Tim's tourettes
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Found a podcast called anxiety slayer. Worth checking out for those with anxiety. Some of it is very 'hippy' like but I found some really useful.
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Yeah mate things have stabilised for the most part. Me and the woman who I had problems with now have squashed our beef, we're civil towards each other now and leave each other alone mostly. That's as best as the situation will ever get and I'm fine with that.
In my personal life I've been mostly just living day to day, nothing out of the ordinary has happened other than me going to see a clairvoyant who gave me some reassuring advice about my life and anxieties and possible future. It was really emotional and I cried at what she told me and came away feeling much better and optimistic about myself going forwards.
The other night when I posted I was out for a drink with my mate, my first in a few weeks, and ended up finding out a few things that sent my head spinning. We went to one of our usual watering-holes and my mate ended up teasing me about the bar girl I have long fancied who works there. Without sounding like a pathetic love-struck teenager, I've wanted to ask this girl out for AGES but have never found the courage or circumstance to do it. Every time I interact with her I've gotten mixed signals which have played havoc with my head, certain people in this thread know all about this saga. After chatting to the clairvoyant lady I decided to draw a line under things and put this fantasy to bed.
Anyway, the other night my mate in the midst of his good-natured teasing, he gets his phone out and shows me this girl's Facebook profile which I'd never found. I looked at it and I was shocked by it and not in a good way. People can put whatever they want on their own social media, it's their business and their life. My point though is the stuff she's got on hers, let's say in the nicest possible way, has definitely put me well off. It really opened my eyes to the type of person she most likely is in reality, not the angel I moronically and naively convinced myself she was without even knowing her properly. It blew my mind and because if I'd known this stuff earlier I'd have saved myself months worth of horrible anxiety.
Now I just feel like a complete idiot for being so caught up in something so ridiculous. At the same time though I also feel a huge wave of relief that, in my own messed up head, this whole thing has actually reached a firm conclusion. I can crack on knowing this won't ever take up my head space going forward like it has so often over the past while. It's been a very valuable lesson I will grow from and get wiser because of.
Yeah mate things have stabilised for the most part. Me and the woman who I had problems with now have squashed our beef, we're civil towards each other now and leave each other alone mostly. That's as best as the situation will ever get and I'm fine with that.
In my personal life I've been mostly just living day to day, nothing out of the ordinary has happened other than me going to see a clairvoyant who gave me some reassuring advice about my life and anxieties and possible future. It was really emotional and I cried at what she told me and came away feeling much better and optimistic about myself going forwards.
The other night when I posted I was out for a drink with my mate, my first in a few weeks, and ended up finding out a few things that sent my head spinning. We went to one of our usual watering-holes and my mate ended up teasing me about the bar girl I have long fancied who works there. Without sounding like a pathetic love-struck teenager, I've wanted to ask this girl out for AGES but have never found the courage or circumstance to do it. Every time I interact with her I've gotten mixed signals which have played havoc with my head, certain people in this thread know all about this saga. After chatting to the clairvoyant lady I decided to draw a line under things and put this fantasy to bed.
Anyway, the other night my mate in the midst of his good-natured teasing, he gets his phone out and shows me this girl's Facebook profile which I'd never found. I looked at it and I was shocked by it and not in a good way. People can put whatever they want on their own social media, it's their business and their life. My point though is the stuff she's got on hers, let's say in the nicest possible way, has definitely put me well off. It really opened my eyes to the type of person she most likely is in reality, not the angel I moronically and naively convinced myself she was without even knowing her properly. It blew my mind and because if I'd known this stuff earlier I'd have saved myself months worth of horrible anxiety.
Now I just feel like a complete idiot for being so caught up in something so ridiculous. At the same time though I also feel a huge wave of relief that, in my own messed up head, this whole thing has actually reached a firm conclusion. I can crack on knowing this won't ever take up my head space going forward like it has so often over the past while. It's been a very valuable lesson I will grow from and get wiser because of.
Looking from the outside in mate, I`d say that by the sounds of it you`ve dodged a massive load of potential trouble with that girl.
Imagine if you did start seeing her, what she`d have done to your head.
It wasn`t a fantasy mate, you fancied her, there`s a big difference.
Nothing there to feel to feel ashamed of from what I can see.
Just stuff you have to learn from I suppose, I'm annoyed myself for devoting so much of my headspace to something like that and then realising how naive it was to make so many assumptions about someone's character whom I didn't know all that well. I don't mean to sound horrible at all but my reaction really was "whoooooooa now" when I read it, the sort of thing I definitely don't find endearing. Oh well, on we plough.
efcforever
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Glad that you've put her behind you mate. It was unfair of her to send you mixed signals but at least you won't be suseptible to it now.
NCLBlue
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Please keep my sister in your thoughts blues.
