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peteblue said:
My wife was watching a film so only just got her into bed. I’m whacked but will be up in five and a half hours to change her. I’d love to have an actual lay in one day, but it isn’t going to happen. Mates funeral Thursday at the Crematorium, my lad is closing the shop so he can look after my wife while I attend in the morning, then it’s back home immediately after to change her again then wash, dress her and feed her. Our routines work well for my wife but it sucks the life out of myself. Sorry for being a bit self pitying, I’ll bounce back again tomorrow, goodnight all………
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Pete, you are amazing. I have nothing but admiration for the way you care for your wife.
 


Good morning all. I'm at the thinking about going swimming stage at the moment. In about half an hour or so, after a cuppa, I will be at the ready to go swimming stage. These things take time.
I've read two books in the last few days. Both non fiction- The Alan Rickman Diaries and, All That Matters - Chris Hoy's book. One I wish I hadn't read and the other was amazing. I've long been a fan of both. Alan Rickman came across as a not very nice person. He had his friends but he seemed very self absorbed and I think he would be a nightmare to work with. Maybe he never intended his diaries to be published- they were just him letting off steam but it didn't endear me to him one bit. Chris Hoy's book however was raw, honest and brutal. Also inspiring in how he is using his mindset as an elite athlete to deal with his cancer diagnosis. On a personal level, it also helped me to understand how my Chris must have felt when he was diagnosed. I know my Chris isn't in as bad a situation as Chris Hoy but the emotions must have been similar. Chris Hoy comes across as the immensely likeable and humble person I knew he was.
I wonder what tonight will bring. Game 1 of Moyes 2.0. We can but wait and see!
 
peteblue said:
My wife was watching a film so only just got her into bed. I’m whacked but will be up in five and a half hours to change her. I’d love to have an actual lay in one day, but it isn’t going to happen. Mates funeral Thursday at the Crematorium, my lad is closing the shop so he can look after my wife while I attend in the morning, then it’s back home immediately after to change her again then wash, dress her and feed her. Our routines work well for my wife but it sucks the life out of myself. Sorry for being a bit self pitying, I’ll bounce back again tomorrow, goodnight all………
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At the risk of telling you stuff you know, have you had a look into respite care?

Breaks for carers | Leicestershire County Council

Caring can be exhausting, so it's important to have some time for you. This will help you and the person you care for.
www.leicestershire.gov.uk www.leicestershire.gov.uk

When my Dad was needing 24/7 care, I found a local charity who provided 4hrs 'sitting' respite. It allowed my Mom a bit of a breather in the week so she could get out and see her mates. Weekends i could help, but work in the week etc.

Different council, of course, but all the options should be listed on your local council's pages.

Might be useful to know for anyone else in the same boat. It's hard being full time carer 4 hrs might not sound much, but just doing something else for a bit was huge.
 
peteblue said:
Unfortunately it’s called getting old Jazzy. When I wasn’t travelling the world I would compete at various Shotokan Karate competitions. I used to do ok against all the other black belts but as I got older I eventually I slowed down. When the realisation that I could get seriously hurt entered my head I stopped competing, continued training but relaxed a bit more thinking more of the technical aspects than the physical. As I say, it’s called getting old, your brain still tells you what to do and when but the body just slows down. Enjoy just playing but don’t let any reduction in speed get to you. Remember, we all get old. In my mind I’m still 23, until I look into the mirror or try to kneel down. It’s a bugger but that’s life I’m afraid……….
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I get irritated by the trite remark “ Age is just a number” used in my sport , usually to refer to older runners who have done well and often written as a compliment by someone much younger. Wrong. Age comes with all kinds of physical limitations that affect you in sport , people battle against them , accept them but can never overcome them fully. It takes a lot of hard work to keep going in sport when you are older and you don’t do so by somehow mentally thinking you’re younger and that’s all you need. I do recognise I am lucky I’m still able to run and there’s an element of luck in remaining injury free involved too!
 

Daveysgingerlovechild said:
At the risk of telling you stuff you know, have you had a look into respite care?

Breaks for carers | Leicestershire County Council

Caring can be exhausting, so it's important to have some time for you. This will help you and the person you care for.
www.leicestershire.gov.uk www.leicestershire.gov.uk

When my Dad was needing 24/7 care, I found a local charity who provided 4hrs 'sitting' respite. It allowed my Mom a bit of a breather in the week so she could get out and see her mates. Weekends i could help, but work in the week etc.

Different council, of course, but all the options should be listed on your local council's pages.

Might be useful to know for anyone else in the same boat. It's hard being full time carer 4 hrs might not sound much, but just doing something else for a bit was huge.
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Thanks DGLC, fortunately I have a son who lives with us and who gives me respite hours in the evening while I see my friends. There are some wonderful charities out there providing support as and when needed…..
 

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