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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues
- Thread starter Groucho
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wbn61
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Moan away- we're Scousers, we love a good moan!
I don't think you're moaning at all. Glad to hear from you x
Enjoy Elong Don't play Catholic golf like me I'm always crossing the fairway.
bring back the catt
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The thing I find to be almost unbelievable about the posters on this wall, is the fact they continue to post.
That sounds a very bad opening line, but please, bear me out, as I mean it with genuine respect to all.
Nearly all posters apologise for 'moaning', but in truth, none of them are.
What they are really doing, is writing about REAL events about their REAL selves, which is totally different.
Everybody who posts here, albeit by satellite, is doing so with confidence that they can do just that. Post.
They do this in complete confidence knowing that they will actually not be perceived as moaners, and will always receive genuine support, understanding and guidance. I know, I have been the recipient, and believe me, it is a great feeling. Even though in the majority of instances they had not been replying to me directly, I was able to extract enough positive advice to guide me through my troubles.. To know that fellow BLUES have experienced similar and are available at the press of an 'enter' button, is very reassuring.
Whilst it is sad so many have had bad experiences, it is wonderful to know, that all have empathy and give first hand and first class guidance. Most of all, the experience they gained from overcoming their problems are in the very answers they give to help others overcome theirs.
My thanks go to all, and although I don't wish to put words in anybody's mouth, I'm sure most feel the same way.
That sounds a very bad opening line, but please, bear me out, as I mean it with genuine respect to all.
Nearly all posters apologise for 'moaning', but in truth, none of them are.
What they are really doing, is writing about REAL events about their REAL selves, which is totally different.
Everybody who posts here, albeit by satellite, is doing so with confidence that they can do just that. Post.
They do this in complete confidence knowing that they will actually not be perceived as moaners, and will always receive genuine support, understanding and guidance. I know, I have been the recipient, and believe me, it is a great feeling. Even though in the majority of instances they had not been replying to me directly, I was able to extract enough positive advice to guide me through my troubles.. To know that fellow BLUES have experienced similar and are available at the press of an 'enter' button, is very reassuring.
Whilst it is sad so many have had bad experiences, it is wonderful to know, that all have empathy and give first hand and first class guidance. Most of all, the experience they gained from overcoming their problems are in the very answers they give to help others overcome theirs.
My thanks go to all, and although I don't wish to put words in anybody's mouth, I'm sure most feel the same way.
If you added up all the people who post on here and the lurkers, then times them by every footy forum across the country ( mainly men ) who are " secretly " unwell and are trying to hide it / live normal lives, it's truly frightening. I really believe that every footy forum, big or small should have a thread similar to this, as it really can change peoples lives for the better.
bring back the catt
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@Groucho started this thread on December 1st 2013, and it has progressed on to it's 371st page, and counting.
I am a relatively new poster to GOT, but have been avidly reading, and largely enjoying, all contributions for some while.
Initially, I was undecided to be a contributor, but reading this particular thread made my mind up. I felt I was not alone, and haven't felt that way since.
Whilst @Grouch, in his opening post, wrote that it was a shame for the need for such an inclusion, he recognised that there was indeed a real need for it. I am grateful, for I am a beneficiary. Selfish? No, a more relaxed soul for it, like so many others.
A word of thanks to @Groucho, you have helped me and countless others.
As long as it's helping. That's the main thing.
Turfman
Player Valuation: £150k
I have always used this forum when I am down, just reading it seems to help somehow. I rarely feel I have anything to contribute that has not been touched on before.
But recently something occurred to me, I have noticed that when I wake up I am usually fairly upbeat and looking forward to the day. But the constant barrage of crap and BS that rains down on the world has me totally beat by the end of the day, and I don't mean it is all directed toward myself, If I see a co-worker getting stepped on by a manager it gets me down, some evil event in the world will drive me further down and these will accumulate over time.
Except those rare golden days when I see some random act of kindness, read some feel good story online and somehow the world does not seem so bad. There is one co-worker, bless him, that says right to my face on those rare days when our schedules align, "my challenge is to make you laugh today"
I am sure that he is unaware how much good he does, (he acts the same with most everyone). What I am trying to get to is this, if you can make someone smile, go for it. You may never know the effect it may have but it won't be wasted Trust me!
But recently something occurred to me, I have noticed that when I wake up I am usually fairly upbeat and looking forward to the day. But the constant barrage of crap and BS that rains down on the world has me totally beat by the end of the day, and I don't mean it is all directed toward myself, If I see a co-worker getting stepped on by a manager it gets me down, some evil event in the world will drive me further down and these will accumulate over time.
Except those rare golden days when I see some random act of kindness, read some feel good story online and somehow the world does not seem so bad. There is one co-worker, bless him, that says right to my face on those rare days when our schedules align, "my challenge is to make you laugh today"
I am sure that he is unaware how much good he does, (he acts the same with most everyone). What I am trying to get to is this, if you can make someone smile, go for it. You may never know the effect it may have but it won't be wasted Trust me!
There should be more folk like your colleague.
RetroCat
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You just reminded me of one time when I was quite ill and having to travel three hours a day for a tenner on my dole work placement. I set myself a target of seeing five happy things on the journey to work each morning. It was a high target for me then and I really had to look hard at first, but I did it every day and it got easier to see the good stuff generally.
I’m sure I read somewhere that if you don’t feel like smiling, do it anyway and it’ll end up being genuine. I try to remember to smile at least when I’m out and it does seem to work – and it means other people smile back, which was a surprising result but quite nice too. Plus it prevents (what to me would be extremely annoying) attempts to cheer me up ;-)
Look at it another way mate :
If your co worker has such a positive impact on you, maybe you could have a positive impact on another co worker and slowly start a chain reaction within your work place ?.
bring back the catt
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Wise words indeed.
If we all had such a co-worker, then most would probably feel great benefit from them, as they obviously are a marvellous role model.
In the words of COYB25, why don't WE become that co-worker, and perhaps the chain reaction referred to could actually be extended beyond the work-place. Everyone would be a winner.
This a really selfless act on behalf of the colleague, and one of the most inspiring responses I have read