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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Bluerover said:
We are all feeling the same mate. There are days when I can't get out of bed. Retired now so work is not an issue. Everton really pulling me down although logically why should I be affected by a crowd of pampered Muppets? Probably 53 years of following this Club.
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I have banned myself from watching the games until end of season.

Not been that well health wise - was operated on again today- and keeping positive is key because some of the issues are in the head too.

Struggling to cope with the plight of the poor Ukranians. Just dont have the band width to deal with our multi millionaires and their inability to do their day jobs.
 
Curtis said:
I'm sorry you had to endure that experience, it's quite agonizing to be not acknowledged by someone you've invested feelings towards even if the time with was fleeting. As you know I'm wrestling with similar rejection and I'm realizing you can't let yourself be defined by those events. It's stings especially when your reminded of the past but you cant let it bury you as am trying to navigate that myself. Thanks for the response to know I'm not the only one that has had to tolerate such an awkward situation. Wish you well mate
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Thanks mate, really good advice. Wishing you all the best too.
 
toffee-boy said:
Hi all, not done this before so feels a little odd, however I'm struggling a bit today, not eating or sleeping very well at the moment, loss of appetite etc.
Just the state of the world is so concerning, I have this constant fear of impending doom that we're on course for a nuclear war.
I have a very young family and feel like I'm failing in doing my job role which is to protect them.
I've been trying to keep away from the news but find it very difficult as it's on your phone, TV, social media etc etc.
Been trying to continue with every day life and route, but I just have this constantly in the back of my mind going around and around and struggling to switch off from it.
I'm also starting to lose interest in the things I enjoyed before, like Everton, given away tickets etc as I don't have the motivation to get up and go.

All the best
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see im going to disagree i think this is just “normal” people arent happy all the time and intrests change, id give it abit longer after switching off the news channel, then if still same maybe have a think

In the meantime go out with some friends laugh and love
 
BluePaul86 said:
Thanks mate, really good advice. Wishing you all the best too.
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Thanks I'm glad you found my words beneficial also I also just wanted to mention that you should never perceive yourself weak for reaching out and attempting to forge a connection with another person. As a human being it's a natural yearn to seek validation and affection from others dont ever feel guilt or let it affect your self worth due to those feelings.
 
argietoffee said:
I have banned myself from watching the games until end of season.

Not been that well health wise - was operated on again today- and keeping positive is key because some of the issues are in the head too.

Struggling to cope with the plight of the poor Ukranians. Just dont have the band width to deal with our multi millionaires and their inability to do their day jobs.
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It’s imperative you concentrate on your health for your own well being, there is little you can do about Ukraine except, like a lot of us pray for that country and it’s inhabitants, Everton will take care of itself one way or the other, hopefully the right way, as you say some of your problems are in the head so just try and get your physical position okay and try and let the other problems not get you down. If you’ve just had an operation you mostly need plenty of rest. Best wishes you overcome all these problems, mental and physical.
 

Cameron Manning said:
It’s imperative you concentrate on your health for your own well being, there is little you can do about Ukraine except, like a lot of us pray for that country and it’s inhabitants, Everton will take care of itself one way or the other, hopefully the right way, as you say some of your problems are in the head so just try and get your physical position okay and try and let the other problems not get you down. If you’ve just had an operation you mostly need plenty of rest. Best wishes you overcome all these problems, mental and physical.
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Trying to take my advice and yours!

Appreciate the sentiment, CM.
 
anjelikaferrett said:
Sorry to hear this. Anything we can do to help?
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I appreciate concern , I'm currently set to stay with a friend in Pennsylvania with me currently being displaced. Do think anyone on this thread has delereon from back to the future and so I could go back in time and make better choices? lol actually the guidance and support provided on this thread has been beneficial. So the fact I was able to just have a venue to express my plight aided me greatly and was an incredible service.
 
Hi all, I’ve lurked on this forum for years. I’ve had a season ticket since 2000/01. I used to go the match with my dad. In summer 2020 he was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and after a pretty awful 9 months he died in April 2021, he was 67. It’s approaching a year since he died and I still feel rotten. People trot out the line ‘it gets easier with time’ but it really doesn’t feel like that! My mum died when I was 6 we were really close, he was my best mate.
I debated over renewing my season ticket but eventually decided I would. It’s been tough going this year, and not just because of the poor performances on the pitch! Still feels strange walking across the park on my own.
Anyway, I don’t really know why I’m posting this- I think mainly because I’ve recently started posting more regularly and it’s good to have a place where I can vent about our poor performances and talk about the game. Silly as it sounds, being able to come on here and talk footie feels like a small step to feeling ok!
 
blueblood said:
Hi all, I’ve lurked on this forum for years. I’ve had a season ticket since 2000/01. I used to go the match with my dad. In summer 2020 he was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and after a pretty awful 9 months he died in April 2021, he was 67. It’s approaching a year since he died and I still feel rotten. People trot out the line ‘it gets easier with time’ but it really doesn’t feel like that! My mum died when I was 6 we were really close, he was my best mate.
I debated over renewing my season ticket but eventually decided I would. It’s been tough going this year, and not just because of the poor performances on the pitch! Still feels strange walking across the park on my own.
Anyway, I don’t really know why I’m posting this- I think mainly because I’ve recently started posting more regularly and it’s good to have a place where I can vent about our poor performances and talk about the game. Silly as it sounds, being able to come on here and talk footie feels like a small step to feeling ok!
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Sorry to hear about your Dad mate, it's clear that your Dad is still with you and apart from when he was poorly you have good memories.
Time may lessen the blow but it doesn't take away the sadness.
I think you have diagnosed correctly the fact that posting is a step in a positive direction, a bit of therapy if you like and a good sign you're finding your old self.
It's good that you've posted and it can be a little daunting wondering if you've done the right thing.
Keep on posting blue, vent your feelings along with the rest of us until we're back to winning ways,I wish you all the best and will look out for you throughout the site.
 

So sorry to hear this. Things have been pretty awful for you over the last couple of years. It is not long since your Dad passed away and it is natural that the pain is still raw. Take things at your own pace and you will find that the pain will lessen over time. Your Dad will always be with you in your heart. It can be intimidating but keep posting, it’s always good to get things off your chest. If you haven’t tried it already The Messymascot Faith in Humanity thread is a haven of positivity with loads of great posters and nothing is off topic. Wishing you all the best.?
 
EFC-Girl said:
Hi everyone

Just read the last few pages and just want to say to you all is to keep strong.

I have mental health issues too and I wouldn’t like anyone living in my head.
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I am sorry to read this, if you feel able to post it may help to share your feelings, you are amongst friends. As @Spotty asks have tried to seek medical help? Please don’t suffer alone and in silence. Best wishes?
 

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