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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

blue to the bone said:
Still haven't got over my slump I posted about a few weeks back. Winter always affects me , Christmas isn't my favourite time either. Relationship won't be getting that back so just feel down most of the time.
If I could hibernate until February I would.
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I know the feeling mate, I hate this time of year for lot's of reasons and have been quite depressed and frustrated recently about a number of issues. I know it's hard but try and stay strong.
 
Sorry all - i've been busy over the last few days so i've not had time to respond. I found out he has moved to bristol to be with his gf who is apparently really great with him (they both lived in Newcastle for a bit, but she had to move which hit him hard, lost his job and went homeless). He had to sell his camera and road bike, he has said before that photography keeps him sane and the bike gets him to the places to take the photos.

He now has a camera and a bike so it is content for now, and has been dealing with his brother 'okay'.

He has been seen my mental health services before but it tends to make him worse. he ends up running off to a remote island in the UK to take photos for 6 months or something. the meds are the only thing that keep him level, when he takes them..which he is apparently better at....at the moment.
 
Really struggling with anxiety lately unfortunately. I've dealt with depression since I was in high school (10 years ago) and had gotten pretty good with dealing with it (I went to counseling during uni and tried to keep up with what I learned).

This anxiety thing is throwing me for a loop. It's resulting in a drastic loss in sleep, unhealthy dietary choices, and weight gain. My family has a history of anxiety as well (mom and sister).

It's almost entirely due to work as the increase in anxiety pretty much as coincided with my new position I started last December. The first 6 months weren't too bad but then our contract turned over to a new company and it's been hell ever since. Their corporate structure is entirely inept and understaffed which results in a lack of support for our program (often a hindrance to us as well). I feel as if the role doesn't suit my personality or personal philosophy at all, however I will likely not be able to find a better position elsewhere as I lack an actual skill (worked my way up here by just performing routine office work adequately). Also due to family situations I can't really quit without a new job lined up without significantly destroying my savings.

Just needed to rant somewhere while I look for a therapist haha.
 

blue to the bone said:
Still haven't got over my slump I posted about a few weeks back. Winter always affects me , Christmas isn't my favourite time either. Relationship won't be getting that back so just feel down most of the time.
If I could hibernate until February I would.
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Sorry to hear that mate. That last line is a constant thought I have as well. Ive never been suicidal luckily but I've always wished I could just shut off my brain/hibernate for a long period when things are getting to be unbearable
 
USABlue said:
Really struggling with anxiety lately unfortunately. I've dealt with depression since I was in high school (10 years ago) and had gotten pretty good with dealing with it (I went to counseling during uni and tried to keep up with what I learned).

This anxiety thing is throwing me for a loop. It's resulting in a drastic loss in sleep, unhealthy dietary choices, and weight gain. My family has a history of anxiety as well (mom and sister).

It's almost entirely due to work as the increase in anxiety pretty much as coincided with my new position I started last December. The first 6 months weren't too bad but then our contract turned over to a new company and it's been hell ever since. Their corporate structure is entirely inept and understaffed which results in a lack of support for our program (often a hindrance to us as well). I feel as if the role doesn't suit my personality or personal philosophy at all, however I will likely not be able to find a better position elsewhere as I lack an actual skill (worked my way up here by just performing routine office work adequately). Also due to family situations I can't really quit without a new job lined up without significantly destroying my savings.

Just needed to rant somewhere while I look for a therapist haha.
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Sorry to hear this mate. I think it's quite a common situation for people to find themselves in these days, especially since the gap in wage and cost of living increases is getting wider and wider. It is perceived as more and more of a risk to abandon the devil you know in favour of something new.

I had a similar situation myself, about 4.5 years ago now. We had just had our second child and so I was torn between the idea of keeping a steady (and decent) income to continue supporting my family at a comfortable level, or getting out of the job that would make me come home some combination of angry and stressed most days.

Ultimately, I decided I would rather my boys get the best of me. I am not going to downplay the importance of money, especially to those for whom it is scarce, but if you CAN afford to prioritise your mental health and happiness, even if it means destroying your savings then I think you should. What are those savings for? A rainy day? A comfortable future? How much more rainy are you going to let it get? What kind of future will it be if this place keeps chipping away at your mental wellbeing?

All so much more easily said than done, I know. Just my two pence, FWIW.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best, mate. Good luck.
 
blue to the bone said:
Think someone mentioned here about places online that help when people are struggling a bit. Online chat rooms or something.
Any links ? I know there are phone numbers but find it hard to do talk like that .
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I feel like @Spotty might have the link(s) you're after mate.

In the meantime this thread is always here. If you'd rather not chat publicly then feel free to drop me a DM. I am on and off through the day, but will always get back as soon as I'm able.
 

blue to the bone said:
Think someone mentioned here about places online that help when people are struggling a bit. Online chat rooms or something.
Any links ? I know there are phone numbers but find it hard to do talk like that .
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@Spotty is your man for this.

I’ve used the - Mental Health Forum in the past, which is an outstanding forum.

You can talk openly on there and there’ll be someone who is in the exact same position as you’re in at the mo mate.
 
COYBL25 said:
It’s a fantastic forum mate.

I’m assuming it’s one you’re aware off ?

If not have a look at it, there’s some great stuff goes on in there.
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Yeh I'm aware of it and it's very good. Allows people to discuss anything. We are all very different so you can be very subjective. As you know, what's so interesting - not REALLY - the phrase to use but as many people know, there isn't a " one prescription that fits all "when it comes meeting people's needs. A really good example is the use of anti depressants.Prozac might be extremely beneficial for one person with depression, but for another, it's just in affective. But yes, COYB, that forum is very good.
 

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