Fletch
Player Valuation: £5m
You havent wasted your 20's at all mate you are only 26, wish I had my time again, book a holiday, give yourself time to save some money and something to look forward to.
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You havent wasted your 20's at all mate you are only 26, wish I had my time again, book a holiday, give yourself time to save some money and something to look forward to.
There's posters come on here from a few different clubs mate.
Who you are and which team you support is irrelevant.
It may be something you want to take back to any Sunderland forum you're part of
Safc-mark-91
Player Valuation: £750k
There's posters come on here from a few different clubs mate.
Who you are and which team you support is irrelevant.
It may be something you want to take back to any Sunderland forum you're part of
You're right of course mate.
You're right, I just meant I didn't want to
As pathetic as this sounds I don't really have anyone to go with me. I've lost a lot of good friends (My fault for cutting myself off from social activities when I was at my worst - I just wanted to be alone and understandingly, they've assumed I was just being a bore) and there's no girlfriend. Doubt they'd touch me with a barge pole the state I'm in at the moment.
I used to really enjoy 5-a-side but the place we played at got closed down.
Think you're right I do need something to look forward to. As for your comment about age, I'm sure you're still a spring chicken yourself mate
Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
Hi mate, just regarding your social anxiety. I have a mild form of it and a while ago I stumbled upon this: http://www.comfortzonecrusher.com/aboutcomfortzonecrusher
It has helped me a lot. There are some online courses there which you have to pay for, but you can go on the blog section and there are some useful articles on there for free. Also there's a Youtube channel with some informative videos on there.
Obviously it shouldn't replace counselling but it's a useful source of info. And personally it has helped me a lot.
You're right of course mate.
You're right, I just meant I didn't want to
As pathetic as this sounds I don't really have anyone to go with me. I've lost a lot of good friends (My fault for cutting myself off from social activities when I was at my worst - I just wanted to be alone and understandingly, they've assumed I was just being a bore) and there's no girlfriend. Doubt they'd touch me with a barge pole the state I'm in at the moment.
I used to really enjoy 5-a-side but the place we played at got closed down.
Think you're right I do need something to look forward to. As for your comment about age, I'm sure you're still a spring chicken yourself mate
Have a look at this NHS run site too mate :
Mentalhealth.org
It's an online Communtity, dedicated to helping sufferers of every conceivable mental health problem you can think of.
I can guarantee you'll find someone on there, who is in near enough the same situation as you're in.
Going on there helped me no end when I was really bad.
Safc-mark-91
Player Valuation: £750k
I'll have a look now, thanks very much mate.
Fletch
Player Valuation: £5m
You're right of course mate.
You're right, I just meant I didn't want to
As pathetic as this sounds I don't really have anyone to go with me. I've lost a lot of good friends (My fault for cutting myself off from social activities when I was at my worst - I just wanted to be alone and understandingly, they've assumed I was just being a bore) and there's no girlfriend. Doubt they'd touch me with a barge pole the state I'm in at the moment.
I used to really enjoy 5-a-side but the place we played at got closed down.
Think you're right I do need something to look forward to. As for your comment about age, I'm sure you're still a spring chicken yourself mate
In November I went to Tenerife on my own, it was fine, I read 5 books in a week, slept a lot, got some sunshine, hired a motorbike to go round the Island and visit some haunts of places I went when I was 18. Made friends with a few people, and a bar owner where I ate and watched football etc. I dont drink very much which makes me depressed.
5 a side was brilliant for me, I got into a team up at the local Goals, teams always need players, if you hang around someone will need you.
Some great advice on here, one organisation I would add is the Samaritans who have a telephone text response service for those who don't wish to speak. Their role is completely non judgemental and don't offer counselling or advice , they are there to listen if needed.
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I’m in America, it’s really warm and sunny. My manic anxiety whilst still here is abiding slightly, id give anything to live in a warm climate all year around.
NCLBlue
Player Valuation: £8m
If this was Feb 16-June/July 16 I would genuinely think this post was written by me!
I was signed off sick due to a break up with my current girlfriend (resolved after 8 months apart).
