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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

john jako said:
Many of you will know that me and the wife had a baby boy born 7 weeks ago now through an emergency cesarean. He was 5 weeks early. 3 hours before my wife went in for the op we were told by the pediatrician that there was a 50/50 chance the boy would come out not breathing. I was shocked. It's a weird feeling when your told news that is only probable. Anyway cut a long story short, my boy was born and somehow managing to breathe on his own. He got transfered to intensive care for three weeks. During that time he was on all type of ventilators and had wires coming out of arteries I didn't even know we have. It was a horrible sight to see him in a incubator and left you feeling like there is nothing you can do.

After three weeks of up and downs and tests coming back good and bad we finally got the all clear to come home. He is fighting fit and doing really well.

The reason I post this here is for a few reasons. I wouldn't say during the time I was depressed. I was more scared and apprehensive. There where times when I felt low however not in a way of being in danger. One of the main reasons I kept my morale up and took my mind off the hospital was by coming on here. The people on here are sound. Just reading the humour and wind ups on here was enough to keep me going. So for that reason thanks everyone. There's a lot of good people on here. You all make a difference even when you don't realise you are.

Lastly the NHS is incredible. The jobs the doctors, nurses etc do is beyond anything I could do. Brilliant people.
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Great news mate.
Wish your boy a happy and healthy life. Hope gets to see a successful Everton team ;)
 
john jako said:
Many of you will know that me and the wife had a baby boy born 7 weeks ago now through an emergency cesarean. He was 5 weeks early. 3 hours before my wife went in for the op we were told by the pediatrician that there was a 50/50 chance the boy would come out not breathing. I was shocked. It's a weird feeling when your told news that is only probable. Anyway cut a long story short, my boy was born and somehow managing to breathe on his own. He got transfered to intensive care for three weeks. During that time he was on all type of ventilators and had wires coming out of arteries I didn't even know we have. It was a horrible sight to see him in a incubator and left you feeling like there is nothing you can do.

After three weeks of up and downs and tests coming back good and bad we finally got the all clear to come home. He is fighting fit and doing really well.

The reason I post this here is for a few reasons. I wouldn't say during the time I was depressed. I was more scared and apprehensive. There where times when I felt low however not in a way of being in danger. One of the main reasons I kept my morale up and took my mind off the hospital was by coming on here. The people on here are sound. Just reading the humour and wind ups on here was enough to keep me going. So for that reason thanks everyone. There's a lot of good people on here. You all make a difference even when you don't realise you are.

Lastly the NHS is incredible. The jobs the doctors, nurses etc do is beyond anything I could do. Brilliant people.
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Wonderful story John so pleased for you and your family, at a time when there is so much sadness in the world it is uplifting to hear such good news, I hope he continues to go from strength to strength.
 
Baggzio said:
Alright lads how're things. I posted here a couple weeks ago and wasn't in the best way in all honesty. I was stressing over exam results and college and all that fun stuff. Anyways because of the help and advice I received I feel like it's only fair to give an update on how I am.

Long story short I didn't get the course I wanted but I did get something else which may actually be much better for me in the long run with regards jobs and pay. I was obviously very upset at first especially given the fact that most of my friends got their first choice. However because of some of the help and advice I got on here I started looking into other things and tried to look at it like it wasn't the end of the world. And guess what? It wasn't.

This different course as I said will probably be better for me in the long run. Also I think I gained a bit of maturity knowing that the course I got I barely qualified for it so it shows that I'm gonna have to work harder in life to really get what I want or else I could be in another situation like I was where I was stressing out over it and inevitably found out I wasn't good enough for it.

It's hard to admit but the weeks and months of feeling terrible about myself and all that will benefit me in the future because I know I'll have to do whatever I can to not get in a position where I feel like that again. I spose u have to go through some tough times to get to the good times.

In all honesty now I'm looking forward to college, I mentioned in my last post that I was a bit anxious about who I'd be living with but the more and more I think about it all I can say is [Poor language removed] it and try and enjoy myself. Even if I don't make friends with them even though I actually think I will, I'll try at least and that's the best I can do, I'll see my other friends almost every day anyway so it's not really a big deal or at least not as big as I was making it out to be.

For other people who think they might've felt like me with all these results and that be it for school or college or whatever just remember it's not nor will it ever be the end of the world. There are always other options no matter what. Yeah it might take u a bit longer but if it's what u really want to do then you'll have no problem doing it. Alternatively u could be like me and figure out that it's really just not for u and do something else more suited to u.

All in all lads let's be honest the education system in most places is bull anyway, the fact that they can put a numeric value or grade value on something meaning u can't be a doctor or a teacher or whatever is nonsense. The best thing ye can do for yerselves is (and this sounds very hippy) prove the system wrong and achieve what they said u couldn't because if u wanna do something then it's only yourself who can stop u.

