForeverBlue92]

Really echo this. My cousin hung himself yesterday. Please (please, please), if you're struggling at the moment, do talk about it, whether it's on here or to the Samaritans or whomever.

Sorry to hear mate x

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

I suppose the pertinent thing is, speaking to his family it's come as a surprise to them that he felt this bad. I guess we're pretty good at putting on a front of normality, especially as blokes, as society suggests we need to be strong.

I think you’re bang on. So sad and frustrating that a lot of us - myself very much included - seem to miss the point that the real strength lies in opening up and accepting help.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

I suppose the pertinent thing is, speaking to his family it's come as a surprise to them that he felt this bad. I guess we're pretty good at putting on a front of normality, especially as blokes, as society suggests we need to be strong.

This has been bothering me a bit. The guy's brother has shared news of the death online and people are all "sorry for your loss" etc. as though they're the victims rather than the guy who was so low he saw no way out. We've all let "him" down by not helping him through this. "We" don't deserve sympathy imo.

 

[maccavennie]

This has been bothering me a bit. The guy's brother has shared news of the death online and people are all "sorry for your loss" etc. as though they're the victims rather than the guy who was so low he saw no way out. We've all let "him" down by not helping him through this. "We" don't deserve sympathy imo.

Sometimes though mate its easy in hindsight to say "I could have done this, I should have done that" when in reality we dont know the depths of despair someone might really be at.

We can only help those who ask for help, as that's the first sign that we can hold out a hand and put an arm around a shoulder.

I remember a very very long time ago when I was a young lad and my dad was really going through the mixer. I know he was having a tough time of it but not the level he actually was.

He drove me to school and after it ploughed his car clean into a wall looking to end it all. Stayed with me for years because that last chat I had with him I was like "come on dad, got to be tough and get through this, no time to feel sorry for ourselves".

The single most worst advice I could have ever given obviously. But I was a young boy and though it bothered me for years, once I got to an age of adulthood I realised that all i was doing was doing my best.

Sorry for going off topic anyway mate, and in my rubbish roundabout way of saying things I'm just trying to say that it's okay for people to see if you are ok and that at times like now no one should be feeling guilt, only a great sadness at the loss of a family member who couldn't find a way out for help.

 

[Guru888]

I’ve been struggling massively over the last couple of years with addiction, anxiety and now depression and I don’t really know what to do or say on this thread but I do feel very very low the last few days and I’m not good at ringing Samaritans because I feel a bit ashamed

 

[Nymzee]

I’ve been struggling massively over the last couple of years with addiction, anxiety and now depression and I don’t really know what to do or say on this thread but I do feel very very low the last few days and I’m not good at ringing Samaritans because I feel a bit ashamed

No need to feel ashamed mate to the Samaritans. It’s an anonymous phone call, they won’t know who you are, you can speak freely not knowing who they are either.