Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Sassy Colombian]

Supposed to be in the airport hotel tonight ahead of taking our boys to see Father Chrimbo in Lapland. Had to call it off because my eldest has come down with a fever and a few other symptoms. Negative COVID test but still couldn’t risk travel.

Both lads were so excited last night when we gave them their “invites” that not being able to take them has absolutely buckled me. They got over it fairly quickly but their jubilation from last night keeps playing in my head and upsetting me again and again.

I know it was the right thing to do, I know it’s not the end of the world and I know we’ll still have a lovely Chrimbo but I can’t stop feeling like I’ve failed to give them this amazing experience. My rational brain knows how stupid that is, but he’s not in charge at the mo, clearly.

Oh Brett, I can only imagine how disappointed you must be as I know how much you wanted to eat that reindeer fillet ?

But you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself, you didn’t fail your sons. We loving/caring parents tend to be our toughest critics, I know from experience. You seem to be such a devoted and loving dad, your boys are fortunate to have you and that you care so much about them and their happiness. Hopefully next year you all be able to relieve the jubilation that was robbed away from you this December. And may your boy recover soon from his illness. Xx

 

[Sassy Colombian]

I love this thread it puts everything in perspective for me.

The daily struggles we all face mentally and yet most of us hide it behind a smile to protect the people around us while inside of us there's a lot of issues. (That's what i did)
I've been here myself and its tough, very tough, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel, sometimes you cant see it but its there.

I'm in a far better place now than i was 3 years ago and the reason for this is talking to people, i find it easier talking to a stranger than a mate.
I know that's not the solution for everyone in here but for sure it will put you on the right track.

To all in here you will get through it. x

Well said, JLW.

It is nice to hear that you are now in a better place. There is always hope as long as we are still breathing. X

 

[Sassy Colombian]

One day this club will force me off a cliff. Wish I was joking because I wouldn't joke about such a thing. Having an awful time at work ebing so busy and working for an absolute cretin of a human. Every weekend this pushes me absolutely closer.

Have nowhere to vent this [Poor language removed] anywhere either. Absolutely zero positives in any direction.

I dont know how people do it so easily. I really dont!

Andy, I’m sorry you been having such an awful time. I hope you don’t ever allow Everton to drive you to the edge because no Club is worthy of your life! Best wishes finding some positives in your life soon. X

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Any winter plans for Christmas folks? Summer down here, so maybe a small gathering with the famous Australian bbq.

I have yet to hear about the famous Australian bbq. What shall I know about it?
Is it kangaroo on the barbie?

I wish it was summer once I get back home but I talked to my mum tonight and she said it’s freezing in our area. Which makes my daughter super happy as Christmas is synonymous with cold and snow but this Colombian feel different about it.

 

[Spotty]

Spotty what lovely post about your wife that was. It is the simple things in life that at times bring us the most joy, but sometimes we are too distracted wishing for something bigger, better, when what can make us happy is just there waiting for us to acknowledge it and enjoy it.

What makes me happy is spending time with my family and love ones. Enjoying nature brings lots of joy too. Having a tasty meal makes my belly very happy. I absolutely love dancing so shaking it for a bit brings happiness to my life too

" Nature brings a lot of joy..." Been fortunate enough to swim with Whales and Dolphins and I absolutely love wildlife documentaries. Who doesn't sit there and watch and listen to David Attenborough and think " wow, just bloody wow..". So therapeutic. As has been said animals especially the ones we can be tactile with, are fantastically therapeutic. Your right, it IS the simple things that often bring us the most pleasure in life.

By the way, I'm working over Christmas so can I wish you Sassy and all the the other folk who frequent this forum a happy and peaceful Christmas. Take care all.

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

A few weeks ago I was in a very bad place and came here to share and the support was terrific. Thank you to everyone who helped me.

Currently in a much better place and would have to say I’m the happiest I’ve been in quite some time. It’s still early days but hopefully things keep improving.

To all the posters who offer support and kindness in here - you should be immensely proud of yourselves.

 

[COYBL25]

A few weeks ago I was in a very bad place and came here to share and the support was terrific. Thank you to everyone who helped me.

Currently in a much better place and would have to say I’m the happiest I’ve been in quite some time. It’s still early days but hopefully things keep improving.

To all the posters who offer support and kindness in here - you should be immensely proud of yourselves.

Wonderful news mate.

How did you turn things around ?

* tell me to sod off for being nosy if you want !

 

[anjelikaferrett]

" Nature brings a lot of joy..." Been fortunate enough to swim with Whales and Dolphins and I absolutely love wildlife documentaries. Who doesn't sit there and watch and listen to David Attenborough and think " wow, just bloody wow..". So therapeutic. As has been said animals especially the ones we can be tactile with, are fantastically therapeutic. Your right, it IS the simple things that often bring us the most pleasure in life.

