Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[blue to the bone]

Have you suffered with depression in the past mate ?

What you`re describing there ticks a lot of the boxes.

I posted here around Christmas that I was struggling. But it improved a bit then. It comes at me in waves. But I havent spoke to a professional about it so haven't been diagnosed with anything..
There are days Id be as happy not to leave the house. But then when I'm at home alone it feels worse.

 

[COYBL25]

I posted here around Christmas that I was struggling. But it improved a bit then. It comes at me in waves. But I havent spoke to a professional about it so haven't been diagnosed with anything..
There are days Id be as happy not to leave the house. But then when I'm at home alone it feels worse.

My advice would be to go and see you`re GP asap mate.

Every single person who suffers with / who has suffered depression, has felt like this at some point.

The very real danger is that you isolate yourself completely and just stop going out altogether, inc work or you start drinking to take those feelings away, which just makes it so much worse.

100% go and see your GP mate and I`d say that you`ll be started on antidepressants.

They aren`t a panacea, but they`ll help "reset" your brain and get you through the worst of it.

 

[blue to the bone]

My advice would be to go and see you`re GP asap mate.

Every single person who suffers with / who has suffered depression, has felt like this at some point.

The very real danger is that you isolate yourself completely and just stop going out altogether, inc work or you start drinking to take those feelings away, which just makes it so much worse.

100% go and see your GP mate and I`d say that you`ll be started on antidepressants.

They aren`t a panacea, but they`ll help "reset" your brain and get you through the worst of it.

Cheers mate . Ya could see myself gettin more isolated all right Thoughts of getting up at 5 for work tomorrow are not helping. The drink bit is something I wont turn to though I think

 

[COYBL25]

Cheers mate . Ya could see myself gettin more isolated all right Thoughts of getting up at 5 for work tomorrow are not helping. The drink bit is something I wont turn to though I think

Sounds mad, but my dog got me through the worst bits, as she had to be walked every day, regardless of how bad I was feeling.

I`d have days when I would deliberately avoid other people, if I was bad, but I still went out with her.

Plus my best mate dragged me to the pub once a week, whether I liked it or not.

I know you`re probably shattered with getting up early, but exercise really helps lift your mood - it plays a big part in managing my own anxiety / depression now.

 

[BiggyRat]

Sorry folks, been absent from this thread for a while.

Just thought I'd update you all on how my Daughter is going. Some may recall she had some massive anxiety issues previously, but I'd like to share where she's at right now. A few weeks back she started at University. I have to be honest & admit I was dreading it. I was preparing myself for the possibility of 'the worst case scenario', but I couldn't have been any further from the truth. She's loving it!

The best part of all this for me is that whilst she sought professional help & got an excellent Psychiatrist on side, deciding her future path was all down to her. She was realistic about her abilities & looked at courses of interest to her that fell within an attainable mark. So, you can imagine how proud & relieved I was when she returned home from that first day beaming! She'd literally done it herself!

Now, I don't post this lightly, and by no means do I intend this as boasting or gloating, but when you are holding your child in your arms as she's having difficulty breathing through stress & anxiety...and wondering how much longer the Ambulance will be...then it's quite a stark contrast to how proud I was that day.

The point is, that she forged her own path, well within her own limitations and has come out the other side. Yes, she got professional support but they dotted the 'i's for her & helped her cross the 't's, to the point that she could take charge. I urge any of you reading this that it can be overcome. You can do it! But you don't have to do it alone....

 

[efcforever]

Sorry folks, been absent from this thread for a while.

Just thought I'd update you all on how my Daughter is going. Some may recall she had some massive anxiety issues previously, but I'd like to share where she's at right now. A few weeks back she started at University. I have to be honest & admit I was dreading it. I was preparing myself for the possibility of 'the worst case scenario', but I couldn't have been any further from the truth. She's loving it!

The best part of all this for me is that whilst she sought professional help & got an excellent Psychiatrist on side, deciding her future path was all down to her. She was realistic about her abilities & looked at courses of interest to her that fell within an attainable mark. So, you can imagine how proud & relieved I was when she returned home from that first day beaming! She'd literally done it herself!

Now, I don't post this lightly, and by no means do I intend this as boasting or gloating, but when you are holding your child in your arms as she's having difficulty breathing through stress & anxiety...and wondering how much longer the Ambulance will be...then it's quite a stark contrast to how proud I was that day.

The point is, that she forged her own path, well within her own limitations and has come out the other side. Yes, she got professional support but they dotted the 'i's for her & helped her cross the 't's, to the point that she could take charge. I urge any of you reading this that it can be overcome. You can do it! But you don't have to do it alone....

Glad to read this mate. Can't imagine how it must've felt to see your daughter that upset and unwell.

Great that she's doing well now .

 

[COYBL25]

Sorry folks, been absent from this thread for a while.

Just thought I'd update you all on how my Daughter is going. Some may recall she had some massive anxiety issues previously, but I'd like to share where she's at right now. A few weeks back she started at University. I have to be honest & admit I was dreading it. I was preparing myself for the possibility of 'the worst case scenario', but I couldn't have been any further from the truth. She's loving it!

The best part of all this for me is that whilst she sought professional help & got an excellent Psychiatrist on side, deciding her future path was all down to her. She was realistic about her abilities & looked at courses of interest to her that fell within an attainable mark. So, you can imagine how proud & relieved I was when she returned home from that first day beaming! She'd literally done it herself!

