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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Hello lads and ladies. I occasionally post in the main forum but it's my first time talking on this post. I just want to give a brief description of who I am and what I am going through.

I am 27 years old. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety since I was around 17 however I never acknowledged it up until 2 years ago. I use to deny anything was wrong with me. However 2 years ago I was involved in an accident in which as I lay in the road after being dragged under a van for 30ft down a road I was convinced I was going to die. Thankfully and rather remarkably I didn't even break a bone. I was signed off from work for 8 weeks as I had a few muscle tears. This happened 4 weeks before Christmas. A time of the year when I needed to be working and earning instead of getting ssp which I think was about £80 a week. At the same time as my accident my son, who was 3 months premature, was in a special baby unit in hospital. As I couldn't even get myself dresses due to the pain I was in I couldn't go and see my son for the first 4 weeks after my accident. It was an awful time.

Unforntanly 3 months later me and my son's mother split up. I fully take the blame. I was different after the accident. But for reasons only she knows she has denied me access to see him. I haven't seen him for over 12 months now yet I think about him every day.

I am self employed now as I was struggling to do the daily duties in my old job. Over the last 3 months my depression has rapidly increased. I am now at a point where I start a job, leave my house in the morning with every intention of Going to the job but for what ever reason I don't make it to the job. My head just goes. I end up driving around or just parking up and sitting there with 1000's of thoughts in my head but I am unable to think about one thought as they just all rush around my head.

I have a doctor's appointment in half an hour and I am actually scared! But I have realised I am at a point now where I need serious help.

Ever so Slightly off topic here, I went out for a meal last week and the local pub had a charity thing on a wall. It was three charities, rspcc, dementia and mind. You buy tokens behind the bar to put into these clear plastic boxs. I was absolutely furious to see dementia and rspcc half full but not even one token in mind. I fully support the likes of dementia and children but for me it said everything there is to say about the struggles of people with a mental illness. Not even one token. The box has been totally ignored.

Sorry about the long essay I know I said i would keep it brief.
 
sladen90 said:
Hello lads and ladies. I occasionally post in the main forum but it's my first time talking on this post. I just want to give a brief description of who I am and what I am going through.

I am 27 years old. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety since I was around 17 however I never acknowledged it up until 2 years ago. I use to deny anything was wrong with me. However 2 years ago I was involved in an accident in which as I lay in the road after being dragged under a van for 30ft down a road I was convinced I was going to die. Thankfully and rather remarkably I didn't even break a bone. I was signed off from work for 8 weeks as I had a few muscle tears. This happened 4 weeks before Christmas. A time of the year when I needed to be working and earning instead of getting ssp which I think was about £80 a week. At the same time as my accident my son, who was 3 months premature, was in a special baby unit in hospital. As I couldn't even get myself dresses due to the pain I was in I couldn't go and see my son for the first 4 weeks after my accident. It was an awful time.

Unforntanly 3 months later me and my son's mother split up. I fully take the blame. I was different after the accident. But for reasons only she knows she has denied me access to see him. I haven't seen him for over 12 months now yet I think about him every day.

I am self employed now as I was struggling to do the daily duties in my old job. Over the last 3 months my depression has rapidly increased. I am now at a point where I start a job, leave my house in the morning with every intention of Going to the job but for what ever reason I don't make it to the job. My head just goes. I end up driving around or just parking up and sitting there with 1000's of thoughts in my head but I am unable to think about one thought as they just all rush around my head.

I have a doctor's appointment in half an hour and I am actually scared! But I have realised I am at a point now where I need serious help.

Ever so Slightly off topic here, I went out for a meal last week and the local pub had a charity thing on a wall. It was three charities, rspcc, dementia and mind. You buy tokens behind the bar to put into these clear plastic boxs. I was absolutely furious to see dementia and rspcc half full but not even one token in mind. I fully support the likes of dementia and children but for me it said everything there is to say about the struggles of people with a mental illness. Not even one token. The box has been totally ignored.

Sorry about the long essay I know I said i would keep it brief.
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You've been through a lot mate, would have broken many others so well done that you're still there, even operating on the basis you have.

To make that first doctor's appointment takes a lot of guts so while there's a long road ahead you've made the toughest step first. Let us know how it goes.
 
sladen90 said:
Hello lads and ladies. I occasionally post in the main forum but it's my first time talking on this post. I just want to give a brief description of who I am and what I am going through.

I am 27 years old. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety since I was around 17 however I never acknowledged it up until 2 years ago. I use to deny anything was wrong with me. However 2 years ago I was involved in an accident in which as I lay in the road after being dragged under a van for 30ft down a road I was convinced I was going to die. Thankfully and rather remarkably I didn't even break a bone. I was signed off from work for 8 weeks as I had a few muscle tears. This happened 4 weeks before Christmas. A time of the year when I needed to be working and earning instead of getting ssp which I think was about £80 a week. At the same time as my accident my son, who was 3 months premature, was in a special baby unit in hospital. As I couldn't even get myself dresses due to the pain I was in I couldn't go and see my son for the first 4 weeks after my accident. It was an awful time.

