Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[COYBL25]

To be honest mate I think the best solution I can have is to get out of that place. Think the minute I do things will start to have an upturn in feelings knowing I'm not trapped there for a start. Hopefully I get that chance tomorrow but no guarantees.

Thst mat be an option though if things don't go down the line the way I want them to. Just because it is crushing being in that scenario. When you know you can't vent in there and can't vent outside for fear of bringing it home I tend to bottle it up a little bit if that makes sense. So perhaps a month or two down the line if I'm still feeling the way I am then that may be an option for me mate. Even enquiring in work about any support programs, glorified councillors or whatever you call them but someone I can vent to, that could be an option for me.

I think that may be it, venting it out. It's hard to do that without it turning into anger or aggression but without it it seems to play on my mind, which at 9-5 all week isn't a good thing.

The thing is Ash, if you are in a sustained, unhappy and stressful working environment it can quickly turn into anxiety problems, insomnia, depression, which can be as a result of bottling it up. It's not healthy to be a situation like that for any length of time x

 

[Ashtonian]

The thing is Ash, if you are in a sustained, unhappy and stressful working environment it can quickly turn into anxiety problems, insomnia, depression, which can be as a result of bottling it up. It's not healthy to be a situation like that for any length of time x

Aye. I know this and I think the first step I have taken recently is to realise it. I may have been annoyed about it previously and talked about leaving but I think over the last several weeks just sitting there and thinking about it I can see it now. That is why I am as determined as ever to get out of there, but yeah, as you say I know it wouod get worse and worse. Part of me now already has the sense of dread in the morning. It isn't the job I hate or the people on the whole whatsoever, it's thst feeling 2 hours into the day when I start to feel isolated and in my own little bubble that I dread. It is the staring at the screen with no work to do, feeling on edge with my team mates, knowing the support isn't there and no one will listen to me. Plus there is plenty of back biting thst foes on away from ear shot so you never really know if you are comfortable or not.

If I can get out and get one of these potential jobs then I can see a lot of things changing. For a start being over staff will give me back a sense of accomplishment which long went after I realised no one cared how hard you worked. The change of scenery, different people who are more likely to be a team rather than bitter. All these factors I know will have a much more positive effect on me.

All the time I was a cleaner I felt embarrassed and I felt wasted but I never felt trapped as such, weird how as soon as you start doing something that you end up that way haha worst case scenario for me is to go the other way about it. I asked for help and didn't get it, so start telling the management how I feel for putting me in that position. Tell them how unhealthy it is making me. I noticed at the start of the week I started getting weird headaches, thankfully that hasn't been a common thing but it did scare me a little that it could have that effect on me

Sorry for venting a little. Kinda thinking out loud about it. I know where it all leads so hopefully tomorrow at the earliest I can change that.

 

[EFCPaul]

Today I did my usual 12 hour shift of the week and felt loads better in myself. Getting more sleep like the doctor said has definitely helped, I found myself not having any bouts of severe paranoia like I did on Monday and actually got on far better with my colleagues, we laughed and joked a lot more than we usually do, perhaps because they noticed the positive change in me whereas before my low feelings probably gave off a negative energy so they purposely steered clear.

Feeling more confident and more relaxed, long may it continue. May even get around to finally asking my crush for her number on Sunday before I head off towards the game. Even if she were to say no if I go into it feeling the way I do now I know I'd be able to shrug it off, and I'll be able to focus my energy on the game afterwards anyway.

 

[COYBL25]

Today I did my usual 12 hour shift of the week and felt loads better in myself. Getting more sleep like the doctor said has definitely helped, I found myself not having any bouts of severe paranoia like I did on Monday and actually got on far better with my colleagues, we laughed and joked a lot more than we usually do, perhaps because they noticed the positive change in me whereas before my low feelings probably gave off a negative energy so they purposely steered clear.

Feeling more confident and more relaxed, long may it continue. May even get around to finally asking my crush for her number on Sunday before I head off towards the game. Even if she were to say no if I go into it feeling the way I do now I know I'd be able to shrug it off, and I'll be able to focus my energy on the game afterwards anyway.