Diagnosed her with cervical cancer today and I feel sick and lost and helpless. Early stages but honestly no idea what the future will hold should find out more after monday.
Please encourage your female family and friends to go to smear tests it really can save lives.
Diagnosed her with cervical cancer today and I feel sick and lost and helpless. Early stages but honestly no idea what the future will hold should find out more after monday.
Please encourage your female family and friends to go to smear tests it really can save lives.
FC sexy xxx
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Sorry to hear that mate hopefully she can fight it .
JelavicBrate2
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Feeling low got nothing to think positively to think about, I think about my grandad, when my belly was full of Sarma and Burek and had something to look forward to visit in the summer. I have nothing but pain now, nothing but hatred from my parents, I feel that I'm always in trouble. I got nothing but gin for my troubles, I probably need to save money to move back to my parents homeland, but I feel unwelcome everywhere. I'm going the Man City match in the last day of march, just feel my life is , just one ong list of miseries,
Billy Dean
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Sorry to hear that mate, sending my best wishes.
This 100%. Please talk to the ladies in your life about this subject.
So sorry about your sister. Sending her good wishes.
Found my first white/grey hairs earlier on and I'm only 24 on this Monday coming. One thing people always say to me if I confess my anxieties is that I'm still so young and shouldn't worry so much about the future because I've got my whole life ahead of me. Seeing those today really put me on a bit of a downer, it's like "not only do you feel old but now you're even going to start looking it as well". Oh well, I cut it out and will just have to stop they don't coming thick and fast any time soon. That would be a nightmare.
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FC sexy xxx
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mate I’m fat bald and going grey with more health problems than I can be arsed to list , I’m only mid 30’s. Don’t worry about it .
I`m ginger and grey, console yourself with that thought mate lol
This is my name
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Alright lads. How’s it going?
Heads abit scatty here. Last couple of years have been the worst of my life. Lost me best mate then a couple months after ended up splitting with me then Mrs. Had to try and learn how to cope by myself and it’s been difficult but I’ve been managing it on and off ok. Works a nightmare (I’m a nurse), not really appreciated for the work I do in the most part (mainly by other staff and hierarchy, patients appreciate what I do). Feel trapped where I am with no chance of any kind of progression. Finally started seeing a bird recently for the first time properly since my ex and that’s sending me head west. Just feel horrible. My brain feels like a cloud and I can’t grasp any of the problems in it to try to iron them out and think logically. Just had a massive kick off with me mate and ended up breaking down crying. It weren’t their fault but I’m just so frustrated and lost.
I have no idea what to do. I’ve started gymming again recently and that’s been helping my mood. I have a neurological disorder so I can’t really take antidepressants, the only option for help is talking therapies and the idea of having to actually articulate the last few years to a stranger in person without collapsing terrifies me. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know where to turn. It makes me feel guilty seeing other people with much worse problems coping so much better than I am. It makes me feel so weak. Any ideas or help would be appreciated.
Think watching us this seasons genuinely hasn’t helped haha
Heads abit scatty here. Last couple of years have been the worst of my life. Lost me best mate then a couple months after ended up splitting with me then Mrs. Had to try and learn how to cope by myself and it’s been difficult but I’ve been managing it on and off ok. Works a nightmare (I’m a nurse), not really appreciated for the work I do in the most part (mainly by other staff and hierarchy, patients appreciate what I do). Feel trapped where I am with no chance of any kind of progression. Finally started seeing a bird recently for the first time properly since my ex and that’s sending me head west. Just feel horrible. My brain feels like a cloud and I can’t grasp any of the problems in it to try to iron them out and think logically. Just had a massive kick off with me mate and ended up breaking down crying. It weren’t their fault but I’m just so frustrated and lost.
I have no idea what to do. I’ve started gymming again recently and that’s been helping my mood. I have a neurological disorder so I can’t really take antidepressants, the only option for help is talking therapies and the idea of having to actually articulate the last few years to a stranger in person without collapsing terrifies me. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know where to turn. It makes me feel guilty seeing other people with much worse problems coping so much better than I am. It makes me feel so weak. Any ideas or help would be appreciated.
Think watching us this seasons genuinely hasn’t helped haha
Welcome mate, I`m sure many people can identify with what you`ve posted there.
Have you considered herbal stuff as an alternative to anti depressants ?
If you combine them with the gym, they`ll help your mood.
Cutting caffeine and ale to a minimum helps too.
Don`t be scared of CBT etc, as I always found the first session and getting there for it, the hardest.
Once you`ve got the first one under your belt, you`ll fell like a weight has been lifted.
You`ll be taught coping strategies and how to understand your condition.
There`s loads on here, inc me, that have had it / still having it.
It`s can be a big part of getting well again mate.