Unforntanly 3 months later me and my son's mother split up. I fully take the blame. I was different after the accident. But for reasons only she knows she has denied me access to see him. I haven't seen him for over 12 months now yet I think about him every day.

I am self employed now as I was struggling to do the daily duties in my old job. Over the last 3 months my depression has rapidly increased. I am now at a point where I start a job, leave my house in the morning with every intention of Going to the job but for what ever reason I don't make it to the job. My head just goes. I end up driving around or just parking up and sitting there with 1000's of thoughts in my head but I am unable to think about one thought as they just all rush around my head.

I have a doctor's appointment in half an hour and I am actually scared! But I have realised I am at a point now where I need serious help.

Ever so Slightly off topic here, I went out for a meal last week and the local pub had a charity thing on a wall. It was three charities, rspcc, dementia and mind. You buy tokens behind the bar to put into these clear plastic boxs. I was absolutely furious to see dementia and rspcc half full but not even one token in mind. I fully support the likes of dementia and children but for me it said everything there is to say about the struggles of people with a mental illness. Not even one token. The box has been totally ignored.

Sorry about the long essay I know I said i would keep it brief.
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Welcome mate, very brave post.

I think to say that you've been through a lot, would probably be the understatement of the year !

You're struggling with untreated depression / anxiety for eight years and are then in a serious accident and your baby son is very ill in hospital at the same time. No wonder you changed as a person, after all that. I'd wager that you had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder on top of it all too.

The way you talk about not making it to your job, due to all those thoughts racing around your head, sounds more like a severe anxiety disorder to me ?.

Let us know what your GP did. The very least should've been starting you on antidepressants and getting you on the list for CBT ( Cognitive Behavioural Therapay ).

Some practical tips for you too :

Cut out caffeine - it ramps up anxiety.

Drink in extreme moderation - ale is a killer for depression and anxiety sufferers.

Excercise is brilliant for for combatting anxiety due to the feel good chemicals released afterwards.

Have a look at the this NHS run website - MentalHealth.Org ( online forum same as this, where people with mental problems help and support each other ).

Do you have any support, family, friends etc, as by the sounds of it'd help you enormously.

Keep posting mate, there's loads on here that will support you x
 
chicoazul said:
You've been through a lot mate, would have broken many others so well done that you're still there, even operating on the basis you have.

To make that first doctor's appointment takes a lot of guts so while there's a long road ahead you've made the toughest step first. Let us know how it goes.
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Sorry mate I've only just got home. I felt I got fobbed off at the doctors and as a result went on a session to the pub. Not ideal I know but it took a lot for me to go there today and to be fobbed off as I felt I was hurt me a fair bit
 
COYBL25 said:
Welcome mate, very brave post.

I think to say that you've been through a lot, would probably be the understatement of the year !

You're struggling with untreated depression / anxiety for eight years and are then in a serious accident and your baby son is very ill in hospital at the same time. No wonder you changed as a person, after all that. I'd wager that you had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder on top of it all too.

The way you talk about not making it to your job, due to all those thoughts racing around your head, sounds more like a severe anxiety disorder to me ?.

Let us know what your GP did. The very least should've been starting you on antidepressants and getting you on the list for CBT ( Cognitive Behavioural Therapay ).

Some practical tips for you too :

Cut out caffeine - it ramps up anxiety.

Drink in extreme moderation - ale is a killer for depression and anxiety sufferers.

Excercise is brilliant for for combatting anxiety due to the feel good chemicals released afterwards.

Have a look at the this NHS run website - MentalHealth.Org ( online forum same as this, where people with mental problems help and support each other ).

Do you have any support, family, friends etc, as by the sounds of it'd help you enormously.

Keep posting mate, there's loads on here that will support you x
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Thanks mate for taking the time to reply. My gp I feel was a waste of time and I left feeling like I was fobbed off.

Life hasn't been easy but I hate talking about my life to people. I hate saying I've struggled and life hasn't been easy. I hate saying them things because year after year we have terrorism and natural disasters that kill hundreds of people. So with that in mind... I am not struggling. Things could be so much worse. But at the same time in my own head I am already at the bottom. I feel like I can't possibly get any lower.
 

sladen90 said:
Sorry mate I've only just got home. I felt I got fobbed off at the doctors and as a result went on a session to the pub. Not ideal I know but it took a lot for me to go there today and to be fobbed off as I felt I was hurt me a fair bit
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Hi Mate,

If it is counselling session you are after you don't have to always go through your GP, you can self refer yourself.

Here are the ones for Sefton and Liverpool areas.

I went to the Acess Sefton one.

See below websites.

https://www.insighthealthcare.org/our-services/talking-therapies/find-a-service/access-sefton/

https://www.talkliverpool.nhs.uk/

Hope it helps;)

Also, reading your original post, a lot of people would struggle with all you have been through.
 
