Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Billy Dean]

I`m ginger and grey, console yourself with that thought mate lol

I'm part ginger (probably chestnut or african sunset), going grey, and going bald. There's always someone worse off

 

[This is my name]

Welcome mate, I`m sure many people can identify with what you`ve posted there.

Have you considered herbal stuff as an alternative to anti depressants ?

If you combine them with the gym, they`ll help your mood.

Cutting caffeine and ale to a minimum helps too.

Don`t be scared of CBT etc, as I always found the first session and getting there for it, the hardest.

Once you`ve got the first one under your belt, you`ll fell like a weight has been lifted.

You`ll be taught coping strategies and how to understand your condition.

There`s loads on here, inc me, that have had it / still having it.

It`s can be a big part of getting well again mate.

Haven’t looked into any of the herbal stuff, I’ll have a look into that now.

Yeahhh when I had me little break down me mate was basically saying to me to get on the cbt, think that’s probably the next best realistic option I have at the moment. It is just getting there. Once I’m there I’m sure it’ll just flow but it’s building up to being there.

Nice one mate, I appreciate the advice like

 

[efcforever]

Alright lads. How’s it going?

Heads abit scatty here. Last couple of years have been the worst of my life. Lost me best mate then a couple months after ended up splitting with me then Mrs. Had to try and learn how to cope by myself and it’s been difficult but I’ve been managing it on and off ok. Works a nightmare (I’m a nurse), not really appreciated for the work I do in the most part (mainly by other staff and hierarchy, patients appreciate what I do). Feel trapped where I am with no chance of any kind of progression. Finally started seeing a bird recently for the first time properly since my ex and that’s sending me head west. Just feel horrible. My brain feels like a cloud and I can’t grasp any of the problems in it to try to iron them out and think logically. Just had a massive kick off with me mate and ended up breaking down crying. It weren’t their fault but I’m just so frustrated and lost.

I have no idea what to do. I’ve started gymming again recently and that’s been helping my mood. I have a neurological disorder so I can’t really take antidepressants, the only option for help is talking therapies and the idea of having to actually articulate the last few years to a stranger in person without collapsing terrifies me. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know where to turn. It makes me feel guilty seeing other people with much worse problems coping so much better than I am. It makes me feel so weak. Any ideas or help would be appreciated.

Think watching us this seasons genuinely hasn’t helped haha

No need to feel guilty mate. Everyone's problems are relevant. Just because others seem to be coping well on the surface, you don't know what they're like in private.

I had counselling for my anxiety last year and it really helped. My counsellor helped me get to the route cause of my anxiety and recognise how distorted my thought process was.

There's also Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). I've not been down that route but some lads on here have so I'm sure they would give you more details.

I'd suggest booking in with your GP to see what treatment they can offer you.

 

[This is my name]

No need to feel guilty mate. Everyone's problems are relevant. Just because others seem to be coping well on the surface, you don't know what they're like in private.

I had counselling for my anxiety last year and it really helped. My counsellor helped me get to the route cause of my anxiety and recognise how distorted my thought process was.

There's also Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). I've not been down that route but some lads on here have so I'm sure they would give you more details.

I'd suggest booking in with your GP to see what treatment they can offer you.

Yeahhh I know. I think on the surface I probably appear to be handling everything ok, only a couple of people actually know how I really am. Still feel incredibly illogical about everything which I hate, don’t trust me own thought processes like

I will do, working til Monday now so first thing Monday morning I’ll Bell them, nice one man

 

[COYBL25]

Haven’t looked into any of the herbal stuff, I’ll have a look into that now.

Yeahhh when I had me little break down me mate was basically saying to me to get on the cbt, think that’s probably the next best realistic option I have at the moment. It is just getting there. Once I’m there I’m sure it’ll just flow but it’s building up to being there.

Nice one mate, I appreciate the advice like

Look at this way, you`re head can break, same as any other part of your body, but for some reason there`s a perceived perception of weakness attached to it.

Thankfully, the world has moved on mate, there`s nothing to be sacred off.

 

[efcforever]

Yeahhh I know. I think on the surface I probably appear to be handling everything ok, only a couple of people actually know how I really am. Still feel incredibly illogical about everything which I hate, don’t trust me own thought processes like

I will do, working til Monday now so first thing Monday morning I’ll Bell them, nice one man

I know how it feels to not trust your own thoughts. It helps if you have someone who you trust to talk to.

Keep us updated.

 

[efcforever]

Hi everyone. I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but don't really have anywhere else to turn at the moment.

My wife have birth to our 2nd child on Wednesday night, it was a difficult birth as she has the flu at the time. It was all made slightly more complicated by the fact that my daughter (2 years old) has has been unwell aswell.