Realised that even on a phased return I couldn’t bare the place and it was actual a huge trigger in why I was so unhappy - call centre robotic call after call, no appreciation, seemingly no route to progress as I didn’t pass any interviews to move to any other roles...
I went back and swiftly found myself unhappy and stressed again and going down the path I had before back into depression (despite the meds) which had almost ruined my life and was part of the reason for my break up and sofa surfing.
Ended up on paid suspension as they believed I had deliberately avoided calls and had not been doing enough. Probably half true - but the way they went about it was awful. Would have to have a meeting to save my job with independent ‘judges’ and I heard nothing for weeks on end so I applied for a different job closer to my house and I got the job. My old work were trying to get me to change my mind told them you have left me not knowing what’s happening on paid leave expecting to be sacked!
Still at my current job and love it! Really excel in it and can’t believe I stayed in my old role so long.
Never ever will I stay in a miserable job just to pay bills as I lost a lot more thanks to that - health and happiness above all!!
Especially when being at a job as you’re scared to be jobless it just creates more anxiety from feeling trapped. Feel for you mate but you’re on the way to feeling better by sorting out counselling!
NCLBlue
Player Valuation: £8m
I got myself a SAD light to do some at-home light therapy because of how much the sun helps me!
Can’t rely on the weather here
Fletch
Player Valuation: £5m
I got myself a SAD light to do some at-home light therapy because of how much the sun helps me!
Can’t rely on the weather here
I got a SAD light too, really helped me last year, I used to get into my flat, stick the TV on, make some dinner and then put the sad light on the window ledge next to the sofa and literally let it shine in my face whilst eating my dinner. I can actually feel it helping believe it or not.
I have one as an alarm clock so it gradually gets brighter from 6.45am until full light at 7.15am, wakes me up by flooding the room with sunlight. Thoroughly recommend it.
Hope next week is better. Won’t bore you with the past 2 years (some already know it) or the bad luck or the debts.
Sunday. Dreadful Everton - not even a goal.
Monday - dog spayed
Tuesday - flu jab - additional costs for dog not budgeted for.
Wednesday - car running badly (cost and lost income) also had a tooth extracted
Thursday - complications with dog - might have died. Caught it in time
Friday - British Gas chasing me for £125 I don’t have. Apparently there was a problem THEY had with my last Bank (DD problem Nat West were having nationally) and TEN months later discover the problem. Naturally I never saw the money.
Saturday. Dog’s stitches reopened. All day worry and more cost I can ill afford. Oh well. That was quite cathartic as I was feeling that today was as low as I’ve been for quite a while.
More is nog n dag.
Sunday. Dreadful Everton - not even a goal.
Monday - dog spayed
Tuesday - flu jab - additional costs for dog not budgeted for.
Wednesday - car running badly (cost and lost income) also had a tooth extracted
Thursday - complications with dog - might have died. Caught it in time
Friday - British Gas chasing me for £125 I don’t have. Apparently there was a problem THEY had with my last Bank (DD problem Nat West were having nationally) and TEN months later discover the problem. Naturally I never saw the money.
Saturday. Dog’s stitches reopened. All day worry and more cost I can ill afford. Oh well. That was quite cathartic as I was feeling that today was as low as I’ve been for quite a while.
More is nog n dag.
efcforever
Player Valuation: £10m
Money worries often trigger my anxiety. I usually find its better to try and face them if possible.
I had trouble with British Gas years ago. They wanted £350 from for a call out at my previous address I hadn't been involved with. I got some advice from the ombudsman and didn't end up having to pay them the money.
If British Gas are blaming Natwest for the error. It might be worth ringing them (NatWest) and explaining the trouble it's causing you. I bet you could get something sorted with a few phone calls.
Sound advice apart from the v large sum I owe NW. This failed DD was not related to a lack of funds at the time though that won’t help my case a great deal I don’t believe.
It may well only be money yes, but I recommend anyone to speak to Step Change who have helped me deal with most of the issues.
Inordinately helpful and caring.