Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Zezti]

Been a couple months but this post isn't really about me.
I never did go back to the Dr in end with the two depression/anxiety tests I filled out (got a 'moderate' in both). I've seen the NHS is under huge pressure this winter and appointments are rarer than diamond at my GP. I'm doing okay to be honest. Seriously disenthused/pissed at my university but feeling ok in brain. I might try and get an appt at a later date. It's not a primary concern right now, honestly.

The thing I really need some advice over is my dad. Rather, for my dad. Friday night he and my mum went out to the pub with two friends, they came back here and continued their drinks for some time. After that and they went to bed my dad came in my room and while visibly tipsy, essentially said he's afraid he might have prostate cancer. He said they were talking about it at the pub and the symptoms apply to him. He seemed really defeated and when I said "you're not a doctor, you don't know that" he said he knows his body. To make matters worse, they received a call from my brother while at the pub.

My brother had open heart surgery about 5 years ago and had a pig's valve replacement for his leaky aortic valve. At the time, we were told it would last 10 years on average. But my brother has run something like 20 marathons and started a running club (he won BBC south west's unsung sporting hero award) and he feels something in his chest is going wrong again and if it is the valve has been exhausted, he'd need another big operation.

This has made my dad more averse to going to the doctors and getting checked out, saying he wouldn't want to put my brother and the rest of the family under more stress. I told him that doesn't change anything and he still needs to get checked out. I made him promise that night he would call the doctors on Monday (yesterday) but he still didn't do it. He's scared to go in case the worst is confirmed. I really don't know what to do in this situation. If it is cancer, then everyday that goes by will make a big difference.

An update to the quoted post, my mum did convince my dad to get an appointment which he had today and the Doctor did a physical check and there are no growths or abnormalities on his prostate. He gave him some tablets and still wants to do some blood tests on the other symptoms but its a big relief for all of us fearing the possibility of the worse-case scenario.

 

[JelavicBrate2]

I've been taking citlophram for since the summer of 2014, is it normal to still get side affects and feel ill. I don't know whether it's consuming alcohol, while on the meds that's making me feeling sick.

 

[FC sexy xxx]

I've been taking citlophram for since the summer of 2014, is it normal to still get side affects and feel ill. I don't know whether it's consuming alcohol, while on the meds that's making me feeling sick.

ask your
GP Mate. But ale and anti depressants shouldn’t be mixed at all but when you are on them long term it’s hard to near impossible not to want to have the occasional drink .

 

[COYBL25]

I've been taking citlophram for since the summer of 2014, is it normal to still get side affects and feel ill. I don't know whether it's consuming alcohol, while on the meds that's making me feeling sick.

As @FC sexy xxx says mate, you shouldn`t really drink with anti depressants, as drink is a " depressant ", so in effect what it`s doing is cancelling out the positive effects of the medication.

In saying that I don`t think it would make you feel ill ( maybe the day after with a hangover).

It could be that your meds need tweaking / changing ?.

I`d go back to your GP and see what he / she says.

 

[JelavicBrate2]

As @FC sexy xxx says mate, you shouldn`t really drink with anti depressants, as drink is a " depressant ", so in effect what it`s doing is cancelling out the positive effects of the medication.

In saying that I don`t think it would make you feel ill ( maybe the day after with a hangover).

It could be that your meds need tweaking / changing ?.

I`d go back to your GP and see what he / she says.

Maybe I don't know, I drank before on them and generally felt alright. It's just now, I often get stomach upsets after drinking, even after relatively small amounts of alcohol. I don't know whether it's related to my tablets, I know they can all affect your stomach, but I don't know what the cause is. I am probably going to stay off the ale for this week and see if I feel any better, but it's quite unusual. It could be an unrelated health problem, but I'm probably going to ask for blood tests.

 

[JelavicBrate2]

ask your
GP Mate. But ale and anti depressants shouldn’t be mixed at all but when you are on them long term it’s hard to near impossible not to want to have the occasional drink .