Anyways that's the end of my long rant on here (again). Main thing is its not the end of the world lads there's always other ways. Also again massive thanks to everyone who offered help and advice when I needed it. Ye didn't have to do it ye didn't have an obligation but ye still did I hope ye all know that you're all great people and deserve congratulations and thanks. It's great how a community can come together and forget about football even for 5 minutes to help someone out. It truly is amazing lads. You're all a credit to yourselves and this great club.
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You have got through the hardest part, as it where, and the rewards will seem all the effort was worthwhile.
Take a bow, you deserve all the success coning your way.
 
wbn61 said:
SATURDAY.
What a magical day of the week in the football season. the one day that takes the least effort of getting out of bed. all the people getting up with anticipation, hope and optimism for the coming day. the one day we try to forget our worries and troubles, looking ahead to meeting friends, discussing everything that's gone on in the week, catching the coach , train, car to travel to distant towns and cities or just meeting in the pub closest to the ground. some of us can't do it but we still feel involved via radio tv or internet. so I hope everyone is able to have relief from their troubles today and have an enjoyable day. I am going to.
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Inspirational, as always.
I trust the good feelings continue for a long while, as you thoroughly deserve them.
 

john jako said:
Many of you will know that me and the wife had a baby boy born 7 weeks ago now through an emergency cesarean. He was 5 weeks early. 3 hours before my wife went in for the op we were told by the pediatrician that there was a 50/50 chance the boy would come out not breathing. I was shocked. It's a weird feeling when your told news that is only probable. Anyway cut a long story short, my boy was born and somehow managing to breathe on his own. He got transfered to intensive care for three weeks. During that time he was on all type of ventilators and had wires coming out of arteries I didn't even know we have. It was a horrible sight to see him in a incubator and left you feeling like there is nothing you can do.

After three weeks of up and downs and tests coming back good and bad we finally got the all clear to come home. He is fighting fit and doing really well.

The reason I post this here is for a few reasons. I wouldn't say during the time I was depressed. I was more scared and apprehensive. There where times when I felt low however not in a way of being in danger. One of the main reasons I kept my morale up and took my mind off the hospital was by coming on here. The people on here are sound. Just reading the humour and wind ups on here was enough to keep me going. So for that reason thanks everyone. There's a lot of good people on here. You all make a difference even when you don't realise you are.

Lastly the NHS is incredible. The jobs the doctors, nurses etc do is beyond anything I could do. Brilliant people.
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Everything you say.
We went through a similar experience twenty three years ago. Baby daughter via cesarean, 9 weeks premature, and a forty eight hour survival expectancy.
In June we celebrated her Post Grad mastering in Forensic science at university.
You have all the joy in the world ahead of you.
Your family have all best wishes, and always, Be Good For Each-Other.
Bless you all.
 
had a really bad day yesterday. after a rough week I woke up with the Saturday feeling I was trying to convey in my last post. it didn't last too long. watched Wrexham lose 3-0 then the shte went 1 up, by then I was getting tired and vomiting again. by the time everton kicked off I was so tired and in pain it was hard to keep my eyes open but I persevered to the end then went straight to bed. I haven't been able to eat for about 3 days so was really weak and listless. my wife decided to call the out of hours doctor, she came and gave me an injection and arranged for district nurses to come out later. they came about 11pm and fitted me with a driver which is a device that attaches to your stomach via a needle that regulates dosages of the drug into your body. managed a good sleep that night and woke up without vomiting for a change. felt a bit better today and after the nurses came to renew the drug I felt ok to go to a charity do for EITC at a friends house. had a good couple of hours there, the guest speaker was ken mcnaut (ask your dad lol) he gave some good anecdotes and went down well. I bid in the auction and got james mcCarthys signed right boot in a frame with pic and authenticity. glad I went but I am so tired and sore now. just hope this driver works, we will see how tomorrow goes.
nos da
 
wbn61 said:
I felt ok to go to a charity do for EITC at a friends house. had a good couple of hours there, the guest speaker was ken mcnaut (ask your dad lol) he gave some good anecdotes and went down well. I bid in the auction and got james mcCarthys signed right boot in a frame with pic and authenticity. glad I went but I am so tired and sore now. just hope this driver works, we will see how tomorrow goes.
nos da
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Poor [Poor language removed]...
 

john jako said:
Many of you will know that me and the wife had a baby boy born 7 weeks ago now through an emergency cesarean. He was 5 weeks early. 3 hours before my wife went in for the op we were told by the pediatrician that there was a 50/50 chance the boy would come out not breathing. I was shocked. It's a weird feeling when your told news that is only probable. Anyway cut a long story short, my boy was born and somehow managing to breathe on his own. He got transfered to intensive care for three weeks. During that time he was on all type of ventilators and had wires coming out of arteries I didn't even know we have. It was a horrible sight to see him in a incubator and left you feeling like there is nothing you can do.

After three weeks of up and downs and tests coming back good and bad we finally got the all clear to come home. He is fighting fit and doing really well.