Well in mate, always nice to her good news

 

[Billy Dean]

Today I did my usual 12 hour shift of the week and felt loads better in myself. Getting more sleep like the doctor said has definitely helped, I found myself not having any bouts of severe paranoia like I did on Monday and actually got on far better with my colleagues, we laughed and joked a lot more than we usually do, perhaps because they noticed the positive change in me whereas before my low feelings probably gave off a negative energy so they purposely steered clear.

Feeling more confident and more relaxed, long may it continue. May even get around to finally asking my crush for her number on Sunday before I head off towards the game. Even if she were to say no if I go into it feeling the way I do now I know I'd be able to shrug it off, and I'll be able to focus my energy on the game afterwards anyway.

Do it mate, if she says no it just means she's not the right one for so you can move on to find someone who is

 

[EFCPaul]

Do it mate, if she says no it just means she's not the right one for so you can move on to find someone who is

I will mate, I feel it's the last piece of the puzzle for me in my stresses about work to rest. If she says agree then great, if she turns me down then at least it's off my mind forever, not an issue anymore. Was going to attempt to give her my number and leaving the ball in her court but have re-thought and decided to just ask her for hers, least then I'll get my answer straight away either way. Be arsed with anymore unnecessary anxieties.

 

[The T-Dex]

To be honest mate I think the best solution I can have is to get out of that place. Think the minute I do things will start to have an upturn in feelings knowing I'm not trapped there for a start. Hopefully I get that chance tomorrow but no guarantees.

Thst mat be an option though if things don't go down the line the way I want them to. Just because it is crushing being in that scenario. When you know you can't vent in there and can't vent outside for fear of bringing it home I tend to bottle it up a little bit if that makes sense. So perhaps a month or two down the line if I'm still feeling the way I am then that may be an option for me mate. Even enquiring in work about any support programs, glorified councillors or whatever you call them but someone I can vent to, that could be an option for me.

I think that may be it, venting it out. It's hard to do that without it turning into anger or aggression but without it it seems to play on my mind, which at 9-5 all week isn't a good thing.

A change of scenery would be good if it is getting you down. But honestly if you are feeling as down now as you seem to be. I'd speak to a professional of sorts.

Bottling up everything only leads to bad things. Trust me from experience. It's not emasculating to not tell someone your struggling. Doing it here is million miles away from out there.

 

[matty1878]

To be honest mate I think the best solution I can have is to get out of that place. Think the minute I do things will start to have an upturn in feelings knowing I'm not trapped there for a start. Hopefully I get that chance tomorrow but no guarantees.

Thst mat be an option though if things don't go down the line the way I want them to. Just because it is crushing being in that scenario. When you know you can't vent in there and can't vent outside for fear of bringing it home I tend to bottle it up a little bit if that makes sense. So perhaps a month or two down the line if I'm still feeling the way I am then that may be an option for me mate. Even enquiring in work about any support programs, glorified councillors or whatever you call them but someone I can vent to, that could be an option for me.

I think that may be it, venting it out. It's hard to do that without it turning into anger or aggression but without it it seems to play on my mind, which at 9-5 all week isn't a good thing.

Good luck bud. Do what you think is best and remember were hear

 

[Warlordperforming]

I will mate, I feel it's the last piece of the puzzle for me in my stresses about work to rest. If she says agree then great, if she turns me down then at least it's off my mind forever, not an issue anymore. Was going to attempt to give her my number and leaving the ball in her court but have re-thought and decided to just ask her for hers, least then I'll get my answer straight away either way. Be arsed with anymore unnecessary anxieties.

You can do it. Confidence is key. If she say's know she's not the right person for you and that's a sign you will get someone even better along in your life if you wait

 

[Blue Cheese]

Nah not curable sadly. Later on in life I'll possibly start getting chunks cut out of my intestines or possibly all of it and have a bag. All good though, cards we are dealt!

Damn dude that's awful, really sorry to hear that. I hope you manage to avoid the worst mate.

