Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Twinkletoes123]

I helped a client to complete injunction paperwork. We went to CAB who pointed is on the right direction. Go to CAB luv they'll take you step by step through the process. Get more info at GOV.UK. Start the process Twinkle. If the coward starts the law will take him in him should he breech it. Normally I would go down the " reasonable " route but I understand it's gone past reasonable. Good luck luv and as usual, the members of this forum step up to the plate.

Thank you, I will make an appointment with CAB.
Everyone has been really helpful on this forum, sometimes it’s my lifeline and I would be lost without it. Thank you all xx

 

[Brendan Janus]

Thank you so much, we will try and get the ball rolling. I feel such a fool as I worry they won’t believe me I haven’t got bruises and broken bones, but I hear they are better with cohesive control now.

Hi, you don't need to have bruises & broken bones, abuse can be mentally more than anything !!

 

[matty1878]

Some of you may remember me from last Christmas, my life hasn’t improved, I’m still in the same place that I swore last year I wouldn’t be again.
I have asked my husband to leave numerous times to get the usual retorts of in a couple of days, which never materialises. He hasn’t changed, he drinks non stop, is verbally abusive, intimidates, doesn’t allow me any boundaries, is awful to my daughter, I could go on and on. He’s messaging his next unsuspecting victim, I just want him gone.

get out of they’re! you don’t deserve it and nobody does! it makes my blood boil people like him!

 

[matty1878]

After a great couple of weeks of being back gym and playing footy I went out with mates tonight and back on the coke. It’s so silly and mundane it should be easy to do this.

My mates all do it and are happy to and I cannot resist. I know the easy solution is avoid but don’t wanna feel like I have to avoid my mates cause of my own problems with resisting.

Proper deflating. Certain time back with family at Christmas will help but I need a major kick up the arse to stop feeling like this and doing this crap.

mind over matter. but it’s the company you are with mate you need will power to say no!

 

[matty1878]

Started smoking fags again too. Horrid habit and I don’t like them in the slightest.

Disassociating alcohol with drugs, fags and the trouble the bring is so difficult. I fear the only way is to stop drinking but can’t imagine waking up on a Saturday and not drinking before a game or a Friday night out with mates.

Not massive issues in the grand scheme of what ppl go through, just horrid is all.

give me a pm and i will bore you with my past and may help a bit

 

[tommye]

I had a telephone appointment this morning following on from my radiotherapy 2 months ago.I had a blood test last week to check my PSA re my Prostate cancer.
Good news my PSA is down to 0.01 which is as good as it gets after a high of 23 in May.
I still have hormone injections for 3 years but doesn't bother me.I have been in limbo this year since February when it was first diagnosed but now I can start looking forward again.
Thanks for all the support I recieved on here it really does help

Fantastic news.
Christmas presents dont come much better ?

 

[RAFUH]

Thank you, I will make an appointment with CAB.
Everyone has been really helpful on this forum, sometimes it’s my lifeline and I would be lost without it. Thank you all xx

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[tommye]

Thank you, I will make an appointment with CAB.
Everyone has been really helpful on this forum, sometimes it’s my lifeline and I would be lost without it. Thank you all xx

Best of luck to you both.
The first step is always the hardest. Once you take that step the relevant authorities and help that is there will fall into place. They need you to approach them first though. Then they can do whatever it takes to rid him from both your lives. You need not ever lay eyes on that POS ever again.


Stay safe xx

 

[paultheblue]

Fantastic news.
Christmas presents dont come much better ?

I know mate when I went to bed last night I knew that I had a call coming this morning and as the appointment was made before I even started radiotherapy the call could have gone either way there was no guarantee that it was good news.

Thanks again

 

[tommye]

I know mate when I went to bed last night I knew that I had a call coming this morning and as the appointment was made before I even started radiotherapy the call could have gone either way there was no guarantee that it was good news.

Thanks again

Christmas will be special this year. And every year from now as you celebrate both each time. Enjoy every damn minute ?

 

[Armaghtoffee]

I know mate when I went to bed last night I knew that I had a call coming this morning and as the appointment was made before I even started radiotherapy the call could have gone either way there was no guarantee that it was good news.

Thanks again

Delighted for you mate.

Make this Christmas like no other, you deserve it.

 

[David09]

Thank you for your kind offer. Unfortunately, they don’t get involved with things like this. My daughter and I were discussing different outcomes last night and she suggested she looks into getting an injunction against him, not sure how it works x

I think if you report it officially you may be able to get help with temporary accommodation immediately especially with a child.
I would contact women's aid and also the police.
You need to just get out.

 

[tommye]

Unfortunately, they don’t get involved with things like this

If you are with a local authority/social housing association they will have a domestic abuse specialist amongst their staff who can, and will, help you in any way they can, together with other local and national agencies who deal with situations such as yours. Please reach out to someone, at any of the available charities etc, please do it soon.
Every day hes still there is another lost to his bullying shithousery.


There are people out there who will help you.
They need you to take that first step before they can help. x

 

[David09]

Thank you for your kind offer. Unfortunately, they don’t get involved with things like this. My daughter and I were discussing different outcomes last night and she suggested she looks into getting an injunction against him, not sure how it works x

 

[Twinkletoes123]

If you are with a local authority/social housing association they will have a domestic abuse specialist amongst their staff who can, and will, help you in any way they can, together with other local and national agencies who deal with situations such as yours. Please reach out to someone, at any of the available charities etc, please do it soon.
Every day hes still there is another lost to his bullying shithousery.


There are people out there who will help you.
They need you to take that first step before they can help. x

I wasn’t aware of that but it’s great to know.
It’s unbelievable how kind you’ve all been, I’m not used to receiving all this helpful advice, this really is the best forum I’ve been on and I like to consider all you my blue family x