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Christmas gift obligations

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MikelsGoat said:
At the start of November I thought I would help out with Christmas, asked everybody what they wanted, bought some things from Amazon and had most of it boxed off. The wife went mad, told me to stop interfering and to leave it all to her.

Last night she attempted to moan about how little time she has left and tried to list how many more presents she had to buy.

Im quite surprised I'm not in Walton, lad.
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They've been too easily brainwashed by the consumerist culture so now they think if they don't spend everything they look tight/uncaring etc. Its so set in you rail against the power of the ad men at your own risk.

Women are the capitalist's wet dream.
 

chrismpw said:
Years ago I rid myself of the interminable cycle of giving and receiving gifts to friends and family, with strategic conversations designed to cease the escalation. Christmas has been so much better for it. I no longer stress about having to find and wrap something the receiver inevitably probably doesn’t want or need and furthermore I don't impose upon them the obligation to find and give me something I don't want or need.

Let's face it, I'm an adult, I can buy the things I want and need. Christmas is for kids- who can't.

Then I accidentally drifted into a relationship. Enter the missus who goes over the top with everyone. She has a group of friends that I've been dragged into who now insist on giving each other multiple gifts and a few years ago they had the idea of home made gifts. While it was a good idea at first - It has become a monster taking months of preparation and unsurprisingly, costing a fortune. Now I'm not exactly a grinch, like you'd expect. They show skill and care in what they make, but nothing, nothing that they make is anything I want. Whats worse now the wife is stressy because components she needs are late in the post and she wants ME to spend hours driving around like a miserable bad tempered santa, burning fuel and damaging the environment needlessly delivering the piles of unwanted tat to households, in the middle of a pandemic. Shes already had a hissy fit like an 8 year old girl not getting her way because I said I'm not happy doing that. She'll be in s mood until she gets her way now - standard female coersive strategy that people seem to accept.

What's worse they're planning to do a zoom call where they all open the presents together. They're well into their 50s and 60s ffs!

Fecking hate Christmas because of how material people make it.

Solutions please....

Have already considered presenting bags of sawdust so no ta.
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That's what generally happens innit?
 
chrismpw said:
Years ago I rid myself of the interminable cycle of giving and receiving gifts to friends and family, with strategic conversations designed to cease the escalation. Christmas has been so much better for it. I no longer stress about having to find and wrap something the receiver inevitably probably doesn’t want or need and furthermore I don't impose upon them the obligation to find and give me something I don't want or need.

Let's face it, I'm an adult, I can buy the things I want and need. Christmas is for kids- who can't.

Then I accidentally drifted into a relationship. Enter the missus who goes over the top with everyone. She has a group of friends that I've been dragged into who now insist on giving each other multiple gifts and a few years ago they had the idea of home made gifts. While it was a good idea at first - It has become a monster taking months of preparation and unsurprisingly, costing a fortune. Now I'm not exactly a grinch, like you'd expect. They show skill and care in what they make, but nothing, nothing that they make is anything I want. Whats worse now the wife is stressy because components she needs are late in the post and she wants ME to spend hours driving around like a miserable bad tempered santa, burning fuel and damaging the environment needlessly delivering the piles of unwanted tat to households, in the middle of a pandemic. Shes already had a hissy fit like an 8 year old girl not getting her way because I said I'm not happy doing that. She'll be in s mood until she gets her way now - standard female coersive strategy that people seem to accept.

What's worse they're planning to do a zoom call where they all open the presents together. They're well into their 50s and 60s ffs!

Fecking hate Christmas because of how material people make it.

Solutions please....

Have already considered presenting bags of sawdust so no ta.
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On a serious note, I feel your pain. It will be just us four this year and I am really, the older I get the least I can be arsed with other people or their kids at Christmas.
Your point about driving around frantically looking for stuff that ultimately no one wants or needs is spot on.
Then it's all over after months of crap adverts and music.....poof gone.
 

COYBL25 said:
I feel your pain mate.

A Christmas present to me is a book or a CD that I really like ( showing my age ) or if someone really wants to push the boat out, a new pair of running shoes.

I really don`t get the fact that the quality of the present is gauged by the cost, even if it`s something completely soulless and completely unrepresentative of you as a person.

I`d quite happily rent out an cottage on isolated moor somewhere from Christmas Eve to New Years Day and just avoid the whole thing.
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If it wasn't for our children, I'd happily go away for Christmas and be off the grid as in reality we don't go and see anyone on Christmas day.

Showmanship and trying to outdo everyone for the most lavish and expensive present just baffles me because it only creates more problems for everyone.

I've asked for car cleaning stuff that isn't overly expensive because I want it: it's not lavish or exciting and I know I'm getting it, but it's what I want the most.
 
Joey66 said:
Post the person who never acknowledged my Christmas animated e card lol
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I don’t get involved in Christmas Joey. It‘s a slippery slope. First its e-cards, then proper cards, then decorations and presents. Next thing you know your posting on a football forum on the brink of a meltdown cos you‘ve been asked to buy gift bags.

Not for me thanks.
 

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