Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[zukai12_]

Looks like i just got COVID

The idea of 10 days inside is pretty horrible frankly

Luckily my symptoms started a few days ago so i still get Xmas - but still i really really will have a hard time being indoors for so long

 

[Gwladysover]

Sounds like a really rough week Gwladys. Aunt Evas passing must be tough to deal with - with her being such a link to your mum. Im sorry for your loss, it must have felt like you lost a whole section of your life. Your mums got good company now - and there'll be another up there looking down over you now. Take care of yourself - youre a lovely, caring poster, i hope you've got other close family with your character to look after you. I hope you get the eyesight sorted on Friday but on a positive youll not have to watch the match tomorrow. Take care of yourself ?

Thanks for the kind words, they mean a lot. I have a son and daughter as well as Mr G. so am well looked after. As to the match tomorrow seeing it in stereo would be more than flesh and blood could stand?

 

[blue to the bone]

Looks like i just got COVID

The idea of 10 days inside is pretty horrible frankly

Luckily my symptoms started a few days ago so i still get Xmas - but still i really really will have a hard time being indoors for so long

It's not so bad mate . Do you live alone.
Make sure you have enough food , stuff for the fire and that.
And you can watch Everton twice in that time ?

 

[zukai12_]

It's not so bad mate . Do you live alone.
Make sure you have enough food , stuff for the fire and that.
And you can watch Everton twice in that time ?

I think if I watch too much Everton my situation will turn into The Shining

i guess my main worry, is that even during the lockdowns i was able to go out for a run or bike ride like, i'm a pretty outdoorsy person overall so 10 days in my house non stop is new for me

suppose i'll finally get onto my reading list

 

[blue to the bone]

I think if I watch too much Everton my situation will turn into The Shining

i guess my main worry, is that even during the lockdowns i was able to go out for a run or bike ride like, i'm a pretty outdoorsy person overall so 10 days in my house non stop is new for me

suppose i'll finally get onto my reading list

Been there mate. If you are not sick with it you will be fine. It's not a bad time of year to be isolated. Imagine it was in the summer.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

Supposed to be in the airport hotel tonight ahead of taking our boys to see Father Chrimbo in Lapland. Had to call it off because my eldest has come down with a fever and a few other symptoms. Negative COVID test but still couldn’t risk travel.

Both lads were so excited last night when we gave them their “invites” that not being able to take them has absolutely buckled me. They got over it fairly quickly but their jubilation from last night keeps playing in my head and upsetting me again and again.

I know it was the right thing to do, I know it’s not the end of the world and I know we’ll still have a lovely Chrimbo but I can’t stop feeling like I’ve failed to give them this amazing experience. My rational brain knows how stupid that is, but he’s not in charge at the mo, clearly.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Supposed to be in the airport hotel tonight ahead of taking our boys to see Father Chrimbo in Lapland. Had to call it off because my eldest has come down with a fever and a few other symptoms. Negative COVID test but still couldn’t risk travel.

Both lads were so excited last night when we gave them their “invites” that not being able to take them has absolutely buckled me. They got over it fairly quickly but their jubilation from last night keeps playing in my head and upsetting me again and again.

I know it was the right thing to do, I know it’s not the end of the world and I know we’ll still have a lovely Chrimbo but I can’t stop feeling like I’ve failed to give them this amazing experience. My rational brain knows how stupid that is, but he’s not in charge at the mo, clearly.

You haven't failed at all. It isnt your fault but I can understand how you feel. And I get the rational brain v emotional brain. Why us? Why now? I'm really sad for you all.

 

[Gwladysover]

Supposed to be in the airport hotel tonight ahead of taking our boys to see Father Chrimbo in Lapland. Had to call it off because my eldest has come down with a fever and a few other symptoms. Negative COVID test but still couldn’t risk travel.

Both lads were so excited last night when we gave them their “invites” that not being able to take them has absolutely buckled me. They got over it fairly quickly but their jubilation from last night keeps playing in my head and upsetting me again and again.

I know it was the right thing to do, I know it’s not the end of the world and I know we’ll still have a lovely Chrimbo but I can’t stop feeling like I’ve failed to give them this amazing experience. My rational brain knows how stupid that is, but he’s not in charge at the mo, clearly.

Feel gutted for you and the boys. I think children are more resilient than we give them credit for and are more accepting of situations once they are over the initial disappointment. You didn’t fail - it was circumstances beyond your control. When they see what Father Christmas has brought them on Christmas morning I hope their excitement will help heal your feelings. Happy Christmas to you and your family.

