Only just reading this, so very sorry for your loss.
I can only echo the great advice others have given you.
I wish you strength and love, look after each other and know that you will get through this.
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I can only echo the great advice others have given you.
I wish you strength and love, look after each other and know that you will get through this.
I know the feeling. Having been dealing with anxiety for a number of years. I’m better now thanks to therapy but there’s always the odd day when it all falls apart a bit. Exercise and a good sleeping routine help me. I can’t cope when I’m tired.Keep going with the exercise and maybe set little goals for yourself - I’ve done the couch to 5K, let’s do a park run. I’ve done a park run, let’s do a 10K ?
It’ll give yourself something good to worry about, rather than all the day to day crap that kicks anxiety off.
I’ve had it now for the best part of twenty years and it’s all about managing and finding what works best for you.
It can take a while, but keep going mate, as it will get better
Ale deffo not good with it. During COVID I was drinking too much, although think it was a coping mechanism when trying to get my head round what was going on plus a hectic family life and worry about money etc as my missus is self employed. Having a young child gives you plenty to worry about but you can’t keep them in a bubble so have to learn to let go a little bit. Especially now as he’s riding his bike about with his mates haha!
Drink maybe once every 6-8 weeks on average now and it’s maybe a pint and a glass of wine.
I can’t recommend therapy and practicing a bit of gratitude enough.
Sorry I haven't really been a on here recently. Ask for proof. Ask him/ her for evidence to back up those claims. They won't have any. Ask why, if these claims are true, they have not previously told you about them and given you the opportunity to put things right. It sounds like utter b*ll*cks to me. Go over their head. Put how it has affected you in your work accident book - work has caused you to be ill. It's like any other work place injury.
Just reading this I'm so sorry. Much love x
Hi guys. I want to apologise for ignoring this thread recently- it is one of the most beautiful places on the Internet, never mind GOT. There's been a lot going on this year. I can categorically say that 2024 has been the worst year of my life to date. In March, my 31 year old son, was diagnosed with Stage 3 malignant melanoma. It started in January as what looked like a bite on his ankle - not a dodgy mole, a pink mark. So he ignored it for a while until it started oozing. He went to his GP who gave him antibiotics, it got no better so he went back. This time he got a referral to dermatology who did a biopsy but said not to worry, it was fine - a benign granuloma. Unfortunately it wasn't. The melanoma had spread to the lymph nodes in his groin. In April, he had a big operation to remove the melanoma from his ankle and the affected lymph nodes in his groin. After that he started immunotherapy as a preventative measure because even though all the post op scans were clear, melanoma has a nasty habit of coming back. He had two lots of treatment but has had to pause it because he's getting side effects - mad crazy itching and a rash. However the good news is that they now seem to be under control and he's looking to restart his treatment in a couple of weeks. He also got married in May and although we all had a lovely day, everything has been overshadowed by this. I feel so sorry for them- they should be enjoying life as a newly married couple but instead it has all been hospitals and treatment.
As for me, my mental wellbeing has been a roller coaster I've cried so much, I've been angry at how unfair life is and I literally could not speak about it. I told my boss via email and told him that was the only way I could communicate with him. He was a star, offered me as much time off as I wanted to. I declined the offer - work kept me distracted and forced me to think (ie imagine the worst case scenarios) about other things. It has truly been an experience I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Things are currently heading in tne right direction but every scan, every test gives you those horrible feelings that it might not be good news.
In amongst all this we sold my Dad's house. Really was the end of an era and both my brother andI who were Dad's executors, found it far more emotional than we expected. Family home since 1977, getting rid of all his stuff. It was tough.
I genuinely can't wait for 2024 to do one.
As for me, my mental wellbeing has been a roller coaster I've cried so much, I've been angry at how unfair life is and I literally could not speak about it. I told my boss via email and told him that was the only way I could communicate with him. He was a star, offered me as much time off as I wanted to. I declined the offer - work kept me distracted and forced me to think (ie imagine the worst case scenarios) about other things. It has truly been an experience I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Things are currently heading in tne right direction but every scan, every test gives you those horrible feelings that it might not be good news.
In amongst all this we sold my Dad's house. Really was the end of an era and both my brother andI who were Dad's executors, found it far more emotional than we expected. Family home since 1977, getting rid of all his stuff. It was tough.
I genuinely can't wait for 2024 to do one.
Hi Ange. So sorry to hear about your son. Cancer is one horrible disease. Your mental health is fine and you are bearing up the best way you can . God bless and hopefully next year will be a lot kinder to you
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I've been away from the non-moaning-about-Everton threads for too long, too. The loveliest thing about this thread, though, is there is never a shortage of others offering help, so those that need a break can take one without having to worry.
I am so sorry you've had an awful year. I can't fathom how terrifying it must be to see your kid having to go through an illness like that; to have had to wave goodbye to a family home in the midst of it all must have been heartbreaking, too.
Here's to a much better 2025 for you and your family.
Thank you for your kind words. I think my current phase is cautiously optimistic. One of hardest things for me is that as a parent, no matter how old your kids are, you want to fix things for them. I can't fix this, I have no control.
He and his wife are coming up for the weekend- we're going to the pantomime in Durham - a friend's daughter is in it - so it should be fun.
He and his wife are coming up for the weekend- we're going to the pantomime in Durham - a friend's daughter is in it - so it should be fun.
Hope your okay?Out of nowhere two days ago I started getting heart palpitations. Resting heart rate of 130bpm. Nothing that I know has changed, no extra stress at home or work, no spate of full English a week in a row.
Half way through a work day yesterday I forced myself to leave mid meeting and go to an urgent care. Some quick checks and an EKG later I'm on the way to the emergency room with suspected heart damage, where I spent the rest of the day with a battery of tests.
I'm back home. They acknowledge that my heart rate is high but other vitals look fine, so they've referred me to look for an appointment with a cardiologist.
Logically I understand why, but I'm scared. I suppose I could be in a anxiety spiral at this point because the not knowing and such, but also it's come on quite sudden and at 40 I thought I'd be dealing more with dodgy knee or back stuff. Ha.
Anyway, I'm going to see my GP later today because despite (or maybe because) living in New York with a million hospitals and some of the leading cardiologists in the country, the earliest I could get with someone who is a reputable MD specifically was December 23. For all those who wax lyrical about the American healthcare system, my initial visit today was £60, followed by the ER visit of £250, followed by a deductible of ~£800 (so far) for the tests so far. This is with "good" insurance. The NHS really is a modern marvel.
Anyway, just wanted to get my fear out on paper as it were. I expect it's normal with any scares like this, but also to encourage others: don't betray your body, your self or your loved ones if something just doesn't feel right. Take some steps with the experts
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Take care @anjelikaferrett i see your support for so many here you deserve it all in return from us all here
Enjoy your weekend Anj, you're an inspiration on here and I hope things have turned into positive territory for you xx