 

[Elong]

Damn dude that's awful, really sorry to hear that. I hope you manage to avoid the worst mate.

I honestly don't get that bothered about that stuff anymore, I can deal with that, not controlling my head is worse lol .

Had a good meating with a psychologist today, gave some advice that I thought others might find interesting.

There different ways of dealing with anxiety/depression.
First is distraction. Important for me as I'm bad starter to the morning and at my worst. So get up a bit earlier than usual, do some exercise, yoga, crossword, sing in the shower even.
Second is fencing. Go to a place that makes you down, for me it's my nieces grave, and unload, think everything negative you can, say what you think others think of you. Then leave it there. If you get more thoughts later in the day, tell yourself to save them for next time you visit there.
Third is acceptance, the hardest. Go with it, laugh about what is happening to you, fighting only wears you out. Seek solace in friends and see the funny side or make the best of it.

It's been great for me today already.

 

[Blue Cheese]

I honestly don't get that bothered about that stuff anymore, I can deal with that, not controlling my head is worse lol .

Had a good meating with a psychologist today, gave some advice that I thought others might find interesting.

There different ways of dealing with anxiety/depression.
First is distraction. Important for me as I'm bad starter to the morning and at my worst. So get up a bit earlier than usual, do some exercise, yoga, crossword, sing in the shower even.
Second is fencing. Go to a place that makes you down, for me it's my nieces grave, and unload, think everything negative you can, say what you think others think of you. Then leave it there. If you get more thoughts later in the day, tell yourself to save them for next time you visit there.
Third is acceptance, the hardest. Go with it, laugh about what is happening to you, fighting only wears you out. Seek solace in friends and see the funny side or make the best of it.

It's been great for me today already.

Sounds similar to some advice I got,which was keep a notepad and anytime I started getting bad thoughts, write them down and leave them there. Never worked for me as my mind races at the best of times but I know it works for others.

 

[BiggyRat]

I will mate, I feel it's the last piece of the puzzle for me in my stresses about work to rest. If she says agree then great, if she turns me down then at least it's off my mind forever, not an issue anymore. Was going to attempt to give her my number and leaving the ball in her court but have re-thought and decided to just ask her for hers, least then I'll get my answer straight away either way. Be arsed with anymore unnecessary anxieties.

Had a crush on a work colleague years ago with full on flirting...a much younger Biggy...but she was always in a relationship and, as they say here, you don't cut another blokes lunch! Anyway, nothing ever came from it & I never asked her out. I was happy being a good friend & just being in her company. I ended up meeting my future wife during this time & I moved on.

Anyway, she eventually got a promotion to head office & I went to her farewell. At the end of the night, she went round the room saying her polite goodbyes to people & then she came to me....I have never been hugged so hard in all my life! She also clung on to me for what seemed like an eternity...an awkward enough time that people noticed & asked my why we never hooked up as we seemed so perfect together...and that was it. Never saw her again.

I often wonder on what could have been but I don't dwell on it or regret my actions. I've been with my wife for 27 years & am so glad to be with her.

It's worth asking the question & I'm glad that you are in a good enough place that a rejection will not be devastating for you. It will always be a two way street & if one person isn't looking for a closer relationship, then that's just life. It's no reflection on you or them, just life.

Good luck mate.

 

[JelavicBrate2]

Haha probably. Stuart downing on a loan most likely!

I wouldn't be surprised.

 

[Tim's tourettes]

Afternoon all, quick update from me to say that since having the citralopram upped to 40mg just before Xmas, I have seen a big improvement in the anxiety levels. I am much more relaxed and can rationalise a lot better without jumping to doomsday scenarios all the time ( although I am still praying for a Trump impeachment before he takes office!!). If anyone is really struggling with anxiety but doesn't want the meds all I can say is that I wish I would have taken them 3/4 years ago when the gp first recommended them to me, my marriage would be in a better state for one. I do find that some days I am still more anxious than others and it's not a completely level feeling, any users of citalopram get the same?