Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[devogue]

Just found out my mates brother (20 years old) committed suicide after suffering from psychosis since this summer.

My mate, who also suffers from mental health problems, moved to Bristol without telling anyone. He seems to handle it ok as long as he takes his meds but he doesn't all the time and was found on the streets in Leeds in the summer.

Sorry to hear. Psychosis is absolutely horrifying, experienced it myself.

 

[Spotty]

AHH thank you I appreciate that a lot. I'm writing this from in bed with my little boy fast asleep next to me and my dog asleep on my legs. Winning X

Aah, the dog thing. Dogs are so so therapeutic and fantastic for our mental health. I want a dog witchdoc - badly - but my cowardice is stopping me. I know for a fact I won't want to fall in love with the stupid mut, but I will, and it will be another thing I will be devastated at the loss of. My wife thinks I'm being selfish as I have a thing with dogs and kids who seem to like me, and that I should give a sheltered dog a good home. I will.

 

[witchdoc187]

Aah, the dog thing. Dogs are so so therapeutic and fantastic for our mental health. I want a dog witchdoc - badly - but my cowardice is stopping me. I know for a fact I won't want to fall in love with the stupid mut, but I will, and it will be another thing I will be devastated at the loss of. My wife thinks I'm being selfish as I have a thing with dogs and kids who seem to like me, and that I should give a sheltered dog a good home. I will.

Yes give a poor dog a home before it's destroyed. Both my dogs are rescue. They can be a little bit of a pain escaping and another thing to worry about but I love them and they've really helped me when I'm alone. As long as you can give them exercise they're fine.

 

[witchdoc187]

 

[Spotty]

Yes give a poor dog a home before it's destroyed. Both my dogs are rescue. They can be a little bit of a pain escaping and another thing to worry about but I love them and they've really helped me when I'm alone. As long as you can give them exercise they're fine.

Yes,your right buddy

 

[Spotty]

Having one of those strange days today when I just feel inexplicably sad.

My eldest boy (8yo) is T1 diabetic and he deals with it amazingly well. Today, I’m just getting upset at how unfair it is on him and how frustrated I am at not being able to take it off him.

I don’t need help or advice, per se, I think I’m just writing this to get it out of my head and rationalise it for myself a bit.

I never like seeing on here “I know other people have it worse” or “my issue isn’t as serious as XYZ” because this is the kind of thing that happens to us all. Relatively minor issues, or issues you’ve been dealing with for years without too much incident can build up over time and at certain, seemingly random points in time it’ll just wallop us like a ton of bricks.

I know I’ll see him after school and I’ll get a big hug and all will feel right with my world again.

Please do pipe up on here if ever you’re feeling similar. Especially if you think your problems “aren’t a big deal” or you “don’t want to bother anyone.” I promise, just spilling your train of thought onto here helps a bit!!

Brett your problems are YOURS, and if things bother you that's fine. Well said fella about sharing. Sometimes we think people don't care, but there are lots of people out there who are caring and want to help and support people.

 

[witchdoc187]

Anyone looked into stoicism? Just started reading on it seems to be helping so far.

 

[wgtwiddle]

Anyone looked into stoicism? Just started reading on it seems to be helping so far.

Echoes a lot of advice provided via this forum...

What Is Stoicism? A Definition & 9 Stoic Exercises To Get You Started

For those of us who live our lives in the real world, there is one branch of philosophy created just for us: Stoicism. It’s a philosophy designed to make us more resilient, happier, more virtuous and more wise–and as a result, better people, better parents and better professionals. Stoicism has...

dailystoic.com

 

[witchdoc187]

Echoes a lot of advice provided via this forum...

What Is Stoicism? A Definition & 9 Stoic Exercises To Get You Started

For those of us who live our lives in the real world, there is one branch of philosophy created just for us: Stoicism. It’s a philosophy designed to make us more resilient, happier, more virtuous and more wise–and as a result, better people, better parents and better professionals. Stoicism has...

dailystoic.com

Yeah finding it very interesting.

