Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[wgtwiddle]

I really don't understand people. I always try to treat people well even when I'm suffering inside. I always give people time if they want to talk to me and I'm always polite. Yet some people will stI'll be negative towards me. I always end up feeling bad about myself even when rationally I know I've done nothing wrong. The slightest bit of negativity from anyone at the moment is causing an anxiety attack and then I suffer for the rest of the day.

Sorry if this has been a rant. I really needed to vent.

You're not alone ... I know what it's like and as you say, your response, and mine too, is irrational but it just sits with you, in your head, stuck. And when you try to internally rationalise it it develops a power of its own.

Not sure what the answer is, not even sure if there is one. I try to let it be, and carry on regardless.

 

[efcforever]

You're not alone ... I know what it's like and as you say, your response, and mine too, is irrational but it just sits with you, in your head, stuck. And when you try to internally rationalise it it develops a power of its own.

Not sure what the answer is, not even sure if there is one. I try to let it be, and carry on regardless.

I'm not sure of the answer. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who experiences this. I started counselling yesterday and they explained a few things that I know to be true.

You can't control or predict someone else's responses or behaviour.

You can't make someone feel a certain way.

It is their prerogative to react, feel or behave how they want.

You are not responsible for other people's behaviour or feelings.

Their behaviour is about them and not you.

I find it frustrating that even though I understand all of the above I cannot put any of it into practice. Other people can easily make me feel dreadful for days with one comment.

 

[COYBL25]

I'm not sure of the answer. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who experiences this. I started counselling yesterday and they explained a few things that I know to be true.

You can't control or predict someone else's responses or behaviour.

You can't make someone feel a certain way.

It is their prerogative to react, feel or behave how they want.

You are not responsible for other people's behaviour or feelings.

Their behaviour is about them and not you.

I find it frustrating that even though I understand all of the above I cannot put any of it into practice. Other people can easily make me feel dreadful for days with one comment.

You've only had one session mate.

Give it time, it's as much about coping mechanisms as anything else x

 

[faddy the blue]

How are you doing mate ?

Hi mate. Doing great. Lots of positive developments this past month. Its been a long story. She again found lots of inner strength and this time took a rock solid stance at her home. Now the talks between the families have begun. I am actually gonna move to Australia soon as I got my immigration recently. So hopefully in a year or so when I find my feet there we're gonna tie the knot. She can practice her medicine in Australia as well, something she is really passionate about.

 

[COYBL25]

Hi mate. Doing great. Lots of positive developments this past month. Its been a long story. She again found lots of inner strength and this time took a rock solid stance at her home. Now the talks between the families have begun. I am actually gonna move to Australia soon as I got my immigration recently. So hopefully in a year or so when I find my feet there we're gonna tie the knot. She can practice her medicine in Australia as well, something she is really passionate about.

That's absolutely wonderful news mate.

So are you formerly engaged now ?.

I can only imagine what you've both been through this past month or so.

All of this will only serve to make your relationship even stronger.

I love a happy ending

 

[faddy the blue]

That's absolutely wonderful news mate.

So are you formerly engaged now ?.

I can only imagine what you've both been through this past month or so.

All of this will only serve to make your relationship even stronger.

I love a happy ending

Not engaged yet. There is a mutual agreement now between both families. Now over the coming months or so both families will meet each other. There's been a lot of negativity surrounding all this cos 2 of her sisters did not want this to happen and did everything they could to break the trust and feed their mother with lies about my character. So there needs to be some time to heal all that as well.

Been extremely difficult these past few months. We've been under immense mental stress but its looking good now so hopefully the ride's gonna be smooth now with a few bumps here and there!

Thanks a lot for the support and positive words mate! Appreciate it.

 

[COYBL25]

Not engaged yet. There is a mutual agreement now between both families. Now over the coming months or so both families will meet each other. There's been a lot of negativity surrounding all this cos 2 of her sisters did not want this to happen and did everything they could to break the trust and feed their mother with lies about my character. So there needs to be some time to heal all that as well.

Been extremely difficult these past few months. We've been under immense mental stress but its looking good now so hopefully the ride's gonna be smooth now with a few bumps here and there!

Thanks a lot for the support and positive words mate! Appreciate it.

Keep us posted mate.

There's a lot on here rooting for you

 

[faddy the blue]

Keep us posted mate.

There's a lot on here rooting for you

Surely will do mate.

Hopefully by the time we've tied the knot Everton would have won some silverware or CL qualification as well.

 

[GwladysBlue]

So after finishing counselling in December, I have been on a slippery slope ever since. I feel like I'm completely back to where I was, if not worse than before.

