Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[kithnou]

Hahaha I’m going to ponder about that

Greece, is that where you are at? I was just wondering.

No, I'm in Melbourne. Soon to be lockdown capital of the world.

 

[trebilcock66]

Been lying awake stressing about work for the last 3 hours. Need a new job

Hello. I'm a professional jobsearch coach and might be able to help you. I wouldn't charge anything. No guarantees of success like, but I've helped a lot of people over the years. All jobs have some pressures but if it's keeping you awake at night, something needs to change. DM me if you'd like to talk.

 

[Earwigjoe]

Hello. I'm a professional jobsearch coach and might be able to help you. I wouldn't charge anything. No guarantees of success like, but I've helped a lot of people over the years. All jobs have some pressures but if it's keeping you awake at night, something needs to change. DM me if you'd like to talk.

Brilliant mate.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

No, I'm in Melbourne. Soon to be lockdown capital of the world.

Never been to Melbourne but I hope the Covid situation improves there and that you find your freedom soon.

 

[riddick]

@riddick how are you doing? Were you able to find a therapist?

Genuinely not sure about the therapist part. Today is a...weird day. Some issues but mostly bearable. This whole thing really annoys me. Got a meeting tomorrow with one in theory but let's see how it goes. I've called and emailed about 20 others, that was fun. I have a meeting with the psychiatrist who I was assigned when in the hospital but we're talking almost a full month later at this point which is BS.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Genuinely not sure about the therapist part. Today is a...weird day. Some issues but mostly bearable. This whole thing really annoys me. Got a meeting tomorrow with one in theory but let's see how it goes. I've called and emailed about 20 others, that was fun. I have a meeting with the psychiatrist who I was assigned when in the hospital but we're talking almost a full month later at this point which is BS.

Oh man, I'm really sorry you have every right to be angry this situation is total BS and it shouldn't be like this when someone is trying to take care of their mental health. In a way know what you are going through when it comes to your search. Last year my daughter was having some behavioral issues and I thought she could get some professional help but due to our insurance the more holistic type of therapists that I found for her wouldn't be covered and some of the ones that were covered by insurance had a waiting lists. I made so many calls and sent emails, I almost gave up but after two months I finally found the right match for her so don't be deterred and keep searching, you will find the right person it just may take a bit longer. Until then know that we are here for you as your family is there for you ?

 

[the golden visionary]

Hello. I'm a professional jobsearch coach and might be able to help you. I wouldn't charge anything. No guarantees of success like, but I've helped a lot of people over the years. All jobs have some pressures but if it's keeping you awake at night, something needs to change. DM me if you'd like to talk.

Thanks for the kind offer. I'll definitely consider your help should I chose to go in a different direction with work.

 

[Spotty]

"I can't see an end to it."

I've been reading some of my posts in this thread from 4 years ago and that line really hit me. As a family we had 4+ horrific years when my eldest son had serious issues with anxiety and depression. We really were struggling and my son was in a dark place. He missed so much school, was physically abusive to us, was suicidal and we had the police/ambulance out to us on more than one occasion. I was lost, couldn't see how we'd get out of it and as a family we were falling apart.

I provided further updates to the thread on his improvements but today seemed like a good time to say how proud I am of where he's at now. He's 16 today. This all started around 6 years ago. After he was put on medication and switched schools he achieved 100% attendance at school until covid hit. He made new friends at his new school and maintained his friends from his old school. He coped with covid, home learning and all the extra assessments. He's got a girlfriend now too who he's been with for a while. He got his GCSE results recently and did fantastically well and got what he needed for a levels at college. He went on a two week work experience over summer and impressed them that much that they offered him a job/apprenticeship. He's decided to do that and hopefully starts in two weeks. He's funny, articulate, intelligent and caring. All the things I knew were buried in there.

Whilst on work experience he was given a lift home by someone who worked there. They were talking and they established that the paramedic who came to see my son and talked to him for three hours was this guys brother in law. This paramedic didn't give up on my son and eventually convinced him to go to hospital. That day was a turning point. Sadly, the paramedic died of covid last year. My son told the guy that he was sad to learn of his passing as whilst he didn't know him, he felt a connection with him as he saved his life that day.

So whilst I don't think we are at the end of this, we are certainly in a place that I didn't think we'd ever get to.