 

[JLW]

I love this thread it puts everything in perspective for me.

The daily struggles we all face mentally and yet most of us hide it behind a smile to protect the people around us while inside of us there's a lot of issues. (That's what i did)
I've been here myself and its tough, very tough, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel, sometimes you cant see it but its there.

I'm in a far better place now than i was 3 years ago and the reason for this is talking to people, i find it easier talking to a stranger than a mate.
I know that's not the solution for everyone in here but for sure it will put you on the right track.

To all in here you will get through it. x

 

[witchdoc187]

I love this thread it puts everything in perspective for me.

The daily struggles we all face mentally and yet most of us hide it behind a smile to protect the people around us while inside of us there's a lot of issues. (That's what i did)
I've been here myself and its tough, very tough, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel, sometimes you cant see it but its there.

I'm in a far better place now than i was 3 years ago and the reason for this is talking to people, i find it easier talking to a stranger than a mate.
I know that's not the solution for everyone in here but for sure it will put you on the right track.

To all in here you will get through it. x

I think I bore people to death talking about stuff. I think I'm too open at times. But so what. Anyone not interested or without the time for it probably isn't for me anyway. I'm a good listener too (my ex wife would disagree but she kept talking about qanon)

 

[andy4efc]

One day this club will force me off a cliff. Wish I was joking because I wouldn't joke about such a thing. Having an awful time at work ebing so busy and working for an absolute cretin of a human. Every weekend this pushes me absolutely closer.

Have nowhere to vent this [Poor language removed] anywhere either. Absolutely zero positives in any direction.

I dont know how people do it so easily. I really dont!

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

One day this club will force me off a cliff. Wish I was joking because I wouldn't joke about such a thing. Having an awful time at work ebing so busy and working for an absolute cretin of a human. Every weekend this pushes me absolutely closer.

Have nowhere to vent this [Poor language removed] anywhere either. Absolutely zero positives in any direction.

I dont know how people do it so easily. I really dont!

I’m sorry to hear it mate.

I used to get myself really wound up after defeats. I knew I had to do something about it when we had our eldest; what we did on a weekend could well be dictated by our result, and that wasn’t fair on my wife or the little fella.

It wasn’t easy but I’ve just reinforced to myself pretty constantly since that it’s just a game. I actually watch us on TV quite rarely now and find that I’m happier as a result. People have this crazy fear of not being considered a “proper fan” or whatever, but the club certainly won’t thank you for your loyalty in any real way and in the meantime your mental health will keep spiralling.

The best thing about our club is that it led us to this forum. Stick around and chat to us, and just do less of the football supporting bit!!

 

[coollino]

One day this club will force me off a cliff. Wish I was joking because I wouldn't joke about such a thing. Having an awful time at work ebing so busy and working for an absolute cretin of a human. Every weekend this pushes me absolutely closer.

Have nowhere to vent this [Poor language removed] anywhere either. Absolutely zero positives in any direction.

I dont know how people do it so easily. I really dont!

Hey digne

 

[David09]

I’m sorry to hear it mate.

I used to get myself really wound up after defeats. I knew I had to do something about it when we had our eldest; what we did on a weekend could well be dictated by our result, and that wasn’t fair on my wife or the little fella.

It wasn’t easy but I’ve just reinforced to myself pretty constantly since that it’s just a game. I actually watch us on TV quite rarely now and find that I’m happier as a result. People have this crazy fear of not being considered a “proper fan” or whatever, but the club certainly won’t thank you for your loyalty in any real way and in the meantime your mental health will keep spiralling.

The best thing about our club is that it led us to this forum. Stick around and chat to us, and just do less of the football supporting bit!!

I didn't watch it today either. I dragged myself out for a 17 mile run then just watched MOTD without knowing the result. Its far less stressful