I'm heading towards 25 and I'm just feeling total disillusion with life. I binge drink every weekend to the point of blackout and that ramps my anxiety up massively. I know it's going to make the next few days hell for me, but I still do it, downing double rums and gins like they're water. When I drink, I can't stop.

All I want is to be happy, but I just can't see it ever happening for me. If I'm this unhappy now in my twenties, the supposed 'best years' of my life, what is it going to be like when I'm older?

I'll just mope around the house and my poor mum and dad just can't get through to me.

I've saved up money now for a deposit to buy somewhere, but I dread to think if I get like this and I'm alone what I'd do.

I'm going to phone the doctors tomorrow and ask for an appointment. Third time lucky.

 

[efcforever]

So after finishing counselling in December, I have been on a slippery slope ever since. I feel like I'm completely back to where I was, if not worse than before.

I'm heading towards 25 and I'm just feeling total disillusion with life. I binge drink every weekend to the point of blackout and that ramps my anxiety up massively. I know it's going to make the next few days hell for me, but I still do it, downing double rums and gins like they're water. When I drink, I can't stop.

All I want is to be happy, but I just can't see it ever happening for me. If I'm this unhappy now in my twenties, the supposed 'best years' of my life, what is it going to be like when I'm older?

I'll just mope around the house and my poor mum and dad just can't get through to me.

I've saved up money now for a deposit to buy somewhere, but I dread to think if I get like this and I'm alone what I'd do.

I'm going to phone the doctors tomorrow and ask for an appointment. Third time lucky.

Hi mate. I've been up and down for the past 7 years. Currently trying counselling for the 3rd time. My anxiety has at times been crippling over the last few months.

Your doing the right thing by going back to the doctor's. Let us know how you get on.

There's plenty of supportive people on here so keep posting.

Is there anything in particular that is causing you to feel this way?

 

[Russian Evertonian]

I can't imagine how you're feeling Sergei, as I know that everything you were doing in the UK, was to get her and your kids over here with you.

Surely she can't just cut you off from your children just like that ?.

This is life mate, there is not much I can do...

 

[GwladysBlue]

Hi mate. I've been up and down for the past 7 years. Currently trying counselling for the 3rd time. My anxiety has at times been crippling over the last few months.

Your doing the right thing by going back to the doctor's. Let us know how you get on.

There's plenty of supportive people on here so keep posting.

Is there anything in particular that is causing you to feel this way?

I struggle with my sexuality. So when I go out and get blackout drunk, I panic like mad incase I've swung that way and can't remember.

I've posted about this already in here. It is just something I've always struggled with. Since the age of about 12, I've been majorly depressed and anxious.

Sadly there is no fix for this. I've tried having a girlfriend, she was absolute lovely, but I just made her unhappy. I did love her, but not in that way. I wish I could just have her here now though to tell me that everything is going to be okay.

I know people say that I need to accept myself, but it is easier said than done.

 

[efcforever]

I struggle with my sexuality. So when I go out and get blackout drunk, I panic like mad incase I've swung that way and can't remember.

I've posted about this already in here. It is just something I've always struggled with. Since the age of about 12, I've been majorly depressed and anxious.

Sadly there is no fix for this. I've tried having a girlfriend, she was absolute lovely, but I just made her unhappy. I did love her, but not in that way. I wish I could just have her here now though to tell me that everything is going to be okay.

I know people say that I need to accept myself, but it is easier said than done.

Sorry to hear you're struggling mate. I think you're taking the right first step by seeing the doctor.

Anxiety is my biggest problem. In my head I can rationalise situations but I can't get my gut to accept simple truths. I don't know if if it's similar for you. Other people who have tried counselling have said that they tried talking to a few different people before they found someone who they could connect with. Maybe it's just a case of persevering.

I have recently found that CBD oil helps with my anxiety. Might be worth a try.

 

[GwladysBlue]

Sorry to hear you're struggling mate. I think you're taking the right first step by seeing the doctor.

Anxiety is my biggest problem. In my head I can rationalise situations but I can't get my gut to accept simple truths. I don't know if if it's similar for you. Other people who have tried counselling have said that they tried talking to a few different people before they found someone who they could connect with. Maybe it's just a case of persevering.

I have recently found that CBD oil helps with my anxiety. Might be worth a try.

Very similar.

I will create mad scenarios in my head. A normal person would dismiss the situations as ridiculous, were as I will make myself sick worrying about it.

I just wish I could have a break from my own head. It's wearing me down.

The thought of living like this for the rest of my life is too much.

 

[EFCPaul]

Still struggling with over-thinking and getting extremely hung up on things I can't help. It's horrible, I'd give anything for a peaceful mind.