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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Twinkletoes123 said:
I wasn’t aware of that but it’s great to know.
It’s unbelievable how kind you’ve all been, I’m not used to receiving all this helpful advice, this really is the best forum I’ve been on and I like to consider all you my blue family x
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This thread is absolute gold and something the whole forum should be VERY proud of.


Restores some faith in humanity knowing there are still so many genuinely good people out there, in here, who are only too happy to help.


Why I love the place


Sleep well tonight x
 
@Twinkletoes123 everyone on here has offered great advice and I have nothing to add other than to say you bear no responsibility towards this other girl, you can’t protect her at the cost of you and your daughter’s happiness. Removing yourself from your situation will take courage and probably be the bravest thing you have ever done but as you take the first step we will all be there with you in spirit. Best wishes.?
 
paultheblue said:
I had a telephone appointment this morning following on from my radiotherapy 2 months ago.I had a blood test last week to check my PSA re my Prostate cancer.
Good news my PSA is down to 0.01 which is as good as it gets after a high of 23 in May.
I still have hormone injections for 3 years but doesn't bother me.I have been in limbo this year since February when it was first diagnosed but now I can start looking forward again.
Thanks for all the support I recieved on here it really does help
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What fantastic news, so pleased for you.?
 
Gwladysover said:
@Twinkletoes123 everyone on here has offered great advice and I have nothing to add other than to say you bear no responsibility towards this other girl, you can’t protect her at the cost of you and your daughter’s happiness. Removing yourself from your situation will take courage and probably be the bravest thing you have ever done but as you take the first step we will all be there with you in spirit. Best wishes.?
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Thank you Gwladys. I have decided against contacting the other girl. I am just thinking of my Daughter and I now and removing us both from this toxic environment xx
 
Twinkletoes123 said:
Thank you Gwladys. I have decided against contacting the other girl. I am just thinking of my Daughter and I now and removing us both from this toxic environment xx
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Should have been done a year ago young lady when you were having major issues. Hopefully this Christmas you will take the plunge and make yourself and your daughter safe and have a lovely Christmas xx
 

paultheblue said:
I had a telephone appointment this morning following on from my radiotherapy 2 months ago.I had a blood test last week to check my PSA re my Prostate cancer.
Good news my PSA is down to 0.01 which is as good as it gets after a high of 23 in May.
I still have hormone injections for 3 years but doesn't bother me.I have been in limbo this year since February when it was first diagnosed but now I can start looking forward again.
Thanks for all the support I recieved on here it really does help
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Excellent news. Am delighted for you. What a Christmas present.
 
paultheblue said:
I had a telephone appointment this morning following on from my radiotherapy 2 months ago.I had a blood test last week to check my PSA re my Prostate cancer.
Good news my PSA is down to 0.01 which is as good as it gets after a high of 23 in May.
I still have hormone injections for 3 years but doesn't bother me.I have been in limbo this year since February when it was first diagnosed but now I can start looking forward again.
Thanks for all the support I recieved on here it really does help
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Paul my dad had hormone injections and if they work it's great news it worked on my dad for 10 years and they have other treatments after all they said is positive thinking is everything he because it helps your body if you know what I mean..god bless mate
 
paultheblue said:
I had a telephone appointment this morning following on from my radiotherapy 2 months ago.I had a blood test last week to check my PSA re my Prostate cancer.
Good news my PSA is down to 0.01 which is as good as it gets after a high of 23 in May.
I still have hormone injections for 3 years but doesn't bother me.I have been in limbo this year since February when it was first diagnosed but now I can start looking forward again.
Thanks for all the support I recieved on here it really does help
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Also Paul he had stage 4 at 63 and kept going for 17 years he was so positive mate that's the answer you've got to keep going positive thinking is everything
 
Gwladysover said:
@Twinkletoes123 everyone on here has offered great advice and I have nothing to add other than to say you bear no responsibility towards this other girl, you can’t protect her at the cost of you and your daughter’s happiness. Removing yourself from your situation will take courage and probably be the bravest thing you have ever done but as you take the first step we will all be there with you in spirit. Best wishes.?
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Defo this @Twinkletoes123. Put your own oxygen mask on before helping others, and all that. Once you and your daughter are free and clear, though, absolutely torpedo his chances with other women into absolute smithereens.
 

Rita_Poon said:
@Brendan Janus sitting in isn't helping, not one bit. did you try the doctors? any local counselling service? sooner you are on the waiting list the sooner you are there. It is rough but letting it fester lets it eat more of you. You have to want to move past the way you feel currently. The more you feed it the longer it lasts. Honest.
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I know you are right ! But when mentally you are struggling, everything seems hard work, even cooking your tea let alone going out !!
 
Fighting this isn't 'right' or 'wrong', it's coming through it. There might always be the smallest shadow in your memory, they say time is a healer but all it is is distance. The worse you treat yourself the more this enemy takes from you. I cannot recommend enough going and talking with a counselor, it took a few goes but I got through in the end and it saved my life. Sometimes the time and patience of a complete stranger is the exact tonic for unloading the burden. (The human element, being able to look someone in the eye, it's important to be validated - it meant for me that I had conveyed as best I could what had happened and what that had cost)

I regret not going and doing the honest parts sooner. I took that time away from me.

Edit: Being strong sometimes means owning not being strong, learning from the errors you have made on purpose as well as accidentally. You can get there, it took for me that moment where enough was enough - address it or let it dominate.
 
Rita_Poon said:
Fighting this isn't 'right' or 'wrong', it's coming through it. There might always be the smallest shadow in your memory, they say time is a healer but all it is is distance. The worse you treat yourself the more this enemy takes from you. I cannot recommend enough going and talking with a counselor, it took a few goes but I got through in the end and it saved my life. Sometimes the time and patience of a complete stranger is the exact tonic for unloading the burden. (The human element, being able to look someone in the eye, it's important to be validated - it meant for me that I had conveyed as best I could what had happened and what that had cost)

I regret not going and doing the honest parts sooner. I took that time away from me.

Edit: Being strong sometimes means owning not being strong, learning from the errors you have made on purpose as well as accidentally. You can get there, it took for me that moment where enough was enough - address it or let it dominate.
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I don't think I have made errors, I feel I have been shoite on for being nice, Karma has come to haunt me for past misdimeanours ! But in ceratin circumstances I can't be horrible !!
 
Brendan Janus said:
I don't think I have made errors, I feel I have been shoite on for being nice, Karma has come to haunt me for past misdimeanours ! But in ceratin circumstances I can't be horrible !!
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This is the human element, to explore this in person, to know theres no sarcy, no judgement, it's the knowing and the releasing it. There's reasons why you feel the way you do and judge what and how you have. It's important to talk this out, and as good as text on the internet is, it has to be talk.

Humour me and at least check out the possibilities.
 

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