Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Rita_Poon]

Not sure how much more of this shoite life I can take !!

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[Rita_Poon]

Fighting this isn't 'right' or 'wrong', it's coming through it. There might always be the smallest shadow in your memory, they say time is a healer but all it is is distance. The worse you treat yourself the more this enemy takes from you. I cannot recommend enough going and talking with a counselor, it took a few goes but I got through in the end and it saved my life. Sometimes the time and patience of a complete stranger is the exact tonic for unloading the burden. (The human element, being able to look someone in the eye, it's important to be validated - it meant for me that I had conveyed as best I could what had happened and what that had cost)

I regret not going and doing the honest parts sooner. I took that time away from me.

Edit: Being strong sometimes means owning not being strong, learning from the errors you have made on purpose as well as accidentally. You can get there, it took for me that moment where enough was enough - address it or let it dominate.

There's no getting it back. Honest.

 

[tommye]

Not sure how much more of this shoite life I can take !!

Don't give up mate.
Stay strong, keep fighting x

 

[Kurt.]

Not sure how much more of this shoite life I can take !!

Mate, I posted on here a few weeks ago, I was lost, feeling completely empty, wondering what was the point in fighting anymore. Believe me when I say I’ve been where you’re now at … and I honestly feel you and empathise with you… the darkness won’t lift .. the pain is real. I reached out on here in desperation and the responses I had reduced me to tears … I know it’s hard now.. worse than hard… but please believe me, no matter how dark it gets, no matter how much pain you’re now feeling… it will lift..maybe not tomorrow or the day after or the day after that .. but you have to keep fighting … you’re worth way more than you’ll ever know… and when you wake up that one day and it feels less hurtful than the day before that’s something to grasp and build on, the next day may be better again..and then the next. Every day is worth fighting for mate… every day is important… I pray that first day is close for you … believe me it will happen, yiu just need to keep fighting and believing… I swear things will get better but you have to fight and want things to get better… praying for you pal x

 

[St Domingos]

Brendan, hi.

 

[tommye]

Mate, I posted on here a few weeks ago, I was lost, feeling completely empty, wondering what was the point in fighting anymore. Believe me when I say I’ve been where you’re now at … and I honestly feel you and empathise with you… the darkness won’t lift .. the pain is real. I reached out on here in desperation and the responses I had reduced me to tears … I know it’s hard now.. worse than hard… but please believe me, no matter how dark it gets, no matter how much pain you’re now feeling… it will lift..maybe not tomorrow or the day after or the day after that .. but you have to keep fighting … you’re worth way more than you’ll ever know… and when you wake up that one day and it feels less hurtful than the day before that’s something to grasp and build on, the next day may be better again..and then the next. Every day is worth fighting for mate… every day is important… I pray that first day is close for you … believe me it will happen, yiu just need to keep fighting and believing… I swear things will get better but you have to fight and want things to get better… praying for you pal x

You and the Mrs enjoy the Big City today pal?


That stadium thing ain't bad is it ?

 

[Kurt.]

You and the Mrs enjoy the Big City today pal?


That stadium thing ain't bad is it ?

Had a great day Tom, supposed to be Xmas shopping.. bought 2 boxes of posh cream crackers from Marks’…. The stadium looks amazing, flying up. Stayed in town until about 6.45pm tonight and enjoyed a nice walk along the docks… finally got home just after 9pm.. loved it. First visit since before Covid…won’t be staying away that long again x

 

[Kurt.]

Tell you what though @tommye , the bloke who owns that Bramley Moore pub must be rubbing his hands… the area is undeniably a bit neglected and I doubt that place is a goldmine right now but he’s gonna make a mint once the ground is open

 

[Gwladysover]

Feel like I only post on here when I want to share which feels a bit selfish. I'll do better when things are less hectic!

Anyway, i finally got my diagnosis which is moderate ADHD. That means I can now get medication and support in adapting to how it effects my life on the NHS. Which is a weight off my mind.

GF has actually been really supportive with it since she realised her best friend's husband deals with a lot of the same issues I do. So feeling pretty upbeat this week.

Thanks again for all the support everybody. You're all special and I appreciate it.

So very happy to read that you have got a diagnosis and you will get the help and support you need. Not selfish to post only when you want to share, just someone who is in need of help. Good luck with the treatment and your journey forward.?

 

[Gwladysover]

Mate, I posted on here a few weeks ago, I was lost, feeling completely empty, wondering what was the point in fighting anymore. Believe me when I say I’ve been where you’re now at … and I honestly feel you and empathise with you… the darkness won’t lift .. the pain is real. I reached out on here in desperation and the responses I had reduced me to tears … I know it’s hard now.. worse than hard… but please believe me, no matter how dark it gets, no matter how much pain you’re now feeling… it will lift..maybe not tomorrow or the day after or the day after that .. but you have to keep fighting … you’re worth way more than you’ll ever know… and when you wake up that one day and it feels less hurtful than the day before that’s something to grasp and build on, the next day may be better again..and then the next. Every day is worth fighting for mate… every day is important… I pray that first day is close for you … believe me it will happen, yiu just need to keep fighting and believing… I swear things will get better but you have to fight and want things to get better… praying for you pal x

Exactly this.

 

[Gwladysover]

More sleep & see if I can make work tomorrow !!

I hope that you make it into work today, you will be in my thoughts. ?

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Life’s a bit of a mess atm, being left in the lurch as my gf told me today she “needs a break”. Whatever that means. So I’m now spending Christmas alone. Tomorrows also 11 years since my dad committed suicide too, completely out of the blue. Best mate and massive Evertonian. Brave face needed for work tomorrow…!

That's rubbish. there's never a good time to hear things like that but this time of year is especially hard. Sorry about your Dad x

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Feel like I only post on here when I want to share which feels a bit selfish. I'll do better when things are less hectic!

Anyway, i finally got my diagnosis which is moderate ADHD. That means I can now get medication and support in adapting to how it effects my life on the NHS. Which is a weight off my mind.

GF has actually been really supportive with it since she realised her best friend's husband deals with a lot of the same issues I do. So feeling pretty upbeat this week.

Thanks again for all the support everybody. You're all special and I appreciate it.

Good to hear this.

 

[tommye]

@Twinkletoes123
Noticed you've not posted for a bit, hope everything is OK and you and your daughter are looking forward to Christmas x

 

[Spotty]

When I was a younger, I recall my dad saying to me " son, compared to death life is fantastic ". He would refer to the very simple things in life that taken individually, don't mean much. But taken collectively, they are what makes our life so meaningful and rich. Seeing a new mum and her child interact, the look a child gives you when your holding them. The smell - the " baby smell " - that makes you feel warm inside , something I wish I could bottle. The satisfaction of a lovely hot meal, the glass of wine or beer you enjoy with good company, fresh air, nice walks, spending a nice night in with a good movie, cup of milky cocoa before bed, nice warm shower, seeing people happy and yes your part of that, reminiscing when a song your listening to brings back floods of fond memories. Very simple things that make me happy.

I say to the what seems like the many souls on here who appear to be suffering at present, the simple things that make us contented, aren't that far away that we can't grasp them again. Few of us I suspect are solely interested in having lots of money and possessions. For most of us it's the very simple non complicated things in life that we covet and crave. I've alluded to mine above. I hope we can all rediscover the hope we sometimes lose, and again start again to enjoy the little things that for us, make our life worth living. Take care all.