Any way everyone is back at home now and I just feel completely overwhelmed. I'm doing everything I need to do, night time feeds, caring for wife and daughter and bits around the house but I can't get my head straight.

I feel as though I should be overcome with joy and the fact that I'm not makes me a bad dad. I was just wondering if anyone else had similar feelings after the birth of a child.

 

[COYBL25]

Hi everyone. I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but don't really have anywhere else to turn at the moment.

My wife have birth to our 2nd child on Wednesday night, it was a difficult birth as she has the flu at the time. It was all made slightly more complicated by the fact that my daughter (2 years old) has has been unwell aswell.

Any way everyone is back at home now and I just feel completely overwhelmed. I'm doing everything I need to do, night time feeds, caring for wife and daughter and bits around the house but I can't get my head straight.

I feel as though I should be overcome with joy and the fact that I'm not makes me a bad dad. I was just wondering if anyone else had similar feelings after the birth of a child.

You`re on auto pilot at the mo mate, with having to do everything.

Once everything settles down, you`ll get the "new dad " buzz.

Congrats and make sure she`s a blue

 

[efcforever]

You`re on auto pilot at the mo mate, with having to do everything.

Once everything settles down, you`ll get the "new dad " buzz.

Congrats and make sure she`s a blue

Thanks mate.

Don't think I mentioned that the new baby is a boy. He already is a blue (poor lad). He was in an Everton baby grow straight after he was born.

 

[roydo]

Hi everyone. I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but don't really have anywhere else to turn at the moment.

My wife have birth to our 2nd child on Wednesday night, it was a difficult birth as she has the flu at the time. It was all made slightly more complicated by the fact that my daughter (2 years old) has has been unwell aswell.

Any way everyone is back at home now and I just feel completely overwhelmed. I'm doing everything I need to do, night time feeds, caring for wife and daughter and bits around the house but I can't get my head straight.

I feel as though I should be overcome with joy and the fact that I'm not makes me a bad dad. I was just wondering if anyone else had similar feelings after the birth of a child.

100% same with me. It was a chore, a bind, and bloody tiring. But also non negotiable.

A few days mate, and things will look very different.

 

[COYBL25]

Thanks mate.

Don't think I mentioned that the new baby is a boy. He already is a blue (poor lad). He was in an Everton baby grow straight after he was born.

Oops sorry.

I had the same with both of my kids, one of whom had a long stay after birth, due to being prem and other complications.

The house looked like a rats nest, but we survived

 

[efcforever]

100% same with me. It was a chore, a bind, and bloody tiring. But also non negotiable.

A few days mate, and things will look very different.

Oops sorry.

I had the same with both of my kids, one of whom had a long stay after birth, due to being prem and other complications.

The house looked like a rats nest, but we survived

Thanks guys. I really needed to hear this from another dad.

I've just got to keep going. Today is only the 2nd full day of everyone being back home so I'm sure things will settle down soon.

 

[COYBL25]

Thanks guys. I really needed to hear this from another dad.

I've just got to keep going. Today is only the 2nd full day of everyone being back home so I'm sure things will settle down soon.

Just try and prioritise what matters and what doesn`t.

Food, milk etc in the fridge - check.
Clean clothes for your 2 yr old. - check.
Nappies ( if needed ) - check.
Petty cash - check.

You can catch up on everything else, inc you`re own personal hygiene and sleep

 

[monty]

Hi everyone. I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but don't really have anywhere else to turn at the moment.

My wife have birth to our 2nd child on Wednesday night, it was a difficult birth as she has the flu at the time. It was all made slightly more complicated by the fact that my daughter (2 years old) has has been unwell aswell.

Any way everyone is back at home now and I just feel completely overwhelmed. I'm doing everything I need to do, night time feeds, caring for wife and daughter and bits around the house but I can't get my head straight.

I feel as though I should be overcome with joy and the fact that I'm not makes me a bad dad. I was just wondering if anyone else had similar feelings after the birth of a child.

The very fact that you have asked for help and advice means you're a good dad because you don't want to fail at a crucial time some would simply go down the pub. Congratulations on your recent addition by the way.

 

[Groucho]

Hi everyone. I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but don't really have anywhere else to turn at the moment.

My wife have birth to our 2nd child on Wednesday night, it was a difficult birth as she has the flu at the time. It was all made slightly more complicated by the fact that my daughter (2 years old) has has been unwell aswell.

Any way everyone is back at home now and I just feel completely overwhelmed. I'm doing everything I need to do, night time feeds, caring for wife and daughter and bits around the house but I can't get my head straight.

I feel as though I should be overcome with joy and the fact that I'm not makes me a bad dad. I was just wondering if anyone else had similar feelings after the birth of a child.

I’ve two myself.

A wonderful but mighty stressful time at the best of times.