I agree, I think it isn't a good idea to drink on them, it's just that now I often get problems with my stomach after drinking, things like that, which I never got. Yes we all get different types of hangover, but even after drinking relatively small amounts of ale I can get unwell. As I said to a previous poster, it could all be an unrelated issue, that I need to get sorted. But all these health problems are making my life even more depressed, which doesn't help the situation. I'm probably going to doctors tomorrow, but this failure to find out whats wrong with me is frustrating.

 

[COYBL25]

Maybe I don't know, I drank before on them and generally felt alright. It's just now, I often get stomach upsets after drinking, even after relatively small amounts of alcohol. I don't know whether it's related to my tablets, I know they can all affect your stomach, but I don't know what the cause is. I am probably going to stay off the ale for this week and see if I feel any better, but it's quite unusual. It could be an unrelated health problem, but I'm probably going to ask for blood tests.

Possibly sounds like you may possibly have a small ulcer ?

You`re GP should be able to tell pretty quickly.

 

[Nymzee]

I agree, I think it isn't a good idea to drink on them, it's just that now I often get problems with my stomach after drinking, things like that, which I never got. Yes we all get different types of hangover, but even after drinking relatively small amounts of ale I can get unwell. As I said to a previous poster, it could all be an unrelated issue, that I need to get sorted. But all these health problems are making my life even more depressed, which doesn't help the situation. I'm probably going to doctors tomorrow, but this failure to find out whats wrong with me is frustrating.

What is it you're usually drinking mate? My boss had something similar only with certain alcohol types.

 

[the golden visionary]

I need to get this oit of my brain before it drives me mad.
I've completely lost all motivation lately. Stopped going to the gym. Stopped running. Stopped socialising with people. Stopped cooking eating right. Don't ring anyone. I just sit there. Don't see the point. I've put 2 stone on. Thing is I enjoy these things so I don't know why I'm denying myself them. Don't know if it's grief, it's heavy to lose both nans and your closest uncle in 8 months but I don't think it's just that.

The last few years I was the opposite. I lost 5 stone was looking forward and then I suppose the mistake I made, looking back, trying to reintegrate myself with my friends, well people who I thought were close but it turns out they're just people I used to hang around with. I had a idea that when they saw the change in me they'd act differently it went another way.
It was like a group effort to undo all the work I had put in, now that's paranoid thinking, and I know it wasn't a planned effort because i don't live in a conspiracy theory.
But it still affected my thinking. one said he didn't really believe I had changed and was just waiting for me to flip again. I got me doubting myself
One was in tears, beak fuelled like, telling me he didn't like how the tablets were changing me, sent me so west I stopped them to please him and lost me job. When I saw him next he asked if I was still off the tablets I said no I'm back on them , he said I violated his trust. I realised there and then who I was to him.
I was accused of being after people's girls coz I was up me own ass now I'd lost weight. Didn't happen. Then there's the stuff I was on about last time
Other stuff happened like along the same vein. Might seem a bit weak but when your self esteem is basically resting on the result of your work, it shouldn't but it does, throwaway comments take on more meaning than they should.
I had a couple of people getting in me face over stupid stuff, throwing it on me toes when they didn't get their own way like they used to. These people are no longer relevant as they have been swerved.

I don't know if I'm looking for answers here or if I just need to be honest with my thoughts.

I'm not bothered about being positive I'm just trying to manage it. I don't know where else I could chat such honest irrelevant waffle about my frailties and not spend the next month regretting it. Thank God for this thread

 

[COYBL25]

I need to get this oit of my brain before it drives me mad.
I've completely lost all motivation lately. Stopped going to the gym. Stopped running. Stopped socialising with people. Stopped cooking eating right. Don't ring anyone. I just sit there. Don't see the point. I've put 2 stone on. Thing is I enjoy these things so I don't know why I'm denying myself them. Don't know if it's grief, it's heavy to lose both nans and your closest uncle in 8 months but I don't think it's just that.

