It's very late I know but I've decided to post this before I go to sleep, it's on my mind and for several months now but I've refrained from talking about it in regards to my other struggles because I haven't wanted to admit something that until recently I didn't think was all that but now I realise it it. I'll let you be the judge though because I can't bottle it up any longer.
I have a female friend my own own whom I know and see quite a lot (she works next door to our works and we see each other outside a fair bit, we eat our dinners together at the cafe). She's been in a serious relationship for a few months and she and her fella got engaged after about 5 minutes to a lot of people's bemusement. We've always really gotten along from the day we met and I was definitely interested in her in the beginning but never really made a move, she was seeing someone else at the time and then after that finished she quickly got involved with her current beau whom she seems very serious about.
Recently they've started having problems, quite bad problems from the sounds of it. She has confided in me (and I think only me) a lot of things over the past few months, private things she shouldn't really be telling a single lad she spends a fair amount of time alone with. For a long time I considered us just buddies, I've confided in her quite a lot about all my own love life disasters of recent times and she's always been a great pick-me-up and advice giver. I find her a great person to laugh with and very attractive, I'd just never considered it a possibility anything happening between us because she was attached and I knew there was a line I couldn't cross, I was perfectly content to be in her friend zone. It's just it seems inevitable she and the current guy are going to break up, she says they're always rowing and she apparently went home early from work on Sunday in tears after another argument with him on the phone. She's probably seeing now that getting engaged to a lad so quickly after meeting him wasn't a smart move. I was down at the Emirates so I wasn't there to talk to her and I don't think it's a good idea to contact her until I see her next (I have her number but I don't generally text her because I've always thought it would be overstepping boundaries). The whole point is, I like her and she clearly likes me if she's going to be confiding in me so much emotionally (I DON'T go out my way to pry by the way) all of the time and telling me how great I am for standing up to my manager and being so generally bubbly around me. I just not sure how this is going to go or what action to take in the event she does split. I've decided I'd like it to become more than friendship if possible but I have no clue how she feels about me truly.
Does anyone have any advice on how I should play this going forward? I've been doing the same thing for months, just being the sincere emotional friend she confides in but I don't think I can be that for much longer to be honest, not now that I've re-evaluated my feelings in light of recent developments. She's different from the others I've talked about, she was and has been for a year now just my good mate and she knows me far better as a person than the others do, she took the time to speak to me and learn much more about me than what I present on the surface to casual acquaintances. I'm just confused now, more than I was over the silly teen angst I had over the other women. This is one I feel like I'm on very sensitive ground and I have no clue what to do.
