Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Cork Evertonian]

I had bit of a distressing incident at work earlier.Basically i was just doing my job, but a customer completely flipped out and behaved in a very threatening manner towards me.I was a bit shook up about the incident, and i still am to be honest.Most people i deal with are fine, but i do find dealing with customers, who behave in an abusive manner towards me to be very stressful and upsetting.Although having said that, i never experienced anything as bad as what happened today.

He wanted to buy an item priced at a fiver for three euros.I politely told him that im sorry, the store policy is that items can only be sold for the stated price on the sticker.The guy eventually left after launching a tirade of threats and abuse at me.Im worried if this fella is going to come back, and give me more grief.But look i suppose dealing with rude and abusive customers is just part and parcel of the job.

 

[Groucho]

I had bit of a distressing incident at work earlier.Basically i was just doing my job, but a customer completely flipped out and behaved in a very threatening manner towards me.I was a bit shook up about the incident, and i still am to be honest.Most people i deal with are fine, but i do find dealing with customers, who behave in an abusive manner towards me to be very stressful and upsetting.Although having said that, i never experienced anything as bad as what happened today.

He wanted to buy an item priced at a fiver for three euros.I politely told him that im sorry, the store policy is that items can only be sold for the stated price on the sticker.The guy eventually left after launching a tirade of threats and abuse at me.Im worried if this fella is going to come back, and give me more grief.But look i suppose dealing with rude and abusive customers is just part and parcel of the job.

Mate I wouldn’t worry. He sounds like a nob.

 

[Cork Evertonian]

Mate I wouldn’t worry. He sounds like a nob.

My work colleague said pretty much the same thing.He was in the backroom when this incident happened.Just keep on smiling was his advice, when an incident like that happens.Thankfully most people that come into the store are fine.But there's always the one or two.If he does come in again and give me grief, i can always press the button, that alerts the manager in the back office.

 

[Groucho]

My work colleague said pretty much the same thing.He was in the backroom when this incident happened.Just keep on smiling was his advice, when an incident like that happens.Thankfully most people that come into the store are fine.But there's always the one or two.If he does come in again and give me grief, i can always press the button, that alerts the manager in the back office.

If he comes in again just make it clear that the sticker price is final.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

This has been a year to the day, a date that has stayed etched in my mind.

Can’t believe how different this year has been. I haven’t seen him since then, despite his attempts to meet up. I feel like a different person to the one that wrote that post.

It’s been a struggle, but now I’m feeling so confident. I don’t rely on anyone else to make me happy anymore. I don’t feel like I need counselling and I can deal with my problems alone. I would never let anyone treat me that way again.

I think it is always important to remember that when things feel like they can’t get any worse and you’ll be stuck in that situation forever, time doesn’t hang around for anyone. It is a great healer and what is the end of your world one day, may not be an issue in a year’s time.

I remember every single minute of that day I’ve quoted. The person who I loved more than anyone had just brutally beaten me and I thought I would never feel like I’m worth anything again. I was wrong.

In hindsight, I believe that day has changed my life forever. I had two options: to fall to pieces, or carry on and just try make each day a bit better than the last. That’s still something I’m doing now and long may it continue.

I hope everyone else is getting on okay in their lives

You've made me cry - but happy crying. Wise words and I'm so happy for you. Keep on doing what you're doing x

 

[anjelikaferrett]

I had bit of a distressing incident at work earlier.Basically i was just doing my job, but a customer completely flipped out and behaved in a very threatening manner towards me.I was a bit shook up about the incident, and i still am to be honest.Most people i deal with are fine, but i do find dealing with customers, who behave in an abusive manner towards me to be very stressful and upsetting.Although having said that, i never experienced anything as bad as what happened today.

He wanted to buy an item priced at a fiver for three euros.I politely told him that im sorry, the store policy is that items can only be sold for the stated price on the sticker.The guy eventually left after launching a tirade of threats and abuse at me.Im worried if this fella is going to come back, and give me more grief.But look i suppose dealing with rude and abusive customers is just part and parcel of the job.

You don't have to deal with a rude and abusive customer. If he comes back and kicks off tell him very politely that you are not prepared to serve him while he is being so aggressive. If he doesn't comply, press your button and ask him to leave. I'd give your manager a heads up on what happened today if you haven't already.

 

[GwladysBlue]

You've made me cry - but happy crying. Wise words and I'm so happy for you. Keep on doing what you're doing x

Thank you x

 

[FC sexy xxx]

There’s a good podcast out
about physcopathy and how
It effects everyone and mainly sportsman and what makes them tick . It’s not a negative wat of looking at it but it’s given me soon good hints and tips and dealing with life . The physiologist is Kevin Dutton on ‘the edge ‘ podcast the downside for some will be joey Barton presenting it but he comes across very well . Worth a listen .