The last few years I was the opposite. I lost 5 stone was looking forward and then I suppose the mistake I made, looking back, trying to reintegrate myself with my friends, well people who I thought were close but it turns out they're just people I used to hang around with. I had a idea that when they saw the change in me they'd act differently it went another way.
It was like a group effort to undo all the work I had put in, now that's paranoid thinking, and I know it wasn't a planned effort because i don't live in a conspiracy theory.
But it still affected my thinking. one said he didn't really believe I had changed and was just waiting for me to flip again. I got me doubting myself
One was in tears, beak fuelled like, telling me he didn't like how the tablets were changing me, sent me so west I stopped them to please him and lost me job. When I saw him next he asked if I was still off the tablets I said no I'm back on them , he said I violated his trust. I realised there and then who I was to him.
I was accused of being after people's girls coz I was up me own ass now I'd lost weight. Didn't happen. Then there's the stuff I was on about last time
Other stuff happened like along the same vein. Might seem a bit weak but when your self esteem is basically resting on the result of your work, it shouldn't but it does, throwaway comments take on more meaning than they should.
I had a couple of people getting in me face over stupid stuff, throwing it on me toes when they didn't get their own way like they used to. These people are no longer relevant as they have been swerved.

I don't know if I'm looking for answers here or if I just need to be honest with my thoughts.

I'm not bothered about being positive I'm just trying to manage it. I don't know where else I could chat such honest irrelevant waffle about my frailties and not spend the next month regretting it. Thank God for this thread

Are you seeing a councillor mate ?

 

[anjelikaferrett]

I need to get this oit of my brain before it drives me mad.
I've completely lost all motivation lately. Stopped going to the gym. Stopped running. Stopped socialising with people. Stopped cooking eating right. Don't ring anyone. I just sit there. Don't see the point. I've put 2 stone on. Thing is I enjoy these things so I don't know why I'm denying myself them. Don't know if it's grief, it's heavy to lose both nans and your closest uncle in 8 months but I don't think it's just that.

The last few years I was the opposite. I lost 5 stone was looking forward and then I suppose the mistake I made, looking back, trying to reintegrate myself with my friends, well people who I thought were close but it turns out they're just people I used to hang around with. I had a idea that when they saw the change in me they'd act differently it went another way.
It was like a group effort to undo all the work I had put in, now that's paranoid thinking, and I know it wasn't a planned effort because i don't live in a conspiracy theory.
But it still affected my thinking. one said he didn't really believe I had changed and was just waiting for me to flip again. I got me doubting myself
One was in tears, beak fuelled like, telling me he didn't like how the tablets were changing me, sent me so west I stopped them to please him and lost me job. When I saw him next he asked if I was still off the tablets I said no I'm back on them , he said I violated his trust. I realised there and then who I was to him.
I was accused of being after people's girls coz I was up me own ass now I'd lost weight. Didn't happen. Then there's the stuff I was on about last time
Other stuff happened like along the same vein. Might seem a bit weak but when your self esteem is basically resting on the result of your work, it shouldn't but it does, throwaway comments take on more meaning than they should.
I had a couple of people getting in me face over stupid stuff, throwing it on me toes when they didn't get their own way like they used to. These people are no longer relevant as they have been swerved.

I don't know if I'm looking for answers here or if I just need to be honest with my thoughts.

I'm not bothered about being positive I'm just trying to manage it. I don't know where else I could chat such honest irrelevant waffle about my frailties and not spend the next month regretting it. Thank God for this thread

So sorry to hear about your recent bereavements, that must be so hard for you and is bound to be affecting your mood/emotions. As for your "mates" what an awful bunch of human beings. Sorry if that sounds harsh but reading your post gives me the impression that they are jealous of what you achieved and don't want to see you as a success. They are trying to put you down at every available opportunity. Seriously, get them out of your life.

Finally - you are still three stone lighter than you used to be. That's impressive.

 

[efcforever]

I need to get this oit of my brain before it drives me mad.
I've completely lost all motivation lately. Stopped going to the gym. Stopped running. Stopped socialising with people. Stopped cooking eating right. Don't ring anyone. I just sit there. Don't see the point. I've put 2 stone on. Thing is I enjoy these things so I don't know why I'm denying myself them. Don't know if it's grief, it's heavy to lose both nans and your closest uncle in 8 months but I don't think it's just that.

