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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

chicoazul said:
I was thinking weirdly today that I don't feel the dislike of them so much and that I should go easy on them. Obviously a bit of a ripping as that's what they would want but I've sorted of seen them become less annoying.
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they are getting a star wars style, your my only hope message from me, this depression thread will be rammed if they don't pull it off
 

chicoazul said:
Aye it helps! I'll be ok, I just have to keep focused and kick against the tide. It would be nice if I had lids who motivated me from time to time but I get by like I always do.

Makes you appreciate the good times more when they come about.
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Yeah...can be hard to see the end of the tunnel when you're in it. Was working 15-18 hours a day for nearly the whole month of February. To say the least, my work/life balance didn't exist...made it through though. My employees doing think I'm a raging lunatic anymore.
 
ilikecheese said:
Yeah...can be hard to see the end of the tunnel when you're in it. Was working 15-18 hours a day for nearly the whole month of February. To say the least, my work/life balance didn't exist...made it through though. My employees doing think I'm a raging lunatic anymore.
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Is right.

I think once you've been through it before it gives you confidence that you'll sort it out. If your employees can tell you're stressed then you're not doing it right! Be the swan man, elegant and serene above the water in full view. No one sees the legs kicking furiously underneath the surface like.

I just wish I had someone to go to with my stresses. Ho-hum, we are big boys now.
 
chicoazul said:
I'm having a terribly tough time at work of late. Lots of change and stress, to the point where my life work balance is very one sided. Any time I get away from it I usually spend on here to escape.

Can't wait for it all to pass over and start enjoying stuff again.
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ilikecheese said:
Yeah...can be hard to see the end of the tunnel when you're in it. Was working 15-18 hours a day for nearly the whole month of February. To say the least, my work/life balance didn't exist...made it through though.
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Yous are not alone on that one. Racked up 260 hours in the office for March, and around 220 by the time April's done. Fair do's, a lot of it is just monitoring so I get to GOT and stuff, but still...enjoying real life stuff has been on hold for a while.


In my case, I'm doing all these hours as I need to back up poor financial decisions of the previous few years...sometimes it seems there's no end in sight, but I'm a trooper and just get on with it. Have got good people around me and am generally good-humoured about things anyway, but I can understand how some lads can feel trapped in a black hole.

Not sure what the trick to avoid the hole is, but I feel I've orbited it once or twice and managed not to fall in. Best I can describe it is you just kind of plough along and rise above the negative vibes. It's like your internal prioritisation of focussed energy ranks positive things much higher than negative things. So my crap finances and heavy work-hours might seem like it should be getting me down, but simple pleasures like being with my lady, playing my synth, Everton winning or even just general reading & relaxing have much more of my energy devoted, so it sort of prevents me from getting too close to the black hole, while still enabling me to put in the shifts required to gradually sort out what's necessary. I think it's a kind of mental perspective-shift.

Not sure if that makes sense or if it just came out all flower-power. Basically, focus your energy on the good things, and just deal with the bad things.

Also, staying sober (other than the odd beer or two) is a very good idea.


All the best to anyone who is sailing near that black hole or have even fallen into it :)
 

chicoazul said:
Is right.

I think once you've been through it before it gives you confidence that you'll sort it out. If your employees can tell you're stressed then you're not doing it right! Be the swan man, elegant and serene above the water in full view. No one sees the legs kicking furiously underneath the surface like.

I just wish I had someone to go to with my stresses. Ho-hum, we are big boys now.
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There are places you can go for help
 
GwladysBlue said:
I posted in this thread when it was first created and I have to say what a brilliant idea it was to pin it as we all from time to time suffer from depression and anxieties.

My initial contribution to the thread though true, I didn't give the reasons why.

I'm 21 years old and even writing this down now, knowing I'm likely to never see any of you is hard. I'm a closeted gay, though out to two of my close friends, it can be hard to hide this secret life from your parents and family.

The pressures can sometimes be immense, watching your other cousins get girlfriends, then the looming question of "why don't you have one?" arises.

When I went to counselling for depression I didn't tell them this through pure fear of not only being outed but fear of accepting what I am.

It's becoming more of an issue getting older, as I've started being in relationships with other men, and when these relationships breakdown you have to hide the pain of it and once again wear the mask, having to come to terms with the fact that the the idea of 'straight' you will never be.
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I came out to my Mum and Dad tonight, years of hiding it gone in the space of seconds.

My Mum seems okay, my Dad a bit quiet on it on how 'hard a life I'll have' but in time I think he'll come around.

Thanks for the previous messages of support.
 
Good for you, GwladysBlue. Best of luck in the process.

What a great idea to have this thread. I recently went into counseling to deal with my impending divorce and it's one of the best things I ever did. Usually, just talking about how I'm feeling lifts the weight off and allows me to function as I normally would.

Having other Blues all over the world be able to help and support each other through difficult times is a wonderful use of what can often be a very unfriendly medium.

If I can help anyone just by lending an ear, don't be shy about messaging me. Even if we don't know each other (which it would almost have to be, because as far as I know, I don't know anyone on GOT personally).
 

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