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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

GwladysBlue said:
I came out to my Mum and Dad tonight, years of hiding it gone in the space of seconds.

My Mum seems okay, my Dad a bit quiet on it on how 'hard a life I'll have' but in time I think he'll come around.

Thanks for the previous messages of support.
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Well in mate. Give them time, they're probably feeling a bit strange right now and are probably asking themselves why you couldn't come out to them earlier. As a parent you like to think your kids can tell you anything, so it can come as a bit of a shock to find out that maybe you're not as approachable as you thought you were.
 
Woolly Blue said:
Well in mate. Give them time, they're probably feeling a bit strange right now and are probably asking themselves why you couldn't come out to them earlier. As a parent you like to think your kids can tell you anything, so it can come as a bit of a shock to find out that maybe you're not as approachable as you thought you were.
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Yeah, I'm just going to leave them to it now. The person they've thought I was all these years has fell apart so it will take sometime for them to come round to the idea. I've prepared myself for this.
 
Well done mate, they're your family, they will show their true colours by supporting you as you're their son.

Personally I find it sad that someone has to come to terms with somebody else being gay, there should be no shame in it what so ever, but I guess times were different, hopefully one day soon this will never be an issue in our society.
 

GwladysBlue said:
I came out to my Mum and Dad tonight, years of hiding it gone in the space of seconds.

My Mum seems okay, my Dad a bit quiet on it on how 'hard a life I'll have' but in time I think he'll come around.

Thanks for the previous messages of support.
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That took guts. Well done. You can now be yourself. Sure you'll be fine.
 
Thank you for the support everyone, it means a lot.
My Nana found out this morning. She is a very religious woman, she said it changes nothing of how she feels about me and respects me for coming out. Maybe attitudes are starting to change now, granted it's not ideal but your sexuality is no more of a choice than the colour of your eyes.

I'm glad they know now, as I can finally start to be who I've known I am for years.

Finally, I know it's been said already by countless other posters but I really do doubt there is a good a forum as GOT.
 
GwladysBlue said:
Thank you for the support everyone, it means a lot.
My Nana found out this morning. She is a very religious woman, she said it changes nothing of how she feels about me and respects me for coming out. Maybe attitudes are starting to change now, granted it's not ideal but your sexuality is no more of a choice than the colour of your eyes.

I'm glad they know now, as I can finally start to be who I've known I am for years.

Finally, I know it's been said already by countless other posters but I really do doubt there is a good a forum as GOT.
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Unconditional love. Right there.

Even your Dad saying he worries about the hard life you might have is his way of caring.
 
GwladysBlue said:
My Nana found out this morning. She is a very religious woman, she said it changes nothing of how she feels about me and respects me for coming out. Maybe attitudes are starting to change now
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I think so, mate. I'm in my mid-30's and left the family home when I was 19, moving hundreds of miles away. I've always been quite private about my relationships and as such neither set of grandparents have ever met or barely heard about a girlfriend.

One hilarious moment a couple of years ago was my Oma (German Nana from me Mam's side) saying to me: "When are you gonna finally settle down with a nice girlfriend..." dramatic pause, then with an ernest twinkle in her eye "...or boyfriend".

lol

And when my Nana (the English one) found out from my sister that i've been living with my girlfriend for the last few months and just not told everyone, she exclaimed: "well i never, i thought he was gay!".

haha!


All meaning to show that this generation of 80-something conservative ladies are quite cool with their Grandchildren being gay should it be so. I think as you say attitudes are much better now than maybe 20 year ago. It's fair to say they just want you to be happy, and not be alone.
 
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ok going to make a fool of myself. everyone has to read my moans. just feeling so down today feeling like that stuff that comes out of your backside. (been warned about inapropriate language.) and what do I do? feel depressed so decide to drink . only good side about drinking is I can vent.
 

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