GwladysBlue said:
Hi Mate,

If it is counselling session you are after you don't have to always go through your GP, you can self refer yourself.

Here are the ones for Sefton and Liverpool areas.

I went to the Acess Sefton one.

See below websites.

https://www.insighthealthcare.org/our-services/talking-therapies/find-a-service/access-sefton/

https://www.talkliverpool.nhs.uk/

Hope it helps;)

Also, reading your original post, a lot of people would struggle with all you have been through.
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Thanks for that mate. I am not sure what it is I want. I struggle to talk and express myself so I don't know how councilling would go. My gp told me to learn how to meditate and control my mind?? I didnt find his advice helpful
 
sladen90 said:
Thanks for that mate. I am not sure what it is I want. I struggle to talk and express myself so I don't know how councilling would go. My gp told me to learn how to meditate and control my mind?? I didnt find his advice helpful
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Counselling can be really good and help you think clearly. It just gives you some comfort for an hour to let everything out.

They'll phone you up first and see what issues are getting you into this state of mind, you'll then be set up with a counsellor.

I'd recommend trying the counselling before taking any tablets.
 
sladen90 said:
Thanks mate for taking the time to reply. My gp I feel was a waste of time and I left feeling like I was fobbed off.

Life hasn't been easy but I hate talking about my life to people. I hate saying I've struggled and life hasn't been easy. I hate saying them things because year after year we have terrorism and natural disasters that kill hundreds of people. So with that in mind... I am not struggling. Things could be so much worse. But at the same time in my own head I am already at the bottom. I feel like I can't possibly get any lower.
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Sorry to hear that your GP wasn't helpful. I've seen a couple of GPs who didn't take me seriously and it really is a kick in the teeth. The one I see now is very supportive and has helped me a lot.

Any chance you can try again and ask for a different doctor?
 
efcforever said:
Sorry to hear that your GP wasn't helpful. I've seen a couple of GPs who didn't take me seriously and it really is a kick in the teeth. The one I see now is very supportive and has helped me a lot.

Any chance you can try again and ask for a different doctor?
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I have been told I am entitled to a second opinion so it may be worth me getting one. My gp gave me a low dosage anti depressant and also said he feels i need to learn to meditate because that would probably cure me. I build up so much courage to speak to him, I was sat in the waiting area litteraly shaking as I was terrified, all for him to basiccly tell me to meditate
 

sladen90 said:
Thanks mate for taking the time to reply. My gp I feel was a waste of time and I left feeling like I was fobbed off.

Life hasn't been easy but I hate talking about my life to people. I hate saying I've struggled and life hasn't been easy. I hate saying them things because year after year we have terrorism and natural disasters that kill hundreds of people. So with that in mind... I am not struggling. Things could be so much worse. But at the same time in my own head I am already at the bottom. I feel like I can't possibly get any lower.
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Usually takes a few goes to find the right doctor mate, keep on it.
 
sladen90 said:
I have been told I am entitled to a second opinion so it may be worth me getting one. My gp gave me a low dosage anti depressant and also said he feels i need to learn to meditate because that would probably cure me. I build up so much courage to speak to him, I was sat in the waiting area litteraly shaking as I was terrified, all for him to basiccly tell me to meditate
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You want to feel like they've listened to you don't you?

Seems like the first thing they do is put you on the starter dose of anti-depressant. You have to make sure you take them and give them time to work. They can take about 4 weeks before you feel an improvement. I started on 20mg Citalopram, now on 40mg. I also take a beta blocker for the physical symptoms of anxiety.

Definitely get a 2nd opinion. If you don't start to feel better after a few weeks go back again until things do start to improve.

Are you sleeping ok? A simple tip I picked up on here was to use a sleep mask. Really made a difference to me.

Keep posting in here. There's loads of supportive people to offer advice.
 
sladen90 said:
Thanks mate for taking the time to reply. My gp I feel was a waste of time and I left feeling like I was fobbed off.

Life hasn't been easy but I hate talking about my life to people. I hate saying I've struggled and life hasn't been easy. I hate saying them things because year after year we have terrorism and natural disasters that kill hundreds of people. So with that in mind... I am not struggling. Things could be so much worse. But at the same time in my own head I am already at the bottom. I feel like I can't possibly get any lower.
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My original GP was rubbish to the point of being negligent, didn't even bother to look at me during my first consult.
He just kept lashing different pills at me. It was only after a period of time, it dawned on me that I could see another GP.
The other GP was superb in every way and could barely disguise his amazement at how inept the other GP had been ( their rooms faced each other in the GP's surgery ).

Once I ditched the original GP, things moved very quickly, correct medication, CBT etc.

Ask to see another GP mate, just because the one you saw today was crap, doesn't mean they're all like that.

Ps - I'd say you should try CBT before mediation. Meditation can be difficult to practice without guidance.
 

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