 

[Gwladysover]

One day this club will force me off a cliff. Wish I was joking because I wouldn't joke about such a thing. Having an awful time at work ebing so busy and working for an absolute cretin of a human. Every weekend this pushes me absolutely closer.

Have nowhere to vent this [Poor language removed] anywhere either. Absolutely zero positives in any direction.

I dont know how people do it so easily. I really dont!

Sorry you are having a bad time at the moment. Please don’t let this football club make it worse for you. I have posted this before but I think it bears repeating: I know from personal experience that footballers don’t let a bad result ruin their evening, weekend or life. The ones I knew had no feelings of loyalty to the club they played for, it was a job, they would move on if and when a better offer came along. Hope that things improve for you soon, take care?

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

You haven't failed at all. It isnt your fault but I can understand how you feel. And I get the rational brain v emotional brain. Why us? Why now? I'm really sad for you all.

Thanks Anj. That’s exactly it - in the absence of a good enough reason “why” I think it’s easier for our heads to just find someone to blame, and who easier than yourself??

The reality is we haven’t lost anything we already had, we’ve just missed a trip. It would have been lovely but we’ll have lots of lovely trips in our time. Hopefully if the eldest can cling on to the belief in Father Chrimbo we can recreate the magic next year.

Otherwise, while he’s undoubtedly poorly, he’s well enough. The rest of us have our health and we all have each other over Chrimbo. That’s what I need my stupid head to focus on!!

 

[larbert toffee]

Thanks Anj. That’s exactly it - in the absence of a good enough reason “why” I think it’s easier for our heads to just find someone to blame, and who easier than yourself??

The reality is we haven’t lost anything we already had, we’ve just missed a trip. It would have been lovely but we’ll have lots of lovely trips in our time. Hopefully if the eldest can cling on to the belief in Father Chrimbo we can recreate the magic next year.

Otherwise, while he’s undoubtedly poorly, he’s well enough. The rest of us have our health and we all have each other over Chrimbo. That’s what I need my stupid head to focus on!!

Exactly mate, sorry you're missing your trip but read back what you've just written and you've answered your initial post perfectly, onwards and upwards BAD.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

I found this quite a useful article as I've certainly noticed an increase in isolation during the pandemic period

Lost touch with friends during lockdown? Here’s how to reconnect (and let go of ‘toxic’ ones)

Friendship networks shrank during lockdowns. As we re-engage, how do we get our old friends back? And which do we want back?

theconversation.com

 

[Earwigjoe]

I’m okay thanks. Have problems with my eye sight (double vision) which my new glasses didn’t correct. Got nowhere with opticians as they wouldn’t do anything until I gave it two weeks which I did with no success. The optician still wouldn’t see me but the dispensing assistant adjusted frames made no difference but told to give it another two weeks. Rang GP as I developed further problems, she got me an emergency appointment at the hospital on Friday, so hopefully may get something sorted. Then my aunt died, my late mother’s youngest sister. She was born late in life to my Nan who couldn’t cope after already having had six children, losing one in infancy. My mum although only 11 took over Aunt Eva’s care and basically became a mother to her. They always had a special bond and was a link to my Mum which now she has passed has been broken. It’s all been a bit much. On the plus side although not perfect I can still see - many people can’t! Thanks for listening and by the way your wife sounds lovely.

I hope you're well and feeling a bit happier , I hope everything went well with the hospital yesterday and your sights much better.

 

[Gwladysover]

I hope you're well and feeling a bit happier , I hope everything went well with the hospital yesterday and your sights much better.

I’m well thanks and eye check revealed that my eye is healthy. Confirmed what the GP said I have retinal migraine. It’s a bit disconcerting but not painful and lasts only 20 minutes. He couldn’t do anything about double vision as I hadn’t been referred by an optician so back to Specsavers after Christmas for a referral. Things could be worse I can read as my vision is good up to a distance of about 4feet and I am able to see, so many people can’t. I am feeling happier in myself as well, the concern shown by so many on here has cheered me no end. Thanks everyone.

 

[Bluetintedspecs]

I’m well thanks and eye check revealed that my eye is healthy. Confirmed what the GP said I have retinal migraine. It’s a bit disconcerting but not painful and lasts only 20 minutes. He couldn’t do anything about double vision as I hadn’t been referred by an optician so back to Specsavers after Christmas for a referral. Things could be worse I can read as my vision is good up to a distance of about 4feet and I am able to see, so many people can’t. I am feeling happier in myself as well, the concern shown by so many on here has cheered me no end. Thanks everyone.

Only just read about your Aunt Eva. So sorry for your loss. After such a a bad week, I'm pleased that you have at least had some good news from your eye check. Retinal migraine? Never heard of it. Your eyes have clearly suffered from watching too many Everton games.