Thanks to all those who supported me at the time with messages of support. At one point, this was the only place I could "talk".

Barm.

Great post this, love it.

 

[Spotty]

Been lying awake stressing about work for the last 3 hours. Need a new job

May I enquire how you earn your crust buddy. Is it just the job keeping you up?

 

[Spadge Vernacular]

Hello. I'm a professional jobsearch coach and might be able to help you. I wouldn't charge anything. No guarantees of success like, but I've helped a lot of people over the years. All jobs have some pressures but if it's keeping you awake at night, something needs to change. DM me if you'd like to talk.

What a kind gesture. God bless you my mate.

 

[the golden visionary]

May I enquire how you earn your crust buddy. Is it just the job keeping you up?

Contracts manager mate

 

[Master Chief]

I just need somewhere to vent a bit as I don't have anyone else to really unload stuff onto.

My long term relationship has fell apart in front of me, my whole world is just crumbling. I haven't been able to eat a thing all week, I'm literally surviving off fizzy drinks at the moment. I can't sleep for more than 20 minutes and I spend all day in tears.

I've been on Sertroline for a couple of weeks now but it's not having any impact. My mood is still on the floor.

I've told work that I am struggling to complete my tasks because I just cannot concentrate and so I've had to jiggle stuff around to get easier stuff to focus on which is embarrassing for me.

I'm at a complete loss and I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[COYBL25]

I just need somewhere to vent a bit as I don't have anyone else to really unload stuff onto.

My long term relationship has fell apart in front of me, my whole world is just crumbling. I haven't been able to eat a thing all week, I'm literally surviving off fizzy drinks at the moment. I can't sleep for more than 20 minutes and I spend all day in tears.

I've been on Sertroline for a couple of weeks now but it's not having any impact. My mood is still on the floor.

I've told work that I am struggling to complete my tasks because I just cannot concentrate and so I've had to jiggle stuff around to get easier stuff to focus on which is embarrassing for me.

I'm at a complete loss and I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.

Hi mate,

Do you have anyone outside of your relationship, that you`re close to and who you can off load on ? ( I know that`s can be very hard for fellas )

I know from my own experiences, that bottling it up and trying to " handle " things by myself, just made things worse in the end.

A very good friend of mine, went through an horrendous break up of his relationship and in those few paragraphs, you almost describe perfectly, the way he ended up, as his relationship crumbled.

As well as supporting him and offering him a bolt hole for a few days ( he had no kids then ) I persuaded him to see a therapist, independent of his partner.

The therapist, who specialised in breakups, helped him understand what he was going through and how it wasn`t his fault - his partner was incredibly controlling and had in effect slowly taken his life outside of her away from him.

To get immediate access to the therapist, he had to pay, but the sessions he had with her, helped get him back on his feet again massively - he`s since re married and has a son and is happier than he`s ever been.

I know paying for a therapist, isn`t something that`s an option for a lot of people, but it sounds to me, like you desperately need some kind of support.

With regards to anti depressants, they can take up to 3 weeks to work, so give them a bit a more time.

If you`re still not feeling the benefit of them by then, I`d go back to your GP and ask about either tweaking them or changing them, as they`re not an exact science and getting them right can be a bit hit and miss.

Keep posting mate, there`s always someone here x

 

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[anjelikaferrett]

I just need somewhere to vent a bit as I don't have anyone else to really unload stuff onto.

My long term relationship has fell apart in front of me, my whole world is just crumbling. I haven't been able to eat a thing all week, I'm literally surviving off fizzy drinks at the moment. I can't sleep for more than 20 minutes and I spend all day in tears.

I've been on Sertroline for a couple of weeks now but it's not having any impact. My mood is still on the floor.

I've told work that I am struggling to complete my tasks because I just cannot concentrate and so I've had to jiggle stuff around to get easier stuff to focus on which is embarrassing for me.

I'm at a complete loss and I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.

So sorry to hear this. Have you thought about asking for an Occupational Health referral through your work. They should be able to help and put forward suggestions to help you in work. You might also be able to access counselling through them. It's worth doing, work would rather have you on work than off sick so suggest it - or get your line manager to. I know there is a perception that Occupational Health is a negative experience and on the road to being sacked but I've always found them to be helpful.