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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Gwladysover said:
Just thought I’d share part of my story. I was a stay at home Mum during which time I suffered from anxiety and panic attacks. but I managed to cope with my condition. One day, out of the blue, I was offered a job in our local post office/corner shop. I thought I‘d give it a go even though I was nervous - the door was in view and I could always “escape” if I needed to. All went well for three years or so until , a couple of weeks before Christmas, we were the target of armed robbers. Every panic attack I had ever had paled into insignificance with the terror I felt. I hoped they never caught the robbers (they didn’t) as the thought of going to court terrified me. I avoided social situations, crowded shops etc. I couldn’t even attend my in laws funerals as the thought of being trapped at the service was just too much. It was a long way back but eventually through relaxation, counselling etc. I was able to return to some semblance of normality. Four years ago my son got two tickets for the Tottenham game at Wembley. He asked me to go with him, I was reluctant at first but as he said “When are you ever going to get the chance to see us play at Wembley?” I agreed to go, if I chickened out I thought my husband could go so the tickets wouldn’t be wasted. He refused saying he had faith that I could do it, even the terror of terrors the Underground. Okay we had to sit with the Spurs fans and the result was rubbish but I did it and had a great time. I still have my “moments” but they are not important and I know they will pass. What I’m trying to say is don’t give up hope, things will get better. Life is always worth living. Thanks for listening.?
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Bloody hell, that’s a lot to have been through on top of the anxiety you already had. Well done you for coming through it. Another inspirational blue for the thread to look up to.
 
Lost my mum and dad just before Christmas 2 years ago it's still hard now but pain not as harsh .what lifted me and my family we put up a tribute on the Everton tribute which they put on the big screen at goodison it's a class act our club do they put up all the toffees we've lost proper class love them for it ,they do get some things right UTFT
 
Brendan Janus said:
Tomorrow, I am going to do my best to get out, drive on my own to a new ground, at the mo I feel I can do it, tomorrow is always a tougher challenge :mad:
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Best of luck with achieving your goal. Don’t worry if you don’t succeed at first, you will have tried and that is the main thing. It is a cliche but the first step is the hardest. ?
 

Brendan Janus said:
Tomorrow, I am going to do my best to get out, drive on my own to a new ground, at the mo I feel I can do it, tomorrow is always a tougher challenge :mad:
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Good plan. Even if you only get part of the way then you have achieved something. Even if you walk to your car and go back inside, you've achieved something. Small victories. They all count.
 
Gwladysover said:
Just thought I’d share part of my story. I was a stay at home Mum during which time I suffered from anxiety and panic attacks. but I managed to cope with my condition. One day, out of the blue, I was offered a job in our local post office/corner shop. I thought I‘d give it a go even though I was nervous - the door was in view and I could always “escape” if I needed to. All went well for three years or so until , a couple of weeks before Christmas, we were the target of armed robbers. Every panic attack I had ever had paled into insignificance with the terror I felt. I hoped they never caught the robbers (they didn’t) as the thought of going to court terrified me. I avoided social situations, crowded shops etc. I couldn’t even attend my in laws funerals as the thought of being trapped at the service was just too much. It was a long way back but eventually through relaxation, counselling etc. I was able to return to some semblance of normality. Four years ago my son got two tickets for the Tottenham game at Wembley. He asked me to go with him, I was reluctant at first but as he said “When are you ever going to get the chance to see us play at Wembley?” I agreed to go, if I chickened out I thought my husband could go so the tickets wouldn’t be wasted. He refused saying he had faith that I could do it, even the terror of terrors the Underground. Okay we had to sit with the Spurs fans and the result was rubbish but I did it and had a great time. I still have my “moments” but they are not important and I know they will pass. What I’m trying to say is don’t give up hope, things will get better. Life is always worth living. Thanks for listening.?
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Wow Gwladys. What a dreadful experience for you. You are a star (I always knew that from our interactions on other threads) Thank you for sharing this x
 

Charro said:
I’m doing ok thanks mate. Will be a year soon after she passed. I think you go through a lot of the grieving process already when somebody close to you gets a terminal illness which kind of makes it easier to try to move on when they pass.

Hope you and the mrs are ok and have had some moments of normality during the week? It takes its toll on everybody when you have to go through something like this.
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Just to update you, we sadly lost my MiL 3 weeks ago. We knew the treatments werent working but expected another couple of years really. Immune system was screwed though and she just couldn’t shake the repeated infections (once they finally admitted her)

Been a tough few weeks. But like you say, think it’s been easier to process because it’s been an ongoing thing for so long. Very proud of my wife and her family for how they have dealt with it. Going to be a rough Xmas (I’m not Christmassy really but my wife is).

I’ve been ok really, upset, angry, hits you in waves but I think all just relived she isn’t suffering anymore.
 
tommye said:
@Twinkletoes123
Noticed you've not posted for a bit, hope everything is OK and you and your daughter are looking forward to Christmas x
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Haven’t been on much as haven’t been great. Thanks for your kindness and concern. I have been in contact with threshold (womens aid) I am still on a list to see them so I am seeing my therapist in the new year to see if she can give them another push.
My daughter and I are okay currently, (I know it seems awful to say) but we are so used to our situation that it feels normal and my therapist even said it may take years to adapt to normal surroundings when it’s over.
I will try and be more active in the coming days, I’m finding it a bit embarrassing that I put myself in this situation and think maybe I shouldn’t have shared so much.

Wishing you a Merry Christmas xx
 
Twinkletoes123 said:
Haven’t been on much as haven’t been great. Thanks for your kindness and concern. I have been in contact with threshold (womens aid) I am still on a list to see them so I am seeing my therapist in the new year to see if she can give them another push.
My daughter and I are okay currently, (I know it seems awful to say) but we are so used to our situation that it feels normal and my therapist even said it may take years to adapt to normal surroundings when it’s over.
I will try and be more active in the coming days, I’m finding it a bit embarrassing that I put myself in this situation and think maybe I shouldn’t have shared so much.

Wishing you a Merry Christmas xx
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You mustn’t think that. When you’re being abused, I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what the abuser wants - For you to feel too ashamed to speak up.

Not a soul on here has an ounce of blame they’d apportion to you, no judgement of any kind in fact. Stay in touch on here please. We’re all rooting for you.
 
Brett Angell Delight said:
You mustn’t think that. When you’re being abused, I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what the abuser wants - For you to feel too ashamed to speak up.

Not a soul on here has an ounce of blame they’d apportion to you, no judgement of any kind in fact. Stay in touch on here please. We’re all rooting for you.
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Thank you so much, I will do my best to keep in touch on here x
 

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