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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

USABlue said:
Thank you all for the kinds words! Sadly we were told today that it's the same sort of cancer that she had cut out of her lungs last January. Her recent thoracic CTs have apparently been clear so they're going to do a thigh to head PET scan in two weeks. Also will be scheduled for Gamma Knife radiation. Mixed news as it's good it's not a Glioblastoma (GBM) but if it's metastatic that's not good either. Will have to wait and see on her PET scan. The brain tumor that was removed was alot larger than the lung nodule she had taken out last year
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So sorry the news isn’t better. Will keep you in my thoughts. Best wishes.💙
 

My gf is really struggling with work atm, her manager is absolutely terrible - for eg, she said she was struggling to sleep with the stress of work and he said he had a bad night sleep cos he nearly ran over a badger(?). He wasn't joking as well. It's by far the worst I have ever seen her over 15 years

I suggested she goes to the docs to see if she can get signed off for two weeks but as most she said she'd feel bad and doesn't know if it's possible. she probably should have gone weeks ago but has been putting it off, is getting signed off a quick thing for doctors to do?
 
coollino said:
My gf is really struggling with work atm, her manager is absolutely terrible - for eg, she said she was struggling to sleep with the stress of work and he said he had a bad night sleep cos he nearly ran over a badger(?). He wasn't joking as well. It's by far the worst I have ever seen her over 15 years

I suggested she goes to the docs to see if she can get signed off for two weeks but as most she said she'd feel bad and doesn't know if it's possible. she probably should have gone weeks ago but has been putting it off, is getting signed off a quick thing for doctors to do?
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Think so. Guy I worked with a few years back got 6 months off with stress and it felt almost instant that he was in then wasn't.
 
coollino said:
My gf is really struggling with work atm, her manager is absolutely terrible - for eg, she said she was struggling to sleep with the stress of work and he said he had a bad night sleep cos he nearly ran over a badger(?). He wasn't joking as well. It's by far the worst I have ever seen her over 15 years

I suggested she goes to the docs to see if she can get signed off for two weeks but as most she said she'd feel bad and doesn't know if it's possible. she probably should have gone weeks ago but has been putting it off, is getting signed off a quick thing for doctors to do?
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Probably, sounds like putting a plaster over the real problem though mate, can she not try speaking with HR?
 
Nymzee said:
Think so. Guy I worked with a few years back got 6 months off with stress and it felt almost instant that he was in then wasn't.
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I think they may have seen this coming, but they've done absolutely nothing to help so I'm not sure what the best thing is to do other than this
 
Goodisongang said:
Probably, sounds like putting a plaster over the real problem though mate, can she not try speaking with HR?
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They are outsourced, it's like talking to a robot. She doesn't want to but I'm struggling to see a better way out at the minute, she is the only person who does her job and no one covers despite her part time hours
 

coollino said:
My gf is really struggling with work atm, her manager is absolutely terrible - for eg, she said she was struggling to sleep with the stress of work and he said he had a bad night sleep cos he nearly ran over a badger(?). He wasn't joking as well. It's by far the worst I have ever seen her over 15 years

I suggested she goes to the docs to see if she can get signed off for two weeks but as most she said she'd feel bad and doesn't know if it's possible. she probably should have gone weeks ago but has been putting it off, is getting signed off a quick thing for doctors to do?
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It absolutely is possible, her job is making her ill.

It`s as simple as the GP giving her a " sick note " mate, which will state a minimum amount of time she she should take off, before being reviewed again by the GP, as to her fitness to work.

It also gives her legal protection as to being " forced " back into work.
 
coollino said:
My gf is really struggling with work atm, her manager is absolutely terrible - for eg, she said she was struggling to sleep with the stress of work and he said he had a bad night sleep cos he nearly ran over a badger(?). He wasn't joking as well. It's by far the worst I have ever seen her over 15 years

I suggested she goes to the docs to see if she can get signed off for two weeks but as most she said she'd feel bad and doesn't know if it's possible. she probably should have gone weeks ago but has been putting it off, is getting signed off a quick thing for doctors to do?
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My mum was signed off a few months back after having a fall, got signed off by the GP straight away and just had to send in the note to work, was fairly simple stuff from memory.

I had a mate signed off for depression a while back and that was similar as well so she should be alright mate, might give her the breathing space she needs to relieve the stress and assess things.
 
Bungle said:
My mum was signed off a few months back after having a fall, got signed off by the GP straight away and just had to send in the note to work, was fairly simple stuff from memory.

I had a mate signed off for depression a while back and that was similar as well so she should be alright mate, might give her the breathing space she needs to relieve the stress and assess things.
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I was signed off sick off and on for over two years when I had all the crap I had going on in work.

Other than having to drop the note into work, it was straightforward.
 
COYBL25 said:
I was signed off sick off and on for over two years when I had all the crap I had going on in work.

Other than having to drop the note into work, it was straightforward.
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Yeah like you say I think it was an initial 4 weeks for my mate and just popped back in and saw the GP and he extended it further until he was sorted and that went on for a bit.
 

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