The reason I post this here is for a few reasons. I wouldn't say during the time I was depressed. I was more scared and apprehensive. There where times when I felt low however not in a way of being in danger. One of the main reasons I kept my morale up and took my mind off the hospital was by coming on here. The people on here are sound. Just reading the humour and wind ups on here was enough to keep me going. So for that reason thanks everyone. There's a lot of good people on here. You all make a difference even when you don't realise you are.

Lastly the NHS is incredible. The jobs the doctors, nurses etc do is beyond anything I could do. Brilliant people.
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What a great post to wake up to, made up for you mate.
 
wbn61 said:
had a really bad day yesterday. after a rough week I woke up with the Saturday feeling I was trying to convey in my last post. it didn't last too long. watched Wrexham lose 3-0 then the shte went 1 up, by then I was getting tired and vomiting again. by the time everton kicked off I was so tired and in pain it was hard to keep my eyes open but I persevered to the end then went straight to bed. I haven't been able to eat for about 3 days so was really weak and listless. my wife decided to call the out of hours doctor, she came and gave me an injection and arranged for district nurses to come out later. they came about 11pm and fitted me with a driver which is a device that attaches to your stomach via a needle that regulates dosages of the drug into your body. managed a good sleep that night and woke up without vomiting for a change. felt a bit better today and after the nurses came to renew the drug I felt ok to go to a charity do for EITC at a friends house. had a good couple of hours there, the guest speaker was ken mcnaut (ask your dad lol) he gave some good anecdotes and went down well. I bid in the auction and got james mcCarthys signed right boot in a frame with pic and authenticity. glad I went but I am so tired and sore now. just hope this driver works, we will see how tomorrow goes.
nos da
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Once again, and in spite of your own dilemma regarding the things which are not right in your life, you went through the pain barrier for the good of others.
EITC yesterday greeted a true warrior for the cause. YOU!
You are a completely selfless and tireless individual with enormous spirit and fortitude.
I realise you do not do not do these acts for personal gratification, but it must be put on record, that your battle to keep on being positive in the face of all adversity is an inspiration to all.
 
wbn61 said:
had a really bad day yesterday. after a rough week I woke up with the Saturday feeling I was trying to convey in my last post. it didn't last too long. watched Wrexham lose 3-0 then the shte went 1 up, by then I was getting tired and vomiting again. by the time everton kicked off I was so tired and in pain it was hard to keep my eyes open but I persevered to the end then went straight to bed. I haven't been able to eat for about 3 days so was really weak and listless. my wife decided to call the out of hours doctor, she came and gave me an injection and arranged for district nurses to come out later. they came about 11pm and fitted me with a driver which is a device that attaches to your stomach via a needle that regulates dosages of the drug into your body. managed a good sleep that night and woke up without vomiting for a change. felt a bit better today and after the nurses came to renew the drug I felt ok to go to a charity do for EITC at a friends house. had a good couple of hours there, the guest speaker was ken mcnaut (ask your dad lol) he gave some good anecdotes and went down well. I bid in the auction and got james mcCarthys signed right boot in a frame with pic and authenticity. glad I went but I am so tired and sore now. just hope this driver works, we will see how tomorrow goes.
nos da
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Yeah I watched the Wrexham game too, well I'd recorded it and watched it 1/2 hour behind time , saw 1st half and skipped quickly through 2nd, pretty poor defending at times . Shame they haven't any money to get back into the football league , would then be a good place to loan out our youngsters to. Ken McNaught eh, my memories of him revolve around watching a dire 0-0 draw at Wembley against A Villa in the League cup final and then watching us eventually lose (1-0?) at Old Trafford. Irony was he played so well that Villa bought him at the end of the season and he had a decent career with them. He's got one of those faces that you can picture whenever you see his name, if you know what I mean.
 
john jako said:
Many of you will know that me and the wife had a baby boy born 7 weeks ago now through an emergency cesarean. He was 5 weeks early. 3 hours before my wife went in for the op we were told by the pediatrician that there was a 50/50 chance the boy would come out not breathing. I was shocked. It's a weird feeling when your told news that is only probable. Anyway cut a long story short, my boy was born and somehow managing to breathe on his own. He got transfered to intensive care for three weeks. During that time he was on all type of ventilators and had wires coming out of arteries I didn't even know we have. It was a horrible sight to see him in a incubator and left you feeling like there is nothing you can do.

After three weeks of up and downs and tests coming back good and bad we finally got the all clear to come home. He is fighting fit and doing really well.

The reason I post this here is for a few reasons. I wouldn't say during the time I was depressed. I was more scared and apprehensive. There where times when I felt low however not in a way of being in danger. One of the main reasons I kept my morale up and took my mind off the hospital was by coming on here. The people on here are sound. Just reading the humour and wind ups on here was enough to keep me going. So for that reason thanks everyone. There's a lot of good people on here. You all make a difference even when you don't realise you are.

Lastly the NHS is incredible. The jobs the doctors, nurses etc do is beyond anything I could do. Brilliant people.
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Great news that the little fellas doing well mate.
 

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