The last few years I was the opposite. I lost 5 stone was looking forward and then I suppose the mistake I made, looking back, trying to reintegrate myself with my friends, well people who I thought were close but it turns out they're just people I used to hang around with. I had a idea that when they saw the change in me they'd act differently it went another way.
It was like a group effort to undo all the work I had put in, now that's paranoid thinking, and I know it wasn't a planned effort because i don't live in a conspiracy theory.
But it still affected my thinking. one said he didn't really believe I had changed and was just waiting for me to flip again. I got me doubting myself
One was in tears, beak fuelled like, telling me he didn't like how the tablets were changing me, sent me so west I stopped them to please him and lost me job. When I saw him next he asked if I was still off the tablets I said no I'm back on them , he said I violated his trust. I realised there and then who I was to him.
I was accused of being after people's girls coz I was up me own ass now I'd lost weight. Didn't happen. Then there's the stuff I was on about last time
Other stuff happened like along the same vein. Might seem a bit weak but when your self esteem is basically resting on the result of your work, it shouldn't but it does, throwaway comments take on more meaning than they should.
I had a couple of people getting in me face over stupid stuff, throwing it on me toes when they didn't get their own way like they used to. These people are no longer relevant as they have been swerved.

I don't know if I'm looking for answers here or if I just need to be honest with my thoughts.

I'm not bothered about being positive I'm just trying to manage it. I don't know where else I could chat such honest irrelevant waffle about my frailties and not spend the next month regretting it. Thank God for this thread

Some people just don't like to see someone else succeed because it reminds them of their own failings. Terrible behaviour by your mates that.

 

[JelavicBrate2]

What is it you're usually drinking mate? My boss had something similar only with certain alcohol types.

Just usually Carling and occasionly stronger lagers like san miguel and budweiser and even lesser spirits, I know different people react to different ales.

 

[Bungle]

I've said loads of times in here that I've suffered anxiety and depression over the years, pretty much as far back as I remember and I've always found it easy to give advice and try to help people, whilst not really admitting the full extent of my own issues.

I had a night out last night and was with good people having a laugh and not feeling overly anxious, then it was like someone flicked a switch and I just wanted to go home and lost all interest in everyone and everything to do with the night out. I wasn't drinking so it wasn't triggered by alcohol and I've woke up this morning with it playing on my mind quite a lot. I also started getting anxious about if every one else was enjoying themselves, every pause in conversation felt like an age and I started getting anxious about whether I'd said something wrong, despite in reality it being about 5 seconds of silence.

I think I placed so much pressure on myself to make sure that everyone had a good time that it just did my head in, I'm meant to be seeing the same group of friends today before they head home and just have no interest in it at all.

I've waffled a bit and I don't really like sharing this stuff publicly, so I don't feel overly comfortable posting it but yeah, there we are.

 

[FC sexy xxx]

I've said loads of times in here that I've suffered anxiety and depression over the years, pretty much as far back as I remember and I've always found it easy to give advice and try to help people, whilst not really admitting the full extent of my own issues.

I had a night out last night and was with good people having a laugh and not feeling overly anxious, then it was like someone flicked a switch and I just wanted to go home and lost all interest in everyone and everything to do with the night out. I wasn't drinking so it wasn't triggered by alcohol and I've woke up this morning with it playing on my mind quite a lot. I also started getting anxious about if every one else was enjoying themselves, every pause in conversation felt like an age and I started getting anxious about whether I'd said something wrong, despite in reality it being about 5 seconds of silence.

I think I placed so much pressure on myself to make sure that everyone had a good time that it just did my head in, I'm meant to be seeing the same group of friends today before they head home and just have no interest in it at all.

I've waffled a bit and I don't really like sharing this stuff publicly, so I don't feel overly comfortable posting it but yeah, there we are.

you done well to get out the house and be social in the first place mate so fair play to you for that . I get invited to things and make excuses last minute, in fact a lot of people don’t even bother asking me anymore and I don’t blame them but then it’s hard to tell them the truth . I physically and mentally can’t manage them type of social situations anymore. Going for a meal with close family or the match on my own or the pictures is as good as it gets for me . If you arent in the right frame of mind then social events like a party or night with mates on the booze can be torture . The anxiety before it , the awkwardness when actually there and the aftermath of analysing the night the day after . It’s all very hard and draining.