Now, I don't post this lightly, and by no means do I intend this as boasting or gloating, but when you are holding your child in your arms as she's having difficulty breathing through stress & anxiety...and wondering how much longer the Ambulance will be...then it's quite a stark contrast to how proud I was that day.

The point is, that she forged her own path, well within her own limitations and has come out the other side. Yes, she got professional support but they dotted the 'i's for her & helped her cross the 't's, to the point that she could take charge. I urge any of you reading this that it can be overcome. You can do it! But you don't have to do it alone....

Fantastic news mate

 

[blue to the bone]

Booked an appointment with my gp. Not until Friday but even Doin that was a big step.
Now my worry is work.. Its a new job but not one that pays great. Its very early starts and a lot of info to take on. I'm just not certain I could do it at the moment. I slept only about 3 hours last night. It isn't helping me with my problems

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Sorry folks, been absent from this thread for a while.

Just thought I'd update you all on how my Daughter is going. Some may recall she had some massive anxiety issues previously, but I'd like to share where she's at right now. A few weeks back she started at University. I have to be honest & admit I was dreading it. I was preparing myself for the possibility of 'the worst case scenario', but I couldn't have been any further from the truth. She's loving it!

The best part of all this for me is that whilst she sought professional help & got an excellent Psychiatrist on side, deciding her future path was all down to her. She was realistic about her abilities & looked at courses of interest to her that fell within an attainable mark. So, you can imagine how proud & relieved I was when she returned home from that first day beaming! She'd literally done it herself!

Now, I don't post this lightly, and by no means do I intend this as boasting or gloating, but when you are holding your child in your arms as she's having difficulty breathing through stress & anxiety...and wondering how much longer the Ambulance will be...then it's quite a stark contrast to how proud I was that day.

The point is, that she forged her own path, well within her own limitations and has come out the other side. Yes, she got professional support but they dotted the 'i's for her & helped her cross the 't's, to the point that she could take charge. I urge any of you reading this that it can be overcome. You can do it! But you don't have to do it alone....

That's great to hear. So happy for you and your daughter x

 

[efcforever]

Booked an appointment with my gp. Not until Friday but even Doin that was a big step.
Now my worry is work.. Its a new job but not one that pays great. Its very early starts and a lot of info to take on. I'm just not certain I could do it at the moment. I slept only about 3 hours last night. It isn't helping me with my problems

It's never easy to start a new job mate but if your not sleeping that will be a difficult combination. Be sure to tell the GP that your not sleeping as it's all relevant.

With the job, I guess you've got to give it time but no harm in keeping an eye out for what else is available. It's bound to get easier as time goes on and your probably doing alot better than you think.

 

[blue to the bone]

It's never easy to start a new job mate but if your not sleeping that will be a difficult combination. Be sure to tell the GP that your not sleeping as it's all relevant.

With the job, I guess you've got to give it time but no harm in keeping an eye out for what else is available. It's bound to get easier as time goes on and your probably doing alot better than you think.

Cheers. The work itself is OK. It's just it means early starts and weekends a lot Means I miss out on stuff that makes me some what happy. And afraid that will only lead to me be unhappy again

 

[efcforever]

Cheers. The work itself is OK. It's just it means early starts and weekends a lot Means I miss out on stuff that makes me some what happy. And afraid that will only lead to me be unhappy again

I was in a job about 10 years ago that made me unhappy. Stuck it out for 3 years before finding something that I liked. Getting out of that place was one of the best things I ever did.

I'm sure you'll feel a bit better in a few weeks. The GP will probably put you on a starting dose of anti-depressant. They will take a few weeks before they start to help so bare with them.

Keep posting mate.

 

[blue to the bone]

I was in a job about 10 years ago that made me unhappy. Stuck it out for 3 years before finding something that I liked. Getting out of that place was one of the best things I ever did.

I'm sure you'll feel a bit better in a few weeks. The GP will probably put you on a starting dose of anti-depressant. They will take a few weeks before they start to help so bare with them.

Keep posting mate.

Cheers mate. Money isn't an issue. As in it don't motivate me. I'll see what the fix says tomorrow and update then

 

[matchworks]

Cheers. The work itself is OK. It's just it means early starts and weekends a lot Means I miss out on stuff that makes me some what happy. And afraid that will only lead to me be unhappy again

Your last line is what I went through. Worrying about things that may never happen had me twisted. My counsellor said to see what happens when it happens. Retraining the brain and seeing the signs coming will help you. Hopefully when you get counselling it will be explained to you.

 

[COYBL25]

Booked an appointment with my gp. Not until Friday but even Doin that was a big step.
Now my worry is work.. Its a new job but not one that pays great. Its very early starts and a lot of info to take on. I'm just not certain I could do it at the moment. I slept only about 3 hours last night. It isn't helping me with my problems

Well done mate, that`s the first step to getting yourself better.

Be honest with your GP and don`t be ashamed to tell him / her anything, as the more info they`ve got, the more they can help you.

As @efcforever says, you`ll probably put on a starting dose of anti depressants.

They usually take 2/3 wks to kick in, so don`t be thinking that they`ll work immediately.

The first sign that they`re working, is that all of a sudden it`ll dawn on you, that you`re feeling normal - something that you`ve probably forgotten what it feels like !

Anti depressants can be hit and miss - what may work for me, may not work for you, so it may take a bit of time getting it right.

But keep at it