 

[JelavicBrate2]

Thinking about moving back to Bosnia to land of my ancestors it feels like all that my parents came here for no longer exists, the lack of interest in what religion/ race you are are or not. In some ways I'd rather be poor and live in a society where people know the errors of tribalism, to which a society that naively boasts it. Anyone from Ireland the Middle east or Eastern
Europe will understand. The only thing I love about my current home that is good is Everton, the fans the people and the beautiful city of Liverpool. Now we're a mess and the club are destroying ourselves which makes it different. I'm physically and emotionally a mess, I feel I no longer belong in Liverpool, where I was born or the Balkans where my parents come from. I have physical health problems that bring my life to a pathetic standstill no matter what I do. Due to my parents awful experiences I have felt a natural pessimism that can't leave me. Everton was one of the few things that kept me away to pessimism now I'm just brought back.

 

[COYBL25]

Thinking about moving back to Bosnia to land of my ancestors it feels like all that my parents came here for no longer exists, the lack of interest in what religion/ race you are are or not. In some ways I'd rather be poor and live in a society where people know the errors of tribalism, to which a society that naively boasts it. Anyone from Ireland the Middle east or Eastern
Europe will understand. The only thing I love about my current home that is good is Everton, the fans the people and the beautiful city of Liverpool. Now we're a mess and the club are destroying ourselves which makes it different. I'm physically and emotionally a mess, I feel I no longer belong in Liverpool, where I was born or the Balkans where my parents come from. I have physical health problems that bring my life to a pathetic standstill no matter what I do. Due to my parents awful experiences I have felt a natural pessimism that can't leave me. Everton was one of the few things that kept me away to pessimism now I'm just brought back.

Feeling any better today mate ?

 

[Armaghtoffee]

Thinking about moving back to Bosnia to land of my ancestors it feels like all that my parents came here for no longer exists, the lack of interest in what religion/ race you are are or not. In some ways I'd rather be poor and live in a society where people know the errors of tribalism, to which a society that naively boasts it. Anyone from Ireland the Middle east or Eastern
Europe will understand. The only thing I love about my current home that is good is Everton, the fans the people and the beautiful city of Liverpool. Now we're a mess and the club are destroying ourselves which makes it different. I'm physically and emotionally a mess, I feel I no longer belong in Liverpool, where I was born or the Balkans where my parents come from. I have physical health problems that bring my life to a pathetic standstill no matter what I do. Due to my parents awful experiences I have felt a natural pessimism that can't leave me. Everton was one of the few things that kept me away to pessimism now I'm just brought back.

You have to settle where you feel you belong. Everyone needs home, somewhere you can just go and close the door and be the real you.

Your heart is telling you that Liverpool isn’t it and I always say trust your gut instinct. Go where you will feel safe and happy.

 

[JelavicBrate2]

Feeling any better today mate ?

Yes like a bit, it was having mates and people I mix with constantly arguing about religion and politics and nationalism constantly which doesn't really make you feel optimistic about the world. Muslims do this Catholics do this and so on and so forth, I think I'll just stay away from certain people and not bothering reading newspapers. I just feel a lot of this tribal politics and religious bigotry has no place in modern society. I'll keep my head out of this and mix with more positive influences now for the remaining future.

 

[COYBL25]

Yes like a bit, it was having mates and people I mix with constantly arguing about religion and politics and nationalism constantly which doesn't really make you feel optimistic about the world. Muslims do this Catholics do this and so on and so forth, I think I'll just stay away from certain people and not bothering reading newspapers. I just feel a lot of this tribal politics and religious bigotry has no place in modern society. I'll keep my head out of this and mix with more positive influences now for the remaining future.

I agree mate.

If you took religion and politics out of the world, it`d be a much better place.

 

[EFCPaul]

Made a major step forward the past week or so. Saw a clairvoyant who made me feel a lot better about myself and my future going forward. Also learnt some things about people who've occupied my headspace for months now that makes me view them in a much different light.

Life isn't perfect at the moment but it could be a lot worse. I just have a hard time realiing that sometimes. If anyone ever needs to talk I'm here.

 

[efcforever]

Made a major step forward the past week or so. Saw a clairvoyant who made me feel a lot better about myself and my future going forward. Also learnt some things about people who've occupied my headspace for months now that makes me view them in a much different light.

Life isn't perfect at the moment but it could be a lot worse. I just have a hard time realiing that sometimes. If anyone ever needs to talk I'm here.

Good stuff mate. Things going any better at work?