By the way, I'm working over Christmas so can I wish you Sassy and all the the other folk who frequent this forum a happy and peaceful Christmas. Take care all.

Wishing you and yours a very Happy Christmas x

 

[anjelikaferrett]

A few weeks ago I was in a very bad place and came here to share and the support was terrific. Thank you to everyone who helped me.

Currently in a much better place and would have to say I’m the happiest I’ve been in quite some time. It’s still early days but hopefully things keep improving.

To all the posters who offer support and kindness in here - you should be immensely proud of yourselves.

That's so good to hear x

 

[Devanski]

Currently in a much better place and would have to say I’m the happiest I’ve been in quite some time. It’s still early days but hopefully things keep improving.

Great to hear mate. Keep the positivity and it’s onwards and upwards.
I’m made up for you ?

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

Wonderful news mate.

How did you turn things around ?

Getting the drink and drugs under control was the start. I’ve had a slip up but it was minor and haven’t let it derail me.

Managing my daily routine has helped enormously. Downloaded an app called Lists To Do. Within it there is two ‘lists’ which are ‘Goals’ and ‘Tasks’. The tasks one is things I need to do that day - at first it was as basic as ‘shower’ ‘medication’ ‘laundry’ etc. Helped to make sure I was taking care of the basics each day and not spending days in a hole. The goals one covered things like ‘reading’ ‘language study’ ‘exercise’. That’s helped me feel I’m consistently working towards something I enjoy and that is important to me.

The exercise and improving my diet has been massive and has undoubtedly been a large part of me feeling better.

Lastly having friends and family to spend time with makes it all much easier. This is just my very unscientific observation, but I think modern life has increasingly lead us away from the sort of human interaction that has been a cornerstone of human evolution. Finding ways to consciously connect with people is more important than ever.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

Getting the drink and drugs under control was the start. I’ve had a slip up but it was minor and haven’t let it derail me.

Managing my daily routine has helped enormously. Downloaded an app called Lists To Do. Within it there is two ‘lists’ which are ‘Goals’ and ‘Tasks’. The tasks one is things I need to do that day - at first it was as basic as ‘shower’ ‘medication’ ‘laundry’ etc. Helped to make sure I was taking care of the basics each day and not spending days in a hole. The goals one covered things like ‘reading’ ‘language study’ ‘exercise’. That’s helped me feel I’m consistently working towards something I enjoy and that is important to me.

The exercise and improving my diet has been massive and has undoubtedly been a large part of me feeling better.

Lastly having friends and family to spend time with makes it all much easier. This is just my very unscientific observation, but I think modern life has increasingly lead us away from the sort of human interaction that has been a cornerstone of human evolution. Finding ways to consciously connect with people is more important than ever.

Incredible, mate. Amazing work. Not letting those minor slips derail you is absolutely enormous. Wouldn’t know you if I fell over you but I’m immensely proud. I hope you are, too.

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

Incredible, mate. Amazing work. Not letting those minor slips derail you is absolutely enormous. Wouldn’t know you if I fell over you but I’m immensely proud. I hope you are, too.

Thanks mate. Really appreciate it.

 

[Earwigjoe]

Getting the drink and drugs under control was the start. I’ve had a slip up but it was minor and haven’t let it derail me.

Managing my daily routine has helped enormously. Downloaded an app called Lists To Do. Within it there is two ‘lists’ which are ‘Goals’ and ‘Tasks’. The tasks one is things I need to do that day - at first it was as basic as ‘shower’ ‘medication’ ‘laundry’ etc. Helped to make sure I was taking care of the basics each day and not spending days in a hole. The goals one covered things like ‘reading’ ‘language study’ ‘exercise’. That’s helped me feel I’m consistently working towards something I enjoy and that is important to me.

The exercise and improving my diet has been massive and has undoubtedly been a large part of me feeling better.

Lastly having friends and family to spend time with makes it all much easier. This is just my very unscientific observation, but I think modern life has increasingly lead us away from the sort of human interaction that has been a cornerstone of human evolution. Finding ways to consciously connect with people is more important than ever.

All power to you buddy, keep going, thats fantastic strength mate. Totally agree with the last bit too. Finding your own strength and believing in yourself makes everything possible. ?

 

[witchdoc187]

A few weeks ago I was in a very bad place and came here to share and the support was terrific. Thank you to everyone who helped me.

Currently in a much better place and would have to say I’m the happiest I’ve been in quite some time. It’s still early days but hopefully things keep improving.

To all the posters who offer support and kindness in here - you should be immensely proud of yourselves.

Exactly the same as me mate. And the same thanks to those on here who've helped me too